October 6, 2011 8:35 pm at 8:35 pm #599806
can someone please explain to me why the sefardi women dont work. I wanna marry a sefardi!!!!!!!October 6, 2011 8:38 pm at 8:38 pm #815797ronrsrMember
You are right to not want to work. Work is overrated.October 6, 2011 8:40 pm at 8:40 pm #815798
So don’t work. If that’s the life you want, you don’t need to be sefardi to do it.October 6, 2011 8:43 pm at 8:43 pm #815799ronrsrMember
you just need an alternate source of money. Is your daddy rich? Is your choson rich?October 6, 2011 8:43 pm at 8:43 pm #815800shlishiMember
adorable: Jewish women in general shouldn’t work. That a women does work needs explaining. That a woman doesn’t work needs no explaining.October 6, 2011 8:47 pm at 8:47 pm #815801
i agree that we shouldnt be working but daddy ain’t rich enough to support me forever and chosson is learning. ARRGHHOctober 6, 2011 9:32 pm at 9:32 pm #815802
Wait, you are complaining that your chosson is learning?
You don’t want him to learn? How will being sefardi help you? Are you saying that then you wouldn’t want him to learn?October 6, 2011 9:36 pm at 9:36 pm #815803mustangriderMember
sefaradic women DO work. most dont after they have children though.
and not all sefardim are rich.
anyway – arent you already engaged? 🙂October 6, 2011 9:38 pm at 9:38 pm #815804
yes what has that got to do with anything? I went out with my friend who just got married and is a sefardi. she worked for 2 days after she got married and now hangs out with all her sefardi women. no one in her world works when they get married.October 6, 2011 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm #815805mustangriderMember
i am in that world. we do work. after we have kids its another story – like i said.
however there are always exeptions…
i only made my last comment cuz you said you wanted to marry a sefardi when you are already engaged – it just sounded funny. 🙂October 6, 2011 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #815806Queen BeeMember
Okay, first of all: Shlishi, if a woman wants to work, she can. Don’t think less of her because of it. Some women contribute so much to the world. Also, these days two incomes are needed to raise children. Not everyone is rich or has other means of income. Personally, I wish I wouldn’t have to work, but that’s not because I am WOMAN. You are correct that when a woman has children it is preferable that she be home with them, but again, these days that’s really hard.
Second of all: adorable, I don’t want to criticize you, but a) you’re engaged! Be happy that you met your soul mate. Don’t complain. B) You’re making it seem like you’re upset with the man you chose. You chose a learner, so you have to prepare yourself for that lifestyle. Honestly, where is the money supposed to come from if you don’t want to work? I really don’t understand this. If a girl’s wish is to stay home, she should choose a guy with a stable job. But I think she should have a security net (like a college degree) so that if times get tough, she can get a job if needed.October 6, 2011 11:25 pm at 11:25 pm #815807doodle jumpParticipant
This is such blanket statement. You can’t group people together like that. There are rich people among s’fardim and rich among ashkenazim too. Most people that I know, have a two income family and not every woman wants to stay home all day long.October 6, 2011 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #815808shlishiMember
If a woman can stay home, she should. If she can’t, she can’t.
BTW Queen Bee, women contribute much more to this world at home than outside it.October 6, 2011 11:54 pm at 11:54 pm #815809Queen BeeMember
shlishi, you’re right that most women contribute more in their home than outside, but some women do have the talent and skill to help those outside of their homes. Not all women fit into one mold.October 7, 2011 12:45 am at 12:45 am #815810
You’re engaged to a sfardi?
Btw there are a lot of sfardim that I know that their wives work
(I don’t know where you get that generalazation from)October 7, 2011 7:02 am at 7:02 am #815811tahiniMember
I am married to a proud Sephardi, when we married he left the options up to me whether or not to work. Sephardim come from as varied backgrounds as Ashkenazim, generalizations are hard to follow. I worked whilst my husband learnt, than when we had children, he went to medical school as a mature student. Once he qualified I stayed home, raised my kids and studied too. Now we both work. For our 30th wedding annniversary we will be taking a sabbatical, back to studying in EY for a year! No one knows what the future holds, when we first married and he was a ” learner” I used to tutor at home to pay bills as I raised my babies. Life gives you lots of challenges but opportunities too!October 7, 2011 2:13 pm at 2:13 pm #815812
Sorry guys for worrying you! No i am not having second thoughts about my chosson. B”H I have no doubt in my mind that he is my soul mate no matter what. I was just commenting on how interesting it is that most of the sefardi women dont work. My cousin told me that she works with a single sefardi girl in a sefardi elementary school and when she asked her co-worker why they dont have enough of their own sefardi girls to teach (meaning why are they hiring my cousin who is not sefardi. why dont they hire within their own circles) she said because none of my single friends work. she said they have clubs and groups all day and dont work!October 7, 2011 2:45 pm at 2:45 pm #815814
So you got that generalization from one sfardi girl?October 7, 2011 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #815815
no way! one of my closest friends is a sefardi and i got it from knowing her and her family (all her married sibs are stay-at-home moms! and shes part of a huge family) and her cousins and her neighbors…..October 7, 2011 3:03 pm at 3:03 pm #815816
Well then, the answer to your question is:
Sefardi women don’t work because their husbands don’t learn.October 7, 2011 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm #815817
But even when they just get married and their husbands are learning. I guess they are fully supported down to the last dime but they also have no structure in their lives thenOctober 9, 2011 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm #815819
Are they rich and can afford itOctober 9, 2011 7:18 pm at 7:18 pm #815820estherhamalkaMember
Ummm….Sephardic married female here with children…. I worked when I was newly married until 2 months before my first was born(had to be on complete bed rest due to a hard pregnancy)and I haven’t worked a day since! It’s not because I don’t want to,I would love to go out every day and have a set schedule,instead of ‘hmmmmm…..what should I do today?shop,clean this room,or that one,laundry…etc….’ I would love to be on a schedule,but unfortunately,with kids you just never know when you need to run to the dr or other things that just somehow manage to come up. I don’t have any immediate family members that can help with child care so that I can work. If I were to pay a babysitter,or for that matter,a live in housekeeper,then I wouldn’t have much of a check to deposit,so I chose to be home and take care of my kids and house all by myself. I don’t belong to any group,or club foe that matter either. I’m lucky if I have a chance to catch a shout an hour a week!
So,not all Sephardic women who stay at home are rich(I’m not)nor are they all frequenting card games and saks fifth ave or getting manicures and massages and having luck every day! Sometimes it just works out better that way! I would love to get a break from the kids and the housework and work parttime…I can use a bit of freshair…but that will have to wait until the youngest goes to school full time….October 9, 2011 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm #815821estherhamalkaMember
Should read ‘catch a shiur’ an hour a week,and ‘having LUNCH’….please correct,thanks!
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