“Why/how is that bad?”
Becasue it is a waste of time/effort and has lead to the shidduch crises.
Many girls are turned down for absurd reasons. Once people go out, I doubt that the fact that her father wears a blue shirt ain mul ah yoivel would shter the shiduch. It puts up artificial barriers that prevents people from ever meeting
How�s �different expectations� explain why the Litvish should partially switch to the MO model?
Ayin DY’s comment .
I’ll elaborate just a bit: The point of dating should be for marriage not just for the sake of dating