A recent issue of a Jewish magazine had an article about an initiative for the above to help some of the 700 BMG guys who get married, and wondering whether any posters have taken this course. I do wonder, though, whether the young men and women experienced the type of shalom bayis at home as is being promoted. Any thoughts?
What do you mean by whether they experienced it at home?
What is the type of shalom bayis that is being promoted? Is your question, “Did people have the same type of problems?” Or do you mean, “did they have the same type of results?”
I am glad to hear that such a program is being started, Do you know how I can get information on it? I know people who might want to know about it.
The shame is that they don’t have shalom bayis programs BEFORE they get married which would limit major strife and problems. It’s healthy to get out of the Bais or the kitchen once in a while to learn this stuff, it’s a shame some people are so close minded and won’t work on themselves
But the only problem with the idea is most couples who need the help will have to big of an ego to go get help. It’s like the people who engross themselves in mussar are the better ones, and the ones who need it more don’t work on themselves.
Aren’t there pre-marriage shalom bayis programs nowadays? Somehow, I thought there were, but I don’t know. Does anyone else know? Also doesn’t the Kallah teacher do some of that?
I think everyone probably needs it, so it is probably helpful for whoever goes even if there are others who need it more. Adraba, if the people who need it less go than it won’t be embarrassing for the ones who need it more to go.
It would be great if it becomes the norm.
Even though I think it’s important to have something beforehand, I would guess that there are things that you can only really discuss afterwards when they’re l’maaseh. I think people probably need both.
It sounds like a couple thing where both participate together. I think it’s a great idea and hopefully will be something to implement.
Forecast Barriers to Shalom Bayis classes:
*Cost of attendance
*Timing/Needs to work with both the kallah and chosson’s schedules
It sounds like it would be very beneficial to do this in preparation for marriage..it could boost communication and teach couples how to best cope with stress and circumstances in theit future.