February 7, 2011 9:08 pm at 9:08 pm #594843ImaofthreeParticipant
My mother passed away this year so I am in availus. Does anyone know if I am allowed to send mishloach manos this year? What about the purim seuda, can I go out for the meal to friends?February 7, 2011 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm #737728yogiboobooMember
ask ur LORFebruary 7, 2011 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm #737729oomisParticipant
You should ask your rov, but I was told flat out I personally could neither give nor receive S”M, but my family could, so all the things we sent out were prepared by them and said that they were specifically from my husband and children. I was told it was assur for me to go to anyone’s seudah. I usually make my own, anyway most years, and invite others. That year, I didn’t invite anyone but my kids. My deepest condolences on your loss. May your next Purim be a happy one.February 7, 2011 10:00 pm at 10:00 pm #737730ImaofthreeParticipant
thank you oomis1105.February 7, 2011 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #737731Fast ForwardMember
I am sorry for your loss; I recently finished the year for my mother. I guess you should ask your LOR because I was told that I had to send to two people, but was not allowed to receive any back. My family was allowed to receive but I could not be handed anything. As far as I know, you cannot go to anyone else’s house for a seudah. You should only know from simchos.February 7, 2011 11:58 pm at 11:58 pm #737732ItcheSrulikMember
When it happened to each of my parents in different years, they were both told that they can receive, but should send less than usual and that while the meal is a seudas mitzva, they can only invite guests who have a chazaka of three or more years coming to us.February 8, 2011 2:38 am at 2:38 am #737733aries2756Participant
It is so sad so many of us are in this predicament. I ordered Keren Aniyim for my husband to give out. I am still not sure what we are going to do about the seudah. It is usually a big, big family bash at my house. But unfortunately not this year. Last year we were B”H zoche to make a Birthday party for my Mom’s sister by bringing out a cake for desert.February 8, 2011 3:49 am at 3:49 am #737734rabbiofberlinParticipant
just for your informational purposes….Shulchan aruch hilchos purim, siman Tarzaddikvov (696) se’if 6: an ovel (mourner)sends misloach monos but does not receive for the full year (after parents).
As far as the seudah goes- there are many who are “meike”l to allow a mourner to share the seduah with others.February 8, 2011 5:06 am at 5:06 am #737735oomisParticipant
All these responses go to show one thing. ASK YOUR ROV what to do if lo aleinu this happens.February 8, 2011 11:09 am at 11:09 am #737736haifagirlParticipant
Ask your LOR. When I was in that situation I was told to send one and I couldn’t receive. I also couldn’t go to a seudah.
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