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    sem graduate
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    I know someone who forgot to light on yom tov, the psak she received was that she needs to light an extra candle just on yom tov… not every week

    #845326
    yaakov doe
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    My wife lights the number of candles that she previously lit, plus the number that I lit while divorced. We have a whole lot of candles burning every Shabbos.

    #845327

    It cannot apply to yomtov since it is permitted to light candles on yomtov. As for yom kippur,lighting is a minhag for some, not a chiyuv like shabbos(see Shulchan Aruch O.C.610). It does not apply there either.

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    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Popcorn,

    That’s an unusual scenario, because one can still light after the z’man on Yom Tov, from an existing light.

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    Feif Un
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    adorable, you said your mother could only turn the lights off and on. When my wife was in the hospital (and she was there for multiple Shabbosim once), we were told that turning on a light (an incandescent bulb) is perfectly fine as Shabbos candles. The hospital she was in did not allow candles, so that was what she did. She did not have to add a candle, and she made a brachah on it when she did it.

    #845330
    lakewoodwife
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    I’m not sure about step children, but I did light for one of my foster children. We thought he would be with us long-term & he did not have a mother so our rav told me to light. He ended up leaving us and I continued lighting (as we don’t reduce kedusha). When my next child was born we asked whether to add or just count that one for her (we do have a minhag to add for each child) and were told to add.

    In terms of forgetting- I forgot once and the rav told me to add extra oil from then on. The reason it goes forever (and not just till Yom Kippur) is that it is not a punishment, but rather a reminder not to forget again.

    #845331
    HaLeiVi
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    DaasYochid, Shulchan Aruch is only for Hilchos Tachnun — as in when to be a stickler and ignore Minhag Hamakom.

    #845332
    popcorn
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    daasyochid…I was refering to missing Yom Tov candlelighting bec. one fell asleep(not feeling well)and woke up the next morning realizing they forgot to light Yom Tov licht.

    #845333
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    daasyochid…I was refering to missing Yom Tov candlelighting bec. one fell asleep(not feeling well)and woke up the next morning realizing they forgot to light Yom Tov licht.

    I don’t mean that it can’t happen. I mean since it’s unusual, there was no knas instituted.

    This is actually, IIRC, a machlokes, in which l’maaseh we are meikil because it’a a safek k’nas.

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