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So maybe I should give credit to NASI for raising the point that “age is just a number” and shouldn’t be a determining factor for shidduchim. But assuming they are correct what about the vast number of shidduchim redt to older singles with the sole comparitive quality being the similarity in age? Isn’t that amongst the more preposterous ways of matching people up?
Is that worse than the vast number of shidduchim redt to younger singles with the sole worthiness of the match being the fact that he’s four years older than she is?
NASI would be very happy if age became totally irrelevant, because then there would be no age gap.
If age was irrelevant, just as many matches between 19 year old males and 50 year old females would take place as the reverse.
Individual matches with an age gap aren’t the problem. The problem is the consistent pattern of boys getting married three or four years older than girls. If age was irrelevant, that wouldn’t happen; it would be pretty much even.
Then age is relevant.
So there opinion that similar in age can be compatible is preposterous?
DY: Age in general should never be a positive factor. Too large an age gap can be a negating factor.
Sam:
Your two sentences contradict each other. I agree with the second. It’s actually a gemara (which Health doesn’t like).
DY: No they don’t. No one should create or decide a Shidduch based on age. Age can’t be a positive factor. In can be a Psul.
If a bad age (or age gap) is a negative, a good age (or gap) is a positive.
A mod should please change the title of this thread so something like Age Difference Relevancy for Shidduchim, rather than this meaningless overlooked title.
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