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If you want to COMPOUND someone’s suffering,doubt them.
Yet,there are pathological liars out there.
So how do you know when to believe a sad tale?
It is really terrible to share an authentic tale of woe and not be believed.
Aside from HIRING Shlomo Hamelech,what can be done?
Chazal say “Words of truth are recognizable”.
Yet,some CON-ARTISTS disguise baloney stories so well,THEY END UP BEING BELIEVED OVER THE ONE TELLING THE 100% TRUTH.
Is there any solution?
Eclips: It is really difficult. I’ve learnt to be selective with whom you share what. It may not be healthy to keep all things bottled up but opening to the wrong person is worse.
Try a little Tehilim. Try saying the yomi with an artscroll interlinear, without a kabalah. When we see and feel what Dovid went through, sometimes we relate to it very well, especially how he was slandered and vilified. Try it, unrushed without a kabalah- say bl”n. Its the best therapy out there
No, one must show compassion to all, yet one must be reasonable and not loose their head. So there is a way that we are taught to deal with things. If someone is looking for money, you don’t have to throw money at them. You can say “I must think this through, please leave me your name and your phone number and I will get back to you” or “my Rav has instructed me to check out each story with him to understand how to help each person appropriately”.
I have offered to help people find jobs or take courses in order to find jobs and they never called me back.
My very trusting parents, O”H, were conned by a very clever young man, who used his acquaintanceship with my brother, to talk them out of a few hundred dolalrs. His story was extremely smooth and convincing. I ,yself was worried about his situation, based on what we were told. But he was a liar, through and through.
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