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Ok, I just got this attack. I’m absolutely TERRIFIED!! I’ve no idea what’s in store for me. I daven real hard every day. But still…. Oh, I’m sooo scared!!:(
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uh oh…hope I’m not to blame.
Until you graduate high school you know what your next step is. Each year you go up a grade. After seminary, you enter the real world. Should I work? Should I go to school? Will I finish before I get married? If you do everything with Simcha and have Bitachon and Emuna everything falls into place.
From reading your posts you seem pretty level headed. Its normal to worry, just don’t get stuck in it.
Being afraid indicates a lack of emunah.
I know that logic would seem to dictate that one needs emunah as a pre-requisite to praying to HaSh-m,
BUT…
That is NOT necessarily true.
What you need to do is to Daven to HaSh-m FOR emunah.
Talk to HaSh-m. Tell Him you are afraid. Tell Him you are terrified. Tell Him to help you to have emunah. Daven HARD for emunah, and Daven for it OFTEN.
HaSh-m WILL answer you and strengthen your emunah.
When your emunah gets a little stronger, you will be able to daven even MORE strongly to HaSh-m for MORE emunah.
It’s a cycle. Pray for emunah, then emunah will help you pray (for MORE emunah) etc., etc., etc.
Perhaps you can start the process by thinking about the fact that HaSh-m HAS taken care of you until this moment. You have a roof over your head, you have a bed to sleep in, you have food to eat, you have clothes to wear. He HAS cared for you until now, so why would you think that He will stop in the future?
With that thought in mind, start the process of praying for greater emunah. You CAN achieve it. It’s up to you.
Watch out there. It’s a scary world out there! I know, been around some time. (hey that means I survived!)
wait are you going to E”Y for sem? cuz if yeah your lucky, you have a whole year away from real life…….im staying here next year and im really terrified..gotta get a job and stuff….i really dont wanna grow up……oh well……life moves on…
when was ur last shrink appt? i think its def something to discuss with him…..
lol not true!! im really not that bad…just i love school and when you leave school you lose connection with so many people…..
I’m not scared…I think the future will be better for ALL OF us.
‘teen
I have noticed many of your posts…. and I’m not sure why you repeatedly choose to believe in the worst of humanity.
Are there bad people out there? Heck yea. But there are so many more amazing ones! This doesn’t mean you have to walk around with your head in the sand, to be sure, but a cautious awareness is more than enough. Open up your eyes to the good in those around you and the world becomes a far less scary place.
This should be the most exciting time of your life. This is when you get to decide what you want to be and who you want to become. All your years of mandatory schooling have lead you to this point, where you make THAT decision. Don’t let the fear of the unknown get in the way of this incredible time. No one knows what the future has in store for them, and in a way thats a blessing. So get out there, put your best foot forward and give ’em hell!
cshapiro – “when was ur last shrink appt? i think its def something to discuss with him…..”
I think these teenagers would need a shrink if they wouldn’t be scared. It’s good to be scared, as long as you don’t become a “Henny Penny”. Too many people take life for granted and consider that happines is based on material things. They just go day to day trying to have as much creature comforts as possible.
“I think these teenagers would need a shrink if they wouldn’t be scared.”
Not so much. When I was a teenager I couldn’t wait to get out and ‘start’ my life… I still cant 😉
My point is that every person deals with change differently. If the fear is debilitating that it prevents you from moving forward that is when you call the shrink, a momentary freak out is fine.
Sac -“Not so much.”
Why did you post this, when you agree with me?
Did you read the rest of my post?
I don’t agree that teenagers who aren’t scared need to see a shrink.
Sac – I don’t necessary mean “scared”, but concerned. Some people are just too carefree and have no concern about anything of value in life.
In a teenager, this warrants seeing a shrink?
The best solution for your problem is VITAMIN A & B (Amunah/Bituchin)let hashem do his job. The best you can do is to daven and do mitzvahs. The rest is up to hashem.If you’ll trust in him he will do good and you’ll be really CALM!
Also take each day as it comes… Life is just too short to worry!
Hope this helped!
Sac – “In a teenager, this warrants seeing a shrink?”
It obviously depends on the degree. Many lifelong problems start during adolescence, such as smoking, alcohol or drug addictions. We won’t mention everything that occurs with this age group.
if anyone has a fear that is causing them anxiety i would say it would be justifiable to see a shrink…
I believe it is normal to feel a little bit of fear of the unknown. There is always a bit of fear mixed in with the excitement. WE know that no matter what we plan, there is no guarantee that it will turn out that way. We always have to account for bumps in the road and of course twists and turns. That also adds to the excitement but also the fear. Especially in kids. What if I forget to take….. What if my roommate…… what if ….. and what if….its par for the course. B”H teens have colorful imaginations. It only becomes a problem when the fears outweigh the excitement.
Observan- I think ur fear is tot normall! Ur about to step into a completely new world- adulthood.. Its going to be brand new and totally different than the school life that u r so accustomed to.. Change is scary! Real life, real worries- its big!! I remember having that same fear a couple years back by one of our graduation/goodbye parties. Just remember- whatever the future has in store 4 u- it is being planned by someone who loves u more than u can understand and knows EXACTLY what is best 4 u. U will NEVER be dealt with anything too difficult to handle. With that in mind- go tackle ur new life! Hashm is writing the script, and has only the best for u in store. I know u know a little about me from my ventings.. (and I hope that is not the cause 4 sum of ur fears..;) but I can say in all honestness, after being dealt with a few curves- I am such a different person, and I love it. Gd knows what hes doing!!
observan- yay so glad! It seems to me because u have such an awareness or fear or whatever it is that ur feeling about finding a zivug who will be good 4 u- u will be cautious and u will be fine..:)
lol me too. When ur ready to get engaged, look me up. Ill make sure hes normall.
For observan? Gimme his number!!!
I think ‘teen is a fraud.
Huh? Observanteen,are you engaged?
I am very impressed with your insights, obs, it seems to me that you are growing and always trying to find the right things to do. It is normal to be afraid of the future at your point in life, it is really the first major decision you are going to make, and it is so scary. Really there is not much more that you can do besides always trying to grow and do the right thing, so throw yourself in Hashem’s hands, daven a lot, be b’simcha, and iy’H, you will be zocheh to b’suros tovos, b’mheira.
‘teen
Did I say that you were an adult?
I just think you are misrepresenting yourself.
I have a very sensitive BS alarm… and it went off.
I believe observanteen is a 100% sincere Eved Hashem, as she represents herself here. Some folks’ alarms are ignorant of temimus’keit as represented by observanteen.
OK FL613 I really think i know who you are….!!!!!
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