Shidduch Crisis – Solution before the problem

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    ED IT OR
    Participant

    i dunno what all the fuss is, chazal saw this coming and only made the cherem derabeinu gershom on having more than 1 wife for like couple thousand years which has apparently expired…..

    #1054390
    popa_bar_abba
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    It hasn’t been “like couple thousand years” since the cherem.

    #1054391
    picturesq
    Member

    Who’s stopping you from taking another wife? Have a chupa v’kedushin and mazal tov. But if most frum men have multiple wives, like the Yemenite Jews, wouldn’t that just reverse the problem?

    #1054392
    👑RebYidd23
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    Most women would not allow their husbands to have another wife.

    #1054393
    picturesq
    Member

    I guess those that do want it will make sure to marry the first time only to someone who doesn’t object.

    #1054396

    We also thought there would be room for seconds, but it has proved quiet the opposite.

    One at a time is enough.

    #1054397

    Hey, od Joseph choy! When did that happen?

    #1054398
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    It hasn’t been “like couple thousand years” since the cherem.

    And it wasn’t Chazal, it was Rabbenu Gershom, from the early Rishonim. (The term Chazal is generally used to refer to Tannaim and Amoraim).

    #1054399
    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    It has been like a couple thousand years.

    #1054400
    ED IT OR
    Participant

    i ran out of fingers at 8

    #1054401
    FrumRav
    Member

    The cherem was anacted in 1008 and was only suppose to last a thousand years

    #1054402
    interjection
    Participant

    If it’s halachically acceptable, what’s stopping you (as in those that want it) from getting a second marriage?

    Then again, the charmers who actually think they want two probably aren’t being that great husbands to the first. I’m not sure how exactly a guy is going to court a second wife. I wonder how that conversation would go when this maybe-soon-to-be fiance, calls the wife to ask if he’s good husband material.

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