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    Are there any prayers I can say to I can find my Bashert faster? I’m finishing up college and there are no men in sight for me.


    “Hashem, please send me my zivug now. Thank you Hashem.”


    If you give more details about your situation, the people

    here will probably be more forthcoming with advice.


    Personal prayer is fine, plus tehillim like 121. Pray for others. Maybe give a little bit to Hachnassas kallah. Or help others in another way like sharing info about where to go for shadchans.

    Besides your effort, trust in Hashem to help and give you at the right time. And do different projects in the mean time.


    I saw somewhere (not the most reliable source), citing a Kaf Hachyaim, to recite psalm 121 every sh’moneh esrei, before saying oseh shalom. Check it up before doing so.


    I agree with sm29, too.

    If you want a man who is pious, work on your own piety. If you want a man who is kind, improve your own kindness. If you want a man with a beard . . . well, let me not advise that.


    I searched for the Kaf Hachayyim that I quoted and found something similar in 121:6. It doesn’t say it’s for a shidduch, though.


    Prayer for Finding a Husband(Adapted from Rabbi Mordechi Dolinksy’s book, “Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover”)Translation of the Prayer composed by the Holy Shelah

    May it be Your will Hashem, my God and God of my forefathers, that You find for me with your many mercies and the greatness of Your kindness, my true and befitting marriage partner at the right time. The right partner, worthy of having children, a learned man, great in Torah and the fear of Heaven, born from the seed of righteous and truthful men who have fear of sin. Just like You found the true partner for Adam Ha-Rishon, for Avraham, Yitzchak, Yaakov and Moshe, each one his true partner at the right moment and time. And please let the partner that You choose for me be a good man, one with pleasantness of action, a master of good deeds, a man of grace with intelligence and fear of God, a pursuer of charity and a doer of kindnesses. May he not have even a little insufficiency, or physical defect, or imperfection, and not be an angry or aggressive man. May he just be modest with a humble spirit, healthy, and strong. And please don’t allow any interference from ruthless individuals or enemies whose intentions and manipulations would aspire to prevent me from meeting my marriage partner.

    May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart find favor before You, Hashem, my Rock and my Redeemer.


    Tehillim 121 is recited because it was originally recited by Yaakov Avinu when he was looking for his zivug- “meiayin yavo ezri?” – where will my ezer kenegdo come from?

    It would have been helpful if the teacher who taught this to me would have provided a precise source, but I did learn this on my last day of seminary.


    1) Say perek Shira every day & add your name at the end of the tefilla for hashem to send your your Zivug right away

    2)find a friend that is also looking for their zivug & daven for her/him too, as it says if you daven for someone else YOU get answered first.

    3)saying Parshas Hanesiyim is a big zchus for finding your zivug



    There is a sefer called ????? ????? by Rav Nosson Graff, which is segulos and tfilos for zivug hagun.

    I’ve had a look online and can’t find it in the big US seforim shops. The only place I could find it available was Lehmanns bookstore in England.


    tech21- bais halevi in vayaitzay brings a medrash that says this.

    Artscroll tehillim brings a few more kapitlach to say. Offhand i remember 70 and 71

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