September 16, 2010 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm #592373superficialMember
I am beginning the process of Shidduchim soon. Before I start I would like to read Hashkafically sound material by leading Rabbonim. Can anyone reccomend any such books or a website with Articles?September 16, 2010 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #712463SacrilegeMember
Shidduchim Sholom Bayis & Beyond.
Good Luck and enjoy the ride, dont take it too personally and remember everything is from Hash-m.September 16, 2010 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm #712464
TRY THE COFFEE ROOM VA’AD HARABONIM.JUST KIDDINGSeptember 16, 2010 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #712465tzippiMember
Hatzlacha! May you find the right one at the obviously right time, and build a BNB together.
There is a plethora of books out there, just check the major Judaica houses and you’re bound to find one that resonates; I’m sure people here will share their faves.
But don’t discount the positive effect of a good ongoing relationship with a mentor – family rav/rebbetzin, mashgiach or other teacher from yeshiva or sem (not sure which you went to), etc. This kind of relationship is essential.September 16, 2010 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #712466dylonMember
The books you will read will all tell you that you should not wait to fall in love before getting married. While there is of course good reason for giving that warning , I believe that it can be in some cases taken too litteraly.The result is two peple agreeing to spend the rest of their lives together with having any true feeling for each other.That scenario will surely lead to either a divrce, or to a marriage without love.So surely you dont have to be head over heals for each other ,but its important to at least have strong positive feelings for one another.September 16, 2010 10:04 pm at 10:04 pm #712467bptParticipant
I’m with Eclipse, but not kidding. The CR will give you loads of advise (some sound, all conversation worthy).
Um, just a suggestion… you might want to keep your member name a secret. Superficial is NOT how you want to present youself in shidduchland. If your true self is not substance, now would be a good time to start developing some!November 25, 2010 10:21 pm at 10:21 pm #712468
Has anyone ever tried SawYouAtSinai?does anyone know anyone personally who has?apparently they protect everyone cuz no one sees anyone’s profile unless a match is being set up.November 25, 2010 10:46 pm at 10:46 pm #712469Fast ForwardMember
Yes, I do know someone who met his wife on SawYouAtSinai. As far as I know, they have reputable shadchanim working there. Hatzalacha!November 26, 2010 12:41 am at 12:41 am #712470kapustaParticipant
This is not a book, but its a shiur by Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky on dating and marriage. Definitely worth listening to.November 26, 2010 2:26 am at 2:26 am #712471
FW,thank you.November 26, 2010 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #712472Fast ForwardMember
Eclipse, you are welcome.
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