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To Whom do you give credit for the most positive change you’ve ever seen in someone you know well, who was either sinking Frumkeit-wise, or emotionally (other than a relative or close friend of this person) and was resistant to change?
Was it a Rov, Rebbi, Teacher, Principal, Kiruv Person, Therapist, Life Coach, etc. or other?
Did they do anything unique?
Inspirational stories especially welcome.
I listened to a talk show and they asked a famous Psychiatrist “Who could have helped ~ABC~ (a famous star who wasted their life with drugs, greed and negative influences)”?
The Psychiatrist replied “Only ~ABC~ could have helped ~ABC~” (only the person themselves could have helped themselves, there has to be a desire to change from within). *ABC replaces the name
I think the right person, can very much encourage the person to change, especially when there’s no money involved.
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I can’t tell you the name of the person who influenced me the most because he would shoot me if I revealed it.
My Rabbeim, for me by far. Different things at different times. That’s for the human messenger. I’ve always felt Hashem doing it
The person definitely has to change himself. But sometimes it’s good to have a mentor to guide him and open his mind in the right direction.
I personally, like to learn from my own experiences, or experiences from close family/friends, rather than professionals.
After helping many young people I give THEM credit for allowing positive influences into their daled amos, into their lives and actually HEARING what they had to say while others where yapping in their ears with negativity and alternate lifestyle choices.
It takes courage to push the negativity away and allow the positive energy to permeate your soul. It is a choice they make to reach out and take the lifeline. They don’t always do it right away and they don’t always do it with everyone that offers it. But it is they that have to make the step and accept the help.
Ofcourse- you aint gotta be too brilliant to figure that out. Nobody can be helped if they don’t want to help themselves.
There can be 10 shelichim that approach the same person, and unless that person is ready and willing, no matter how good the sheliach is there is no way they can penetrate that soul. So yes, I am good at what I do, but I don’t take credit for turning “my kids” around, they get all the credit!!!
A older friend / role-model.
I was so captivated by this special’s midos and character, that I actually ended up emulating. Slowly, real slowly, but it gradually took place. So for those that think I’m untamed now..
i just heard today that there was a very religious woman who just had a disease that she could not stop herself from stealing. She went to a thearpist that after a few years-Completely cured her! and now she helps other people. 😀
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