August 8, 2011 8:08 pm at 8:08 pm #795963☕️coffee addictParticipant
Danger Will Robinson, Danger!
this thread is sounding very dangerousAugust 8, 2011 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm #795964
I am not engaged so I cant understand but I can imagine that once I do get engaged I would have no interest in other guys anymore. I know the taava does not go away but if the BF was just filling a void you now have someone else to fill that and its real, not just two teens playing around. hes yours for the rest of your life.
WIY- it lasted one day dont worry. it happens to be that I just googled the guy and saw lots of sick, nasty things about him online. I can only imagine what type of person he REALLY is! I thank Hashem that I never had anything else to do with such a sick person. And I daven that he find the right help and satisfaction in life.August 8, 2011 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm #795965☕️coffee addictParticipant
You are playing around with the issur of aishes ish. One is supposed to allow themselves to be killed rather than committing adultery.
no she’s not, that’s if a guy is with a married girl
at the most it’s a cherem D’rabbeinu Gershom
i’m not advocating her doing it BTWAugust 8, 2011 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #795966HachamMember
WIY: How is adorable playing around with the issur of eishes ish?August 8, 2011 8:17 pm at 8:17 pm #795967
guys! I have nothing to do with this guy but you can still debate it.August 8, 2011 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm #795968HachamMember
I still don’t understand WIY’s comment that it involves eishes ish (since it is a case of an unmarried woman and married man.)August 8, 2011 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #795969WIYMember
You are right, its not wishes ish for the guy if the woman is single its cheirem rabbeinu gershom. Thank ryl for correcting me. But its still a despicable act and as she said she learned her lesson I would like to stop discussing this topic. Have an easy fast all.August 8, 2011 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm #795970tracht gutMember
Its just that ppl r scaring me saying that cuz i had a bf once it will be hard for me not to fall again.August 8, 2011 9:03 pm at 9:03 pm #795972
does your chosson know about your past with your bf? do u feel confident with your chosson or do you still wanna go back to ur BF (if you could and it would not be assur)August 8, 2011 9:19 pm at 9:19 pm #795973MiddlePathParticipant
tracht, it’s a shame how people can be so negative about things, and try to scare you about things you may have done in the past. I really get upset when people go off on things and say terrible stuff like “You’ll always be miserable, you’re going to burn, you’ll never be happy with your spouse,..” I don’t think that is a good attitude. I think- What’s done is done, and now, use that experience as a way to positively grow. Learn from mistakes and acknowledge them. Don’t hide from them. I’m sure you will be a wonderful wife, and I wish you and your future husband much happiness together.August 9, 2011 12:03 pm at 12:03 pm #795974jmj613Participant
tracht gut wird zein gut….why would you fall into something when youre about to build a solid relationship with a guy you choose to marry to?! good luck mazel tov and no doubt that everything will be goodAugust 9, 2011 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #795976tracht gutMember
Adorable: no he does not know anything about it. and i will never tell him! what difference does it make?August 9, 2011 6:50 pm at 6:50 pm #795977sheinMember
adorable, I just read the previous page of this thread, and I’m very concerned with your being friends with a married guy but excusing it that his wife is cheating too. This is very dangerous for both of you, and you should seek counsel from wiser people before you get deep into big trouble.August 9, 2011 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm #795978jmj613Participant
shein the only advice is to stop. if one can do it emotionally is another story.
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