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January 5, 2015 6:44 pm at 6:44 pm #614611ED IT ORParticipant
i dunno what all the fuss is, chazal saw this coming and only made the cherem derabeinu gershom on having more than 1 wife for like couple thousand years which has apparently expired…..
January 5, 2015 7:02 pm at 7:02 pm #1054390popa_bar_abbaParticipantIt hasn’t been “like couple thousand years” since the cherem.
January 5, 2015 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm #1054391picturesqMemberWho’s stopping you from taking another wife? Have a chupa v’kedushin and mazal tov. But if most frum men have multiple wives, like the Yemenite Jews, wouldn’t that just reverse the problem?
January 5, 2015 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm #1054392👑RebYidd23ParticipantMost women would not allow their husbands to have another wife.
January 5, 2015 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #1054393picturesqMemberI guess those that do want it will make sure to marry the first time only to someone who doesn’t object.
January 21, 2015 1:02 pm at 1:02 pm #1054396wehavegotitallworkedoutMemberWe also thought there would be room for seconds, but it has proved quiet the opposite.
One at a time is enough.
January 21, 2015 1:33 pm at 1:33 pm #1054397☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantHey, od Joseph choy! When did that happen?
January 21, 2015 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #1054398☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantIt hasn’t been “like couple thousand years” since the cherem.
And it wasn’t Chazal, it was Rabbenu Gershom, from the early Rishonim. (The term Chazal is generally used to refer to Tannaim and Amoraim).
January 21, 2015 2:23 pm at 2:23 pm #1054399👑RebYidd23ParticipantIt has been like a couple thousand years.
January 21, 2015 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm #1054400ED IT ORParticipanti ran out of fingers at 8
January 21, 2015 5:18 pm at 5:18 pm #1054401FrumRavMemberThe cherem was anacted in 1008 and was only suppose to last a thousand years
January 21, 2015 9:08 pm at 9:08 pm #1054402interjectionParticipantIf it’s halachically acceptable, what’s stopping you (as in those that want it) from getting a second marriage?
Then again, the charmers who actually think they want two probably aren’t being that great husbands to the first. I’m not sure how exactly a guy is going to court a second wife. I wonder how that conversation would go when this maybe-soon-to-be fiance, calls the wife to ask if he’s good husband material.
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