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  • #1049300
    bpt
    Participant

    Oh, and before I forget, Feif – Are you fully recovered from your operation?

    #1049301
    aries2756
    Participant

    bpt, but YOU can wear designer ties and you are such a good role model.

    #1049302
    bein_hasdorim
    Participant

    thanks feif, you erally should write a column. You have what it takes. I took your advice and downloaded

    “the eye of the goat” AKA “the eye of the tiger”

    before it over-went an extensive kashering process.

    Next question;

    1) How do I get a job as a Mashgiach in the particular field of Kashering Goyishe songs. It seems to be the future of

    Jewish, I mean Goyishe, I mean Convert (Ger Tzedek) music?

    2)Do you think the Rabbinical courts will disagree with the

    Chief Rabbinate, as to the authenticity of the Geirus of these songs?

    #1049303
    bpt
    Participant

    “designer ties” = in BMG? Maybe as a student, but as staff?

    ” a good role model ‘ = For torah ‘umadah, perhaps (or Tuna Bagels). But for BMG?

    Me thinks not.

    #1049304
    adorable
    Participant

    isn’t it good that here no one can see your tie.

    #1049305

    OK dr feif, what do you do when guys dont get the fact you are ignoring them and they should stop saying hi or hey each time you pass in the hall? (plz answer s/t funny and hilarious. i had a tiring day and need a boost)

    #1049306
    aries2756
    Participant

    bpt, no absolutely, you are a menthe and that is something that is NOT taught. So I think that would be very appreciated by many. I nominate you for the job.

    #1049307
    Feif Un
    Participant

    bein_hasdorim: Your last question wasn’t a relationship question, sorry. Ask someone in the industry, hopefully they can help you. Try asking Lipa.

    #1049308
    Feif Un
    Participant

    taking a break: I need some more information first. Where is this occurring? In college?

    #1049309

    It’s in a college. It’s mostly goyim that so it but there is a frum guy who also usuallysays hi or hey. Why don’t guys pick up that they are being ignored on purpose and not by accident?

    #1049310
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    (Feif, if I may)

    taking a break:

    Maybe they think you are playing “hard to get”, which usually makes them more interested?

    Maybe go out with him, and then drop him.

    #1049311
    Feif Un
    Participant

    taking a break, since I am a man, you’re probably going to ignore my advice anyway, but here goes:

    Make a custom t-shirt (tznius, of course – long sleeves and not tight at all!) that says. “I’m ignoring you because I’m rude!”

    See what kind of reactions you get.

    #1049312

    hey feif, how’d ya know i wasnt going to take your advice? 🙂 but you did get me t smile. thanx

    #1049313
    Feif Un
    Participant

    For the frum guy, tell him, “Look, you’re a nice Jewish boy, and I’m a nice Jewish girl. Let’s do the nice Jewish thing and not talk to each other!”

    #1049314
    aries2756
    Participant

    I know where you can get these tee’s made for a nice Jewish price.

    #1049315

    Feif, wow! you got me to smile 2x! but i will have to wait till he initiate the next convo to say that

    #1049316
    hanib
    Participant

    ayc –

    thanks for the brief welcome. ?

    #1049317
    oomis
    Participant

    you are a menthe “

    Did you just call him a MINT???????? Is that because he presents a refreshing viewpoint?

    #1049318
    observanteen
    Member

    Welcome Binah! We really missed you. Wish you were back for good.

    Okay feif, now’s my turn.(thanks for the laughs so far)

    What do I do with a future MIL who seems to be very nice, but since she’s from E”Y (she currently lives in the US but hasn’t got rid of her “Israeli personality”) hasn’t a clue as to how she’s supposed to treat her future DIL (she really is caring and truly has good intentions)?

    #1049319
    Feif Un
    Participant

    observateen, my wife happens to be Israeli, so I can relate.

    The pasuk says, “Am k’shei oref hu”, we are a stubborn nation. That is especially true for Israelis. It’s nothing against them, that’s just the society there. Remember that Israelis call themselves “Sabras” – like the fruit, they say they’re tough on the outside, but sweet on the inside.

    I recommend that if your future MIL gets too rough for you, take a potato peeler and peel off some skin. Tell her you’re trying to get to the sweetness inside. I don’t know how she’ll take it, but it’s worth a shot.

    #1049320
    observanteen
    Member

    Thanks feif. Mmmm…I don’t think I’ll take your advice though, being that I’m still a kallah and I want to make a good impression.

    Have YOU ever tried doing it to your wife?:P

    #1049321
    adorable
    Participant

    feif- your advice is hysterical. are you feeling better and therefore able to do this or do you have nothing else to do in bed while you recuperate?

    #1049322
    Feif Un
    Participant

    Thank God, I’m about 98% better. The only thing that still hurts is my tailbone, from when I fell, and even that is much better than it was.

    Thanks for asking!

    #1049323
    Feif Un
    Participant

    Some people asked me what ever happened to my advice column. I told them there were no more questions. I was told to bump it up. So there you go. Any more relationship questions?

    #1049324
    bpt
    Participant

    Thanks, but on another “advice” thread, us unpaid folks were told to pack it in, so unless you’re ready to charge $$$$, you’re talkin’ to the mirror.

    But as long as you’re up and about, are you fully recovered from the surgery?

    #1049325
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    Dear Feiffy,

    So glad to hear you are feeling better; good news these days is GREAT news.

    Ok, so here’s my relationship question.

    I’ve hit a bump in my relationship here in the cr and can’t seem to find the joy that I had before. So I spend much less time reading and writing here. (Perhaps that’s a good thing?!)

    How do I get back to how I felt before the snafu?

    #1049326
    Feif Un
    Participant

    am yisrael chai: how dare you use that foul term on a Yeshivish web site! No wonder you’re not feeling right here. Using language like that will turn you off of a nice frum site. Start cleaning up your language, and I’m sure things will get better.

    Oh, and don’t call me “Feiffy”. It sounds like a dog’s name.

    #1049327
    bpt
    Participant

    “How do I get back to how I felt before the snafu?”

    Please, Fief, let me field this one.

    AYC – What you need to do is post something really outreageous, something that will earn you an EDITED. Or say something that will really irritate another member (I could name a few that could use some riling up, but that’s besides the point)

    Believe me, nothing gets you back in the groove than a take-off-the-gloves fight. The nastier the better.

    Ding! Ding! Ding!

    #1049328
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    Thanks, bpt, but I earned even better than an Edited; I got a Deleted! And it was a vort on the parsha thread! Go figure!

    #1049329
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    AYC, I see you are posting again! It’s good to have you back.

    Just wanna let you know you are not the only one accused of being joseph!!! many others as well

    #1049330
    Jothar
    Member

    Am Yisroel Chai posted a Vort about them picking on “Joseph”. Very clever! Loved it!

    #1049331
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    Thanks so much for the chizuk, gilgul! What’s the deal with all these false accusations??? May I ask who you were in a previous life? I’m not so comfy here yet, so I’m taking it day by day and see if I will remain. But thanks for making me feel like it makes a difference.

    #1049332
    kapusta
    Participant

    see if I will remain

    New And Returning Members!

    *kapusta*

    #1049333
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    “Please stay. I’ve learned so much from you.”

    Whoa, kapusta, what a nice thing for you to say. But I can’t think of a thing I can offer, since you have incredible midos and insight yourself.

    #1049334
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    “Am Yisroel Chai posted a Vort about them picking on “Joseph”. Very clever! Loved it!”

    Thanks, Jothar, glad you liked it…was wondering if anyone had gotten it 🙂

    #1049335
    adorable
    Participant

    feif- laughing from your post to ayc! You aint no puppy!!!!!! I need advice! I dont know who Joseph is! every other poster seems like him to me!

    #1049336
    Feif Un
    Participant

    adorable: Joseph is like some views on Amalek in modern times. Some hold that Amalek is not a nation now – it’s a mindset that needs to be fought.

    Joseph is a mindset. He is fighting against everything everywhere at all times. Whenever you see someone disagreeing with someone else’s views and putting them down – that is Joseph.

    As for thinking everyone is Joseph, remember that all his names are banned as they are discovered. If you see a poster that’s been here more than a month or so, it’s probably not Joseph.

    #1049337
    Feif Un
    Participant

    Special for Adar, I’m bumping my relationship advice thread! Post your questions and Dr. Feif will advise you!

    #1049338
    bpt
    Participant

    Thank you for seeing me on such short notice, Dr. Feif.

    At issue this month is: the whole world (ok, not the WHOLE world, but the slice I focus on during my time on-line) seems totalty wrapped up in the D. Feldman saga (as evidenced from the 600+ posts the story has clocked so far) yet I thought it was time to drop the story, and let it fade away (much in the way Gitty from KJ did).

    Am I a wrong for not keeping this on the front burner? Am I just too short-sighted to see the larger picture here?

    #1049339
    Feif Un
    Participant

    bpt: If, like most posters here, you are outraged by the book, then it really depends on your stove. If your back burner has a bigger flame which will burn the book faster, then by all means, keep it on the back burner. If your front burner has a higher flame, then yes, it should be on the front burner.

    #1049340
    bpt
    Participant

    I considered that. But since I have not bought the book (I’m waiting for the library to get a copy) I’m not sure how I will put your advise to use.

    Not to worry, though. I think I’ll sink my hooks into the “mechitza and the Siyum” story. That seems to be the next big thing. I see a tie-in to the “Ezras Nushim” story, and want to get in on the action early.

    #1049342
    Feif Un
    Participant

    bpt: If you don’t have the book, you’re not wrong for not keeping it on the front burner. You can’t burn what you don’t have!

    As for the mechitza and siyum story, we’re very lucky about the Ezras Nashim. If someone goes into labor during the siyum, there will be women there to deliver the baby! Have you ever been in the stadium? I think Hatzolah’s response time would go down if a guy had to get from one side of the stadium to the other. No way is he making it in three minutes, even with lights and sirens! Besides, there would probably be some issues with what Hatzolah group provides service to the Meadowlands.

    #1049343
    bpt
    Participant

    “If someone goes into labor during the siyum”

    Good point. So let me ask you this: What will happen if the husband (of the woman in labor at the siyum) has a panic attack (due to the fact, that there is a good chance the arrival of his newly arriving child is being watched by 80,000 cheering fans), and panic-sticken husband insists on travelling to the hospital with the Ezras Nushim bus (that’s what an ambulance is called by the Hot squad). And in transit, HE is in sudden need of 1st responder help)…. will the EzNu team fly ito action, or will they call for the Hot Squad?

    And we are worried about a $250k mechitza? This is way bigger!

    #1049344
    Feif Un
    Participant

    bpt: I let you ask a question that was not a relationship question, but that’s all! No more after this one!

    The best thing to do is not allow the husband to come along. After all, it takes time to leave the stadium, and waiting for the husband would cause an unnecessary delay in getting the woman to the hospital.

    In any case, the child born at the same must be named “Hadran”. Unless, of course, the father’s name is Popa – in that case, you can choose from any of the bar Popas mentioned within the Hadran.

    #1049345
    iYid
    Member

    the bigger problem is that the husband wont go to the hospital with his wife bec he wont be able to see throu the mechitza that it is his wife that is the one in labor

    #1049346
    bpt
    Participant

    “a question that was not a relationship question”

    Whaat! This sure is a relationship question. How do you know I won’t be that panic stricken father, way out in the land of $18 seats, while a drama of epic proprotions is playing out behind the $250k mechitza?

    Besides, a good therapist can take anything (no matter how off topic) and make it relevant (and billable).

    Oh that’s right; the pre-Purim sessions are free.

    Sorry, Fief. My bad.

    #1049347
    bpt
    Participant

    “bec he wont be able to see thru the mechitza”

    Not to worry. When the call comes thru on the EzNu radios (which will be followed by every BP / Willy hocker on their scanners) all expectant father will go running, fully convinced its their wife in labor.

    #1049348
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    Dear Dr. Feif,

    I have a problem with a couple of virtual friends of mine who have encountered serious discord in their relationship.

    You see, one of them started an online advice column about eight months ago, and now, just a few days ago, the other started one of his own, and the first fellow seems quite perturbed about it, to say the least.

    How do I help them to see past their differences and repair their friendship?

    Sincerely,

    Aharon Cohen

    #1049349
    Shopping613 🌠
    Participant

    One you shouldn’t have virtual friends, its dangerous and bad! Two if you didn’t have virtual friends than you wouldn’t be in this problem in the first place! Three, just tell them to have one advice column with 2 opinions, people LOVE having more than one opinion! I’m sure with a combined advice column they would get more people!

    #1049350
    Feif Un
    Participant

    Dear Aharon Cohen,

    First of all, I apologize for not seeing your post sooner – I must have missed it somehow!

    In order to help someone see past something, I recommend a ladder. Usually, if you are higher up, you can see farther and past objects that would otherwise block your vision.

    As for the repairs, try duct tape and/or WD-40. If it moves when it’s not supposed to, use the duct tape. If it’s not moving and it is supposed to, use the WD-40. That’s repair class 101.

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