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June 14, 2011 5:22 am at 5:22 am #597394TweetTweetParticipant
I just heard someone saying that on a date, the guy should be running the conversation. Is this true–and if so why should it fall on his shoulders?
June 14, 2011 10:19 am at 10:19 am #777639Pac-ManMemberBecause he is the man.
June 14, 2011 12:38 pm at 12:38 pm #777640TheGoqParticipantBecause talking too much is unladylike and the opposite of demure, also the boy pays the bill that means he is in charge of the date.
yes i am just kidding
June 14, 2011 2:36 pm at 2:36 pm #777641WolfishMusingsParticipantI just heard someone saying that on a date, the guy should be running the conversation.
If someone needs to “run the conversation” then there is something seriously wrong. No one should “control” where the conversation goes on a date.
The Wolf
June 14, 2011 3:15 pm at 3:15 pm #7776421224ParticipantI once went out with a guy who was so happy that I spoke and had what to say! He told me that he always goes out and the conversation goes like this: So where do you teach? I teach in…. do you like it? Yes. and the guys like Helloooo say something??? some excitement? Any stories?? Show me that your alive and kicking???
June 14, 2011 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm #777643boredinofficeParticipantNot sure there has ever been a time in world history that a man ran a conversation 🙂
June 14, 2011 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #777644mewhoParticipantthe worst date is if there is no speaking. that works for the guy and the girl
June 14, 2011 8:44 pm at 8:44 pm #777645bptParticipantNot sure about the world at large, but in the little corner that I live in, I think its a good idea for 2 reasons:
1) Considering that his education / worldview experience is a fraction of what her’s is, if he’s allowed to talk for a few hours straight, there’s a chance he might say something intelligent.
2) Once married, he won’t be able to voice his opinion on anything (unless santioned by wife and / or shver – shvigger) so let him enjoy it while it lasts 🙂
June 14, 2011 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #777646aries2756ParticipantWhen we were kids there was a game we played with a paper that we wrote things on and folded up like origami. As we unfolded corner after corner, we had to talk about or enact something from the unfolded paper. There should be some kind of cube or dice or something small to take along on dates thats fun and keeps the conversation going. Can you imagine if the two concentrated on this piece and it says “adventure” and the couple on the date would have to discuss an adventure they experienced or it said “fear” so they discuss a fear they each had or something like that. Wouldn’t it be interesting. It certainly would be a conversation starter wouldn’t it?
June 14, 2011 9:14 pm at 9:14 pm #777647bptParticipant” It certainly would be a conversation starter wouldn’t it? “
Sure would. And when that fizzles out, he could always challenge her to a game of kugel’ach. (little does she know, he’s made it as far as 4th chelek!)
June 14, 2011 11:02 pm at 11:02 pm #777648aries2756Participantbpt, I never made it that far. Is that because of hand/eye coordination or speed?
June 16, 2011 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #777649bptParticipantIs that because of hand/eye coordination or speed?
No, its probably because you can’t splay out on the floor like us Bklyn, Chassidisheh yeshiva kids can.
June 17, 2011 12:12 am at 12:12 am #777650ItcheSrulikMemberbpt: Keep it up. The CR should appoint an official straight man for your jokes, they’re great. 🙂
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