Purim constumes for teen girls?

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    Shopping613 🌠
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    What do you think is acceptable for teenage girls to be wearing on this holy day tzniyudiskly? Like what is defined as not tzynius, and ok?

    #1138623
    Joseph
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    Anything not tzniusdik all year, is not tzniusdik on Purim.

    #1138624
    zahavasdad
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    Burqas are a good choice

    #1138625
    writersoul
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    Oh my gosh, I agree with Joe.

    I personally dress up. I find it really fun. When I was in Israel I toned it down a bit, but as a general thing I see no problem with it. I guess if you look at the day and think “hey, would I wear this on a holy day, albeit one where my male family members are all getting absolutely smashed,” you’re probably good.

    #1138626
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Joe has a point,

    Anything that calls attention is untznius so technically burkas could also be untznius

    #1138627
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Oh my gosh, I agree with Joe.

    Not to worry, you don’t.

    #1138628
    shuli
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    @coffee addict, with that logic no girls should wear anything other than what they normally do, because that would ‘call attention’

    #1138629
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Shuli, perhaps that’s true.

    #1138630
    ☕️coffee addict
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    What do women normally wear?

    #1138631
    apushatayid
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    “What do women normally wear?”

    attention?

    #1138632
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Apashutayid,

    I’m talking about tznius women

    #1138633
    👑RebYidd23
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    Maybe all girls should dress differently so they don’t call attention.

    #1138634
    Lovelyme
    Member

    Why are you asking the coffee room?

    #1138635
    writersoul
    Member

    DY: I can see your point 🙂

    I just don’t think that the average costume is non-tznius throughout the year, so it worked for me…

    I should really run under my usual assumption that if he says it I don’t agree, I suppose.

    #1138636
    frumnotyeshivish
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    I too agree with Joe. To an extent. Anything not tznius all year (i.e. clothing designed and worn with the intent of clearly standing out — in a feminine way — to men) is not tznius on purim. Where I disagree is in practically every other way. Pretty much.

    99 percent of “hilchos” tznius are dependent on minhag to some extent or another. Thus, would I have a teenage daughter who requests my input my first questions would be “what’s everyone else doing?”; “who do you anticipate interacting with in what way?”; and “what do you want to do?” then offering some advice.

    If my wife were asking I’d probably defer to her (better) judgment.

    If nearly anyone else were asking, I’d likely reprimand them on the lack of tact and tznius inherent in the question before declining to answer.

    And obviously, I wouldn’t be the abhorrent hypocrite with detailed opinions on the neighborhood’s costumes.

    #1138637
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Writersoul, you don’t think that if on some random day you walked outside wearing a cowgirl outfit or a pink wig it would draw attention?

    #1138638
    The Queen
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    In my family teenage girls dress up if they want to but not to shul, or outside. just at home and at the extended family meal. (which at this point is in a hall since nobody has a home large enough to accommodate the crowd.)

    The year I got married, my sister a teen at the time dressed up as a man, in my new husbands cloths. She came into my parents dining room and walked right up to our father with outstretched palm for tzaddakah. (she didn’t open her mouth as her voice would give her away.) Although she didn’t have her face covered her tatte didn’t recognize her. That was a laugh.

    My teenage girls like to put on big hats, long queer earrings (one looks like a bug…) and such stuff.

    #1138639
    yehudayona
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    You could dress like a married chassidish woman (shaitel, pillbox hat, bulletproof stockings with seams) and be completely tznius.

    #1138640
    apushatayid
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    Simply existing among other people generates a certain amount of attention as people are aware of your presence. The answer to the op is use your seichel. If you don’t have seichel or dont trust your seichel then ask your parents, family rav, teachers etc. For guidance.

    #1138641
    Shopping613 🌠
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    Why isn’t purim an exception? If I normally wear weekday clothes most of the week, it’s mutar and even a mitzvash for me to wear shabbos clothing on shabbos. So on purim isn’t ita mitzvah to dress up?

    #1138642
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Shopping,

    I hope you’re not serious

    Dressing tzniusdik on shabbos is different than dressing up in a costume

    The whole point of a costume is to tell people “look how funny I am”

    The whole point of shabbos clothing is l’kavod shabbos

    #1138643
    apushatayid
    Participant

    Dress in honor of the chag purim.

    #1138644
    wannabegood7
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    yehudayona: dressing up like different sects of yiddsihkeit could be fine, but you still have to be careful. for example, if someone is dressing up as a more modern married lady, she may not show her hair even if she isnt married cuz its maaras ayin. no joke!

    #1138645
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Wannabegood,

    How does one dress up like a more modern orthodox married lady if she’s not married whereas covering hair is the only problem

    #1138646
    apushatayid
    Participant

    It really is Adar.

    #1138647
    wannabegood7
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    i didnt say it was the only problem. i just gave an example of where it would be.

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