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Scary that it has to be stated but it does. THE COFFEE ROOM IS NOT A REPLACEMENT FOR A RAV, MENTOR, THERAPIST, OR POSEIK!!!!!!!!
If you have a serious life question like what to do in your marriage or about a shidduch or what Yeshiva or Beis Yakov or Seminary to go to or what school to send your kids to or similar life questions do not take the opinions of the members of the coffee room as final and act on them. We do not know you well enough to advise you (even those of us who are capable of giving thought out advice).
The coffee room is here for discussion. All final decisions should be made after speaking to a capable Rav advisor or poseik (especially with regards to complex Halacha questions).
I have wondered about this a couple of times before. Are there ppl that really go by the advice that they are given here solely? that sounds freaky. but I think this is a good place to come and vent without anyone knowing how you are and judging you. you get lots of different peoples opinions and advice and can hear from lots of sources and opinions but dont use their advice to make a life decision.
or medical doctor.
I highly doubt anyone comes here soley for advice. I think ppl or at least myself come here for entertainment.
I don’t believe it. You mean the advise and Halacha wasn’t authoritative? I always acted as posted. You know, like in a heated conversation (to put it mildly, rant or storm is the real word), one side says yes- do it, so I ran and did it. Then the other side comes swinging no- don’t do it, so I ran and undid it. Then the first side come back full force (foaming), of course do it, so back I ran and redid it. Came back here to read the retort…
Most posters who have serious inquiries here, don’t necessarily rely on the advice given here.
They just ask for conversation purposes, and to perhaps get some ideas on their situation.
Sometimes, posters want to confirm that their problem is really so serious, or hear from others who are in a similar situation.
well sometimes people feel isolated and depressed, too desolate to even turn to Rabbonim or a Rav. This way, in their own little deserted worlds they can reach out to other yiddisher neshamas, who have advice, or a gift of compassion in words.
But I agree, that the best course of action would be to ask your rav, or dayan for advice
Yes I am for real. I weigh 600 kilos which works out to over 1300 pounds. I live in Alaska and I work three jobs and get triple food stamps to keep myself well fed. I have thick, white fur and huge paws with sharp claws.
ZeesKite, so right now, is your hat black or gray?
Look, it’s best to come to a Rav prepared and knowledgable about the issue. So you want to be able to tell him, “WIY holds I’m not allowed to, aries feels it’s not nice, PBA is threatening to throw me down the stairs, charliehall says my wife should do it, ItcheSrulik says he used to do it, Joseph yells I must do it, and Wolf wrote in a footnote that of course he wouldn’t do it. So, who do I follow?”
Kilo, do you live on an ice floe?
some advice- like chulent recipes (yum!) and the like i only trust a certified posek. for shidduchim and other life decisions i’ll generally rely on the coffee room.
WIY: I assume everyone knows not to rely on the CR as psak halacha, but I strongly object to those who try to close every Halacha thread shouting “ask your LOR”. Is the CR only to discuss naarishkeit??? I’m only interested in Halacha and Hashkafa
On a more sober note, there is a very usefull purpose of discussing Halacha and advice. You won’t ticke anyone’s word, but you can hear a good argument that will convince you.
Good thing you aren’t trying to offend anyone. 😉
I think people use the CR to vent, discuss and get advice. Not for a final word but as a suggestion. Its easier to get to the right solution with a group offering advice than just a few people, and sometimes people removed from (or those who don’t know) the situation can give better advice.
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