February 27, 2017 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm #619349
I’m seeking to give car rides to whoever needs in/around nyc as a chesed. Have car will drive. I contacted a tzedakah who coordinates exactly this, but I was refused. I’m not yet married and therefore unreliable and untrustworthy to them. Was quite insulting. Any ideas?February 27, 2017 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #1219536rebshidduchParticipant
Just offer rides to people, do not be insulted.February 27, 2017 9:52 pm at 9:52 pm #1219537yungermanSParticipant
he doesnt have a carFebruary 27, 2017 10:14 pm at 10:14 pm #1219538rebshidduchParticipant
yungerman, I thought he said he does have a car?February 27, 2017 10:27 pm at 10:27 pm #1219539
He has a car: “Have car will drive” (OP)February 27, 2017 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm #1219540lakewood maidelMember
dont take it personally since they have no idea who you are and couldnt possibly mean that they have reason to believe that you’re a bad boy but they probably just think its suspicous since they haven’t heard from many other boys as nice as you and they dont view it as a normal thingFebruary 28, 2017 12:14 am at 12:14 am #1219541yungermanSParticipant
sorry my mistake. translated it wrong as YOU have car I will driveFebruary 28, 2017 1:12 am at 1:12 am #1219543Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
Maybe let your friends and aquaintances know that you are available. I’m sure you will get lots of calls. And then more people will hear about you and call you.
Do you know or know of any elderly people in your neighborhood? I’m sure they can use this service. Does anyone you know have elderly relatives or acquaintances?
Maybe you should post/check postings on some of the Frum email lists.February 28, 2017 2:32 am at 2:32 am #1219544
I’m not as well connected as you seem to imagine. Wanted to work through a tzedakah that does this so I’ll just get the requests and drive. You’d think they’d accept an offer from someone able and willing. They didn’t even bother to call the reference I gave. All because I’m single.February 28, 2017 2:52 am at 2:52 am #1219545Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant
There’s a lot of prejudice against singles in this world.
In this case, though, it could be that there is a good reason for the policy. But it is still annoying and frustrating for you.February 28, 2017 6:23 am at 6:23 am #1219546WinnieThePoohParticipant
I don’t know who you called, but try tomchei shabbos- they use volunteers to drive around the deliveries, or bikur cholim organizations- maybe they know of people who need rides to the hospital or medical appointments. Ask the rav of your shul if there are eldery people who might need a ride to shul or shiur. Go in person to these organizations so they can meet you and evaluate whether they can trust you. Single people can do lots of chesed!February 28, 2017 7:25 am at 7:25 am #1219547
What about posting a free classified ad for your car services?February 28, 2017 12:06 pm at 12:06 pm #1219548lesschumrasParticipant
LU, if the OP called and offered to to donate $100,000, the the tzedakah would sing a different tuneFebruary 28, 2017 1:11 pm at 1:11 pm #1219549
OP just offer 100 grand thenFebruary 28, 2017 4:28 pm at 4:28 pm #1219551
“OP just offer 100 grand then”
If 100 grand is the price for respect, think i’d keep it.February 28, 2017 4:31 pm at 4:31 pm #1219552
tomchei shabbos only delivers on thursday, i can’t do thursday. And I want to drive people, not food.
Called those other organizations, no takers. I’m not going to beg someone to let me help them.February 28, 2017 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #1219553WinnieThePoohParticipant
so one option left- Maybe skip the organizations, and just speak to rabbanim of local shuls- surely they will know about people in their own communities who need rides, but are not in contact with organizations to help them.
Sometimes Chesed can be even greater when done privately and not thru an organization where everyone knows that you are doing it.February 28, 2017 9:17 pm at 9:17 pm #1219554
Just make sure that you’re not asked to give rides to people or things across the US borders. I don’t want to read about you in YWN, G-d forbid.
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