February 21, 2016 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #617258Shopping613 🌠Participant
What do you think is acceptable for teenage girls to be wearing on this holy day tzniyudiskly? Like what is defined as not tzynius, and ok?February 21, 2016 3:00 pm at 3:00 pm #1138623JosephParticipant
Anything not tzniusdik all year, is not tzniusdik on Purim.February 21, 2016 3:17 pm at 3:17 pm #1138624zahavasdadParticipant
Burqas are a good choiceFebruary 21, 2016 4:59 pm at 4:59 pm #1138625writersoulParticipant
Oh my gosh, I agree with Joe.
I personally dress up. I find it really fun. When I was in Israel I toned it down a bit, but as a general thing I see no problem with it. I guess if you look at the day and think “hey, would I wear this on a holy day, albeit one where my male family members are all getting absolutely smashed,” you’re probably good.February 21, 2016 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #1138626
Joe has a point,
Anything that calls attention is untznius so technically burkas could also be untzniusFebruary 21, 2016 5:13 pm at 5:13 pm #1138627
Oh my gosh, I agree with Joe.
Not to worry, you don’t.February 21, 2016 6:08 pm at 6:08 pm #1138628shuliParticipant
@coffee addict, with that logic no girls should wear anything other than what they normally do, because that would ‘call attention’February 21, 2016 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm #1138629
Shuli, perhaps that’s true.February 21, 2016 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #1138630
What do women normally wear?February 21, 2016 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #1138631
“What do women normally wear?”
attention?February 21, 2016 10:45 pm at 10:45 pm #1138632
I’m talking about tznius womenFebruary 21, 2016 11:18 pm at 11:18 pm #1138633👑RebYidd23Participant
Maybe all girls should dress differently so they don’t call attention.February 21, 2016 11:59 pm at 11:59 pm #1138634LovelymeMember
Why are you asking the coffee room?February 22, 2016 12:16 am at 12:16 am #1138635writersoulParticipant
DY: I can see your point 🙂
I just don’t think that the average costume is non-tznius throughout the year, so it worked for me…
I should really run under my usual assumption that if he says it I don’t agree, I suppose.February 22, 2016 1:11 am at 1:11 am #1138636frumnotyeshivishParticipant
I too agree with Joe. To an extent. Anything not tznius all year (i.e. clothing designed and worn with the intent of clearly standing out — in a feminine way — to men) is not tznius on purim. Where I disagree is in practically every other way. Pretty much.
99 percent of “hilchos” tznius are dependent on minhag to some extent or another. Thus, would I have a teenage daughter who requests my input my first questions would be “what’s everyone else doing?”; “who do you anticipate interacting with in what way?”; and “what do you want to do?” then offering some advice.
If my wife were asking I’d probably defer to her (better) judgment.
If nearly anyone else were asking, I’d likely reprimand them on the lack of tact and tznius inherent in the question before declining to answer.
And obviously, I wouldn’t be the abhorrent hypocrite with detailed opinions on the neighborhood’s costumes.February 22, 2016 1:18 am at 1:18 am #1138637
Writersoul, you don’t think that if on some random day you walked outside wearing a cowgirl outfit or a pink wig it would draw attention?February 22, 2016 3:03 am at 3:03 am #1138638The QueenParticipant
In my family teenage girls dress up if they want to but not to shul, or outside. just at home and at the extended family meal. (which at this point is in a hall since nobody has a home large enough to accommodate the crowd.)
The year I got married, my sister a teen at the time dressed up as a man, in my new husbands cloths. She came into my parents dining room and walked right up to our father with outstretched palm for tzaddakah. (she didn’t open her mouth as her voice would give her away.) Although she didn’t have her face covered her tatte didn’t recognize her. That was a laugh.
My teenage girls like to put on big hats, long queer earrings (one looks like a bug…) and such stuff.February 22, 2016 6:12 am at 6:12 am #1138639yehudayonaParticipant
You could dress like a married chassidish woman (shaitel, pillbox hat, bulletproof stockings with seams) and be completely tznius.February 22, 2016 12:08 pm at 12:08 pm #1138640
Simply existing among other people generates a certain amount of attention as people are aware of your presence. The answer to the op is use your seichel. If you don’t have seichel or dont trust your seichel then ask your parents, family rav, teachers etc. For guidance.February 22, 2016 9:58 pm at 9:58 pm #1138641Shopping613 🌠Participant
Why isn’t purim an exception? If I normally wear weekday clothes most of the week, it’s mutar and even a mitzvash for me to wear shabbos clothing on shabbos. So on purim isn’t ita mitzvah to dress up?February 22, 2016 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #1138642
I hope you’re not serious
Dressing tzniusdik on shabbos is different than dressing up in a costume
The whole point of a costume is to tell people “look how funny I am”
The whole point of shabbos clothing is l’kavod shabbosFebruary 22, 2016 11:22 pm at 11:22 pm #1138643
Dress in honor of the chag purim.February 23, 2016 4:58 am at 4:58 am #1138644wannabegood7Participant
yehudayona: dressing up like different sects of yiddsihkeit could be fine, but you still have to be careful. for example, if someone is dressing up as a more modern married lady, she may not show her hair even if she isnt married cuz its maaras ayin. no joke!February 23, 2016 1:26 pm at 1:26 pm #1138645
How does one dress up like a more modern orthodox married lady if she’s not married whereas covering hair is the only problemFebruary 23, 2016 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #1138646
It really is Adar.February 23, 2016 10:18 pm at 10:18 pm #1138647wannabegood7Participant
i didnt say it was the only problem. i just gave an example of where it would be.
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