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    My son right now is studying in Yeshiva in Eretz Yisroel. For one reason or another he has come to the conclusion that he wants to serve in the Israeli Army. His mother and I are trying to convince him out of it and trying to make him come back home to America. the same time, if he’d come home he’s planing on studying in secular college. should we let him stay in Israel and join the Army or bring him home and let him go to secular college



    from Long Island

    Personally, I would rather have a child in the Israeli army than in a secular college in the USA. (been there, done that)

    If you MAKE him do anything, he will resent you for the rest of your life.

    Some suggestions to make to him; university in Israel?

    Nachal Chareidi? Golani?

    Does he want to go into a Hesder program, or the “american program”?

    You need to find our which part of the army he wants to go into. That will give you some insight into his decision/path in life.


    B1g B0y

    Ask his Rosh Yeshiva or someone else who knows him well.


    Maybe suggest that he volunteers for the army for a shorter period of time, that way he can get a sense of what army life really is without making a committment.


    What’s better for your child – to be put through a Chinese torture chamber or to be waterboarded?


    I sense there are alot of backround details that we are not aware of….


    Will he be living on campus at this secular college or commuting from home?


    I feel he should go to secular college because by at least doing that he’ll be learning how to make a ????? which chazal tell us each person has a mitzvah to do as opposed to going to serving in the army which is complete apikorsis


    @Yeish_Meforshim, although you claim making a parnasah is a mitzvah, learning how to do so in a secular college (R’L) is surely a mitzvah Haba B’aveira!! @Nirah_Li, I heard about an institution in america that has a yeshiva and also offers a secular education. Perhaps look into that although it may not be hashkafically what your looking for, sound like its definitely your best option!

    hatzlcha rabba in bringing your son back on the derech!!

    YW Moderator-127


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