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    workinonit
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    right now im going through some emotionally draining situations and it seems to be afffecting my daily life. How do i push away or not think bout these situations so i can enjoy my day. Im usually not able to focus on anything else and it rly is bringing me down… and please dotn say just fix the situation cause thats not posssible at this time id just liek to know how to 4get about it 4 a little.

    #805960

    Abelleh
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    Read a book. Preferably some happy-go-lucky book that more or less creates its own world (Redwall or anything by Edward Eager). That’s always my go to method.

    #805961

    workinonit
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    nah ive tried that and i can never concentrate cuz i end up thinking bout bout something else

    #805962

    YW Moderator-20
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    Lively music!

    #805963

    bombmaniac
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    kill someone…all teh runing from cops and avoiding capture will take your mind off your problems 🙂

    #805964

    a mamin
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    Every situation is different but maybe try to keep yourself busy with something? We dont know much details like how old you are, are you mArried etc? If you are married I would say take some cleaning project in your house.

    #805965

    aries2756
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    workinonit, it sounds to me that you are going through too much for you to handle on your own. Sometimes lifes burdens are just too much for one person, a young person, or at least they seem to be. There are two ways for you to deal with it. Either find someone, an older person, a life coach, or a therapist, that can get you through the bumps. Or write down the whole big picture in a journal and then break off small pieces and just deal with them one at a time.

    Sometimes life can seem very overwhelming. It is that way for many of us. But for a young adult it can be suffocating. But when you choose to deal with just one issue at a time until its conclusion and then bite off another one, until you muddle through as many as you can it is less overwhelming. That is how most adults tackle their problems. We can’t handle everything at once, so we just deal with what we can, the worst or the most pressing and then we move on to the next, and then the next.

    Is that something you think you can do?

    #805966

    Abelleh
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    Write about it.

    #805967

    workinonit
    Member

    i cant, its just one big thing, theres no parts, theres no solution. the only thing tht solves this problem is time. i cant go to anyone cuz its rly personal and not the type tht i need help from any1. like i said the only solution is time so idk how to make tht time fly by so i dont ruin my life in the process.

    #805968

    workonit,

    a few years ago when I was in High School and looking into seminaries, colleges, and had other stuff going on in my own life, I had a hard time falling asleep. Everytime I would try to fall asleep, every thought I had in my head would come out and it would take hours and hours to quiet them. My mother told me something that helped alot. She said to envision putting every thought that was preventing me from sleeping into a bubble, and then sending the bubble up to Hashem and saying, “Hashem, its all up to you. Please hold on to it for now.” It really helped me.

    My advice to you, is to take those feeling that are getting in the way of your day, put them in a bubble and send it up to Hashem. You mentioned that the only thing that will help it is time, I know what you mean :-). You have no control over it, and you dont want it to negatively effect your day, which is totally understandable. Say a little tefillah every day asking Hashem to help you deal with it today in the best way that you can, and then put it in His hands. It works for me. I hope it helps you somehow too! Every day will get easier, just stay strong :-).

    #805969

    workinonit
    Member

    emunas- thanks that actually really helps, im gonna try that 🙂 i hope ur right bout the getting easier thing

    #805970

    bein_hasdorim
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    put on a cd, and just dance. or go jogging outdoors. Exercise also help clear the mind and body, and helps you focus.

    #805971

    Mr Taxman
    Member

    treat yourself to a get away somewhere and pamper yourself. coem back a changed person. A break from reality always helps.

    #805972

    workinonit
    Member

    guys im a teenager i cant rly do so much i dont have that much freedom.. 🙂

    #805973

    brotherofurs
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    emunas- i was about to write that-great minds think alike! , except i heard a present box not a bubble 😉

    #805974

    brotherofurs, I have a different moshel for a present box. Sometimes in life our challenges are like the most precious presents wrapped in ugly paper. The challenges and struggles are the wrapping paper that we have to go through in order to get to the gem inside. Sometimes those challenges are ugly and dark, and its hard to see the light, but when you get past it, it is all worth it, because every struggle no matter how hard it is, is a gift and we will only benefit from it!

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