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    whats the best way to overcome the fear of public speaking/performance anxiety


    just gotta get up there and do it…the first few times it can be rough but with experience ull become a pro, like i always say: if i can do it, anyone can!!!


    Try some of thses ideas. Many work very well.


    Mesivta Ateres Yaakov


    Fear, nervousness and stage fright are conditions usually present prior to the speech and actually diminish significantly once the presentation has begun.

    It is a GOOD sign that one is nervous. It indicates a healthy respect for the audience and the task at hand. Even great speakers have enormous stage fright. In addition nervous energy can be converted to positive energy if the source of the nervousness is not doubt and defeatism. Reflexes are actually sharpened by the tenseness.

    How can one channel the adrenaline generated by the nervous system to be positive?


    A-It makes you feel you have what to contribute to the audience

    B- It endows you with a confidence which feeds off the nervous energy.

    C- Once you begin, the audience will be active listeners and transmit their enjoyment to you, the speaker.


    A-Nonverbal cues affect the audience

    B-The external has an effect on the internal. (Ex. Wearing a sports uniform to a formal wedding or a tuxedo to gym.) It alters the internal by expressing the feeling that the internal really wants you to have.


    You are the one who is going to set the tone. You are responsible for the mood transmitted to the group. Try to feel the responsibility of the group and not focus on your individual experience. Look beyond yourself.

    4- IMAGERY


    IN than majority of situations our audience wants you to succeed. They do not want to walk away feeling it was a waste of time. All research indicates that the audience roots for the speaker to succeed. Look at the audience in positive framework. (If they did not want you to succeed would they come to hear you?)



    8- Practice the speech so that you are very familiar with it.

    Make sure that you are strongly familiar with your material and its organization within the speech and you know clearly what you are going to say and what you are NOT going to say. Be clear as to what the opening, body and conclusion contain. Make sure the speech/lecture is not only appropriate, but engages the listener and feeds their interest. It will help you feel confident.


    Be careful of what you eat prior to the speech if, you able to eat! Avoid foods which give digestion problems, gas or heartburn. Avoid foods which increase saliva (all type of nuts, spicy foods) and avoid most cheese/ dairy products.


    1- Burn off some excess energy by doing some physical exercise. It is good for oxygen flow, blood flow and for your mind as well.

    2- Still nervous? Sit in a chair and let your body go limp – total flexibility and looseness. Then starting with your toes, tighten up each muscle in your body until you reach your neck. Then loosen up slowly reversing the process. You can do this 2- times and feel relaxed and in touch.

    5- Do not hold mike. Do not hold your notes in your hand.

    6- Avoid holding anything in our hands, especially a cup of liquid.

    7- If you are very nervous, shift your weight between you feet and partially lean on the lectern until it subsides.

    8- Know that nervousness subsides once you start to speak until a point when it almost disappears.

    9- PRAY!


    Try Avi Shulmans book. He’s taught many many people, successfully.

    I heard him once say, before he started teaching PS, he looked into it. He found that fifty percent of those who attended public speaking courses in college feel uncomfortable speaking. (Hopefully its changed since then).

    Nervousness at times can contribute to a very good speech. If I dare say, do you remember any speeches from the last Siyum Hashass? The ones I remember are from the two speakers who looked very nervous.


    Practice! The few times I have had to give a talk for one reason or another I have found that giving it in advance to a few people can really help. I had to give a talk in university, my professor made me give it to him first. He then made me do the entire thing over again. (The new version was much better)


    My favorite part of school were those Public Speaking asignments that most girls dread. I loved it! But I always got annoyed by the 1,001 tips that the teachers prepped us with…all those rules kind of took the fun out of it.

    I miss that opportunity to speak before a crowd…don’t get that out there in life…

    (And I was GOOD at it, too…!)

    not I

    I m with My take!!

    I always enjoyed public speaking but now I have no opportunity 🙁

    I also enjoyed making up the speach lots of fun!!


    mytake and not I:

    Why not offer up an interesting speech or shiur on a long Shabbos afternoon etc. every once in a while, to friends neighbors. Even to a small group. Women often say they wish they had something to attend.


    I will give you the simplest advice that worked for me. Find a friendly or what seems to you an interested face and speak directly to that person. Someone towards the center or back of the room so it will seem that you are looking out to the crowd.

    If you are inexperienced and you start allowing your eyes to wander you might lose your train of thought or stumble. So find a face and speak as if you are speaking to a parent or a spouse. You will have no problem and no one will know that you are not addressing the entire room.

    Don’t think about how you are going to be received, they are not there to judge you. They are there to hear the information you want to share with them. And you are there to share information with them. They don’t care if you have a hair sticking up out of place, or you forgot to button your top button, and they won’t see the spot on your tie that you didn’t notice till the last minute. Or if you are female the run in your stocking. If you have a message you want known, then know you have something important to share, just as if you were sitting in your living room or walked in on a group of your mothers friends and stated your opinion. YOUR opinion counts and you have a right to voice it. So it is important for you to speak your opinion and let others know what is on your mind. Sometimes you are going to be the one sitting and listening and sometimes there is going to be a lucky listener hearing what YOU have to say.


    I’ve been asked a few times to speak publicly in a small setting.

    I’ve always declined the request bec. I’m a private person and didnt feel comfortable. However, last week I was asked again and I decided to go for it! It is very empowering. I finally broke the ice and it really felt good…especially if you get good

    feedback you will want to try it again and again.

    Hatzlocha Rabba!


    Avi Shulman has a great book on it.

    He also has a cassette on that subject.

    Both excellent.

    Toastmasters is great too.Most groups mixed;I go to a special Toastmasters “chapter” for frum women only when I can get a babysitter.

    And of course practice,like many posters suggested.


    Im sure someone said this, but TALK OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR! I know, I thought it sounded funny too, but when we had public speaking I realized if I can talk comftably to myself (out loud about the topic and got it all strait in my head) then it is ok. Also, before you go up, (the old-fashion method) take deep breaths, clentch your fists and relax (my teachers remedy).

    GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!


    “He found that fifty percent of those who attended public speaking courses in college feel uncomfortable speaking.”

    It’s like any course in college, some gain from it and some don’t. If you’re a good student -you try to gain as much as you can from every subject you learn.

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