February 26, 2016 6:04 am at 6:04 am #617297Nirah_LiMember
My son right now is studying in Yeshiva in Eretz Yisroel. For one reason or another he has come to the conclusion that he wants to serve in the Israeli Army. His mother and I are trying to convince him out of it and trying to make him come back home to America. the same time, if he’d come home he’s planing on studying in secular college. should we let him stay in Israel and join the Army or bring him home and let him go to secular collegeFebruary 26, 2016 11:33 am at 11:33 am #1138835JosephParticipant
Neither.February 26, 2016 11:33 am at 11:33 am #1138836from Long IslandParticipant
Personally, I would rather have a child in the Israeli army than in a secular college in the USA. (been there, done that)
If you MAKE him do anything, he will resent you for the rest of your life.
Some suggestions to make to him; university in Israel?
Nachal Chareidi? Golani?
Does he want to go into a Hesder program, or the “american program”?
You need to find our which part of the army he wants to go into. That will give you some insight into his decision/path in life.
HatzlachaFebruary 26, 2016 11:50 am at 11:50 am #1138837B1g B0yParticipant
Ask his Rosh Yeshiva or someone else who knows him well.February 26, 2016 1:04 pm at 1:04 pm #1138839zahavasdadParticipant
Maybe suggest that he volunteers for the army for a shorter period of time, that way he can get a sense of what army life really is without making a committment.February 26, 2016 1:15 pm at 1:15 pm #1138840JosephParticipant
What’s better for your child – to be put through a Chinese torture chamber or to be waterboarded?February 26, 2016 2:38 pm at 2:38 pm #1138841Bored_on_the_JobParticipant
I sense there are alot of backround details that we are not aware of….February 26, 2016 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm #1138842mythoughtsParticipant
Will he be living on campus at this secular college or commuting from home?February 26, 2016 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm #1138844Yeish_MeforshimMember
I feel he should go to secular college because by at least doing that he’ll be learning how to make a ????? which chazal tell us each person has a mitzvah to do as opposed to going to serving in the army which is complete apikorsisFebruary 26, 2016 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #1138845MenOfTheWallMember
@Yeish_Meforshim, although you claim making a parnasah is a mitzvah, learning how to do so in a secular college (R’L) is surely a mitzvah Haba B’aveira!! @Nirah_Li, I heard about an institution in america that has a yeshiva and also offers a secular education. Perhaps look into that although it may not be hashkafically what your looking for, sound like its definitely your best option!
hatzlcha rabba in bringing your son back on the derech!!February 26, 2016 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #1138846YW Moderator-127Moderator
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