July 18, 2011 3:39 pm at 3:39 pm #786963adorableParticipant
WOW! sorry for the distress that you are going through but I did not mean to hurt you in any way what so ever and neither did D. Pepper.July 18, 2011 3:40 pm at 3:40 pm #786964adorableParticipant
I think mother’s have to make sure they are finding their sons a wife that’s suitable for them and not a girl that would be a good daughter in law for them.July 18, 2011 4:19 pm at 4:19 pm #786965hanibParticipant
my fingers just couldn’t resist. 🙂July 18, 2011 7:54 pm at 7:54 pm #786966oomisParticipant
Adorable, a wife that is suitable for their son, SHOULD be a good daughter-in-law for the mothers, IMO. If she inherently would be a bad DIL, then she probably would not be the best role model for the children the son will help bring into the world. There is suitable, and there is suitable. Not everyone can love her DIL and not every DIL can love her MIL, but there should be mutual respect shown to them, or the son will be caught in a tug of war between them.July 18, 2011 9:26 pm at 9:26 pm #786967Legen-daryMember
btw- sometimes its not the mother thats picky, but the father/ just saying.July 18, 2011 10:47 pm at 10:47 pm #786968oomisParticipant
That reminds me of a bad joke:
A guy is commiserating with his friend.”I can;t seem to find the right girl. I brought home girl after girl and my mother said no to all of them. Finally, I found THE girl. My mother loved her. She RAVED about her. She was absolutely crazy about her and said she reminded her of herself as a young woman.”
“So what happened?” the friend asked.
“My FATHER hated her.”July 18, 2011 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm #786969walton157Member
There’s the problem in itself: How can a young man of marriageable age make up his own mind when we keep calling him a “boy”. “Boys” do not make adult decisions. Adults make adult decisions. Same goes for the “girls”. How about “young men and young women”?July 18, 2011 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm #786970love a yidMember
DONT GET ME GOING ON THIS ONE …….ENJOY BEING SINGLE ….
NO RUSH KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!July 18, 2011 11:09 pm at 11:09 pm #786971Another nameParticipant
Walton, well said! Especially as the singles get older it is extremely demeaning to refer to them as boys and girls.July 19, 2011 1:36 am at 1:36 am #786972a maminParticipant
oomis: Been there done that, it doesnt work either! it’s not a good idea from a frum point of view either.
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