Segula for a Shidduch
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August 18, 2010 4:00 am at 4:00 am #592175lol…Member
Anyone know of any Segulos for a Shidduch?August 18, 2010 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #693231bptParticipant
When I entered the dating circut, my father told me, “if she will marry you, despite your shortcomings, you should be willing to overlook her shortcomings.
It worked for him, and it worked for me!August 18, 2010 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm #693232
Find other ppl who are also in need of a shidduch and daven for each other. I know a group of single girls who each have a chelek of tehillim to say every night so that the entire tehillim is completed every night as a zechus for a shidduch. Its amazing how many girls from that group are engaged/married, and new girls take over. B’hatzlacha!August 18, 2010 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm #693233Mayan_DvashParticipant
I heard that you should have in mind yourself or someone who needs a shidduch when saying Kiddush Levana. This was at a Shavuos night shiur given by Harav Laibel Katz. His source was a sefer written by the Steipler or one of his sons, if I recall correctly.August 18, 2010 4:13 pm at 4:13 pm #693234
Mayan Dvash- i also heard about Kiddush Levana- i actually know of some girls who said it (obviously privately)… Well they are married now;)August 18, 2010 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #693235laguyMember
The best segulah I heard of is dating…August 18, 2010 6:47 pm at 6:47 pm #693236Pashuteh YidMember
What kind of wine do you need for kiddush levana?August 18, 2010 7:06 pm at 7:06 pm #693237
I’m not sure if the following ideas qualify as segulos but i do know that they work….
#1 Let shadchanim (professional and non professional) know that you trully appreciate the ridiculous amount of time, effort and dedication that it takes to get even one date off the ground. Let them know that you are commited to compensating them for that. (Each person would decide what is appropriate compenstion for the result of getting to a date #2/date #4.)
This works plain and pashut, it has been tested will fantastic results…August 18, 2010 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #693238rtParticipant
for a boy, take a nap erev Shabbos, that’s what Adam HaRishon didAugust 18, 2010 8:01 pm at 8:01 pm #693239apushatayidParticipant
LAGuy has the best segula yet.August 18, 2010 8:22 pm at 8:22 pm #693240Dr. PepperParticipant
Welcome back!August 18, 2010 9:02 pm at 9:02 pm #693241bptParticipant
I was going to use that line, too! (Nice to see I’m not the onlu wisecracker in the group)August 19, 2010 12:15 am at 12:15 am #693242sof davar hakol nishmaMember
TefillaAugust 19, 2010 1:50 am at 1:50 am #693243HealthParticipant
Pashuteh yid – Kamyan z”l used to say -“How are you mekadesh the Levanah- with Kesef, Shtarr or etc…?”August 19, 2010 1:52 am at 1:52 am #693244HealthParticipant
Laguy – What if you can’t get a date?August 19, 2010 2:15 am at 2:15 am #693245
#2- For girls- Find ways to encourage close in age shidduchim. Simply put that will give the individual a better chance of having someone to marry. Once againg I don’t know if this is a segula but it certainly helps the general klal as well as the individual.
for boys it is certainly a segula as chazal tell us helping someone in a situation that you yourself need help evokes siyata dishmaya in that same realm)August 19, 2010 3:33 am at 3:33 am #693246dunnoMember
Noooo!! Not the age gap again!!!August 19, 2010 3:55 am at 3:55 am #693247
dunno: I’m sorry if that bothers you, but alleviating the Age Gap is clearly the greatest “segula” out there.August 19, 2010 7:26 am at 7:26 am #693248tomim tihyeMember
I’m not a big segula-doer, but I did receive THE call (“I have THE guy for you…”) on the fortieth consecutive day of my recital of Shir HaShirim!August 19, 2010 1:56 pm at 1:56 pm #693249pantherMember
There is this segulah that you light a candle for forty consecutive days. when you light it you say that it’s ‘l’zecher nishmas Rav Menachem Mendel ben Reb Yosef M’riminov Zechuso yagen aleinu’ and have in mind the shidduch (or any other thing) also you should have in mind to publish somewhere that you were helped thru that. ( and to really write it somewhere in a public forum)August 19, 2010 2:25 pm at 2:25 pm #693250
Figure out a way to have boys come to lakewood before their 23rd birthday.
That would create an additonal 600 kallas over the next few years.
sounds like a great segula to me
AZ this thread is about segulas. Please start another thread if you like. We haven’t had an age gap thread for quite a while.August 19, 2010 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm #693251
panther- i’ve heard of that too! Someone who does it said that on the 40th day always something good happened (the shidduch was read…etc.)
p.s. its not just for shiddduchim its for a ny bakasha.August 19, 2010 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm #693252pantherMember
i did put in that it’s for anything.August 19, 2010 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #693253
Oops, your right-sorry I didn’t notice.August 19, 2010 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #693254justdavenMember
Just Daven! (Winning the lottery also wouldn’t hurt.)August 23, 2010 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm #693255bein_hasdorimParticipant
Be honest and upfront, but don’t dispense all your baggage on the first date. also for girls, dont wear too much makeup!
you’re all beautiful just the way you are.
You dont want him to go running and call the cops,
the first time he sees you w/o makeup, saying
“there’s someone else in the house!”August 23, 2010 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm #693256
bein hasdorim-hahahahahaha. Btw, in general, not just for dating, girls should not wear too much makeup regardless.
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