Shidduchim Stigma’s isn’t the way to go.

Let’s end the stigma now

The middos of emunah and bitachon, they people with mental illness, personify these middos, and of what the Rebbe of Kotzk says on the Gemarah Bava Metzia says that יאוש שלא מדעת which means that a person who gives up on his life is שלא מדעת.

And that’s what you should be looking for in a shidduch and soul-mate any way by a boy and girl because it says in Mishlei (30) and in “Eishes Chayil” that: “Grace is false and beauty is in vain. It is a G-d-fearing woman that should be praised.” And that’s what you should be looking for in a shidduch: A person who has good midos and Yiras Hashem, the middos of emunah and bitachon. You have a benefit with these people who were עומד בנסיוןand haven’t given up on their lives, and they have maturity – these are some of the malos they have. And they should be sought after because of these “kamoh malos tovos.”

The Chinuch writes: We have an obligation to go in the ways of Hashem Yisborach to be merciful. Just as Hashem is merciful, so, too, we should be merciful, etc.” (Mitzvah 611). So we shouldn’t have a stigma with marrying people who have mental illness. which is brought down in the Gemarah (Yevomos 79a), which is one of the signs of Klal Yisroel, and not have, G-d forbid, cruelness, because they, the people that have mental illness, know that that’s what Hashem gave them as their nisasyon, and it’s discrimination to think that this is any worse than someone who has diabetes or heart problems.

IT is very sad that people judge someone that takes medicine, not based on the qualities they have as a talmid chochom, or are a yeri shomayim, or a mechaber of seforim, or best bochur in his shiur, or have a good heart. And the same thing is by a girl. People look at them as if they are a piece of medicine, and not a person, and do not treat them like a regular people.

If people would give them a chance to show their qualities and they would treat them like a mentch thatit so happens that he has a nisasyon and is on medicine, treat them like people and not like pills. a person that has feeling’s and is smart and is masmid, then you would give the person a chance to see if he is compatible with you, and if you have things in common with him or her, “a gem to people with a faith of steel’ they teach the world to how to live and how to give and how to believe, if i could look into their heart i would see the face of G-d.

Some people think that they hold a candle to G-d so to say, if thing’s are a certain way in the life especially good by them it will never change to bad, they think they areפארזיכערט to only have good, and they are balei gavos about this, for all it takes is a moment, and they will be traumatized and they will be put on medicine’ , and they will need to go to see a psychiatrist and a psychologist, for all it takes is a moment what every way, and their lives will be turned upside down, for heaven sake why are we treating people on medicine, like a pariah and a second class person, and why do we discrimnate against them, we should realize that they have done nothing wrong, but they have fulfilled the dictum in Tanach “A righteous person will live because of his faith” (Habakkuk 2:4) and they have not rebelled against Hashem, but believed in him through their suffering.

So shame on you to discrimnate against such precious righteous people: “who carry on when hope is gone, that you live for will come true’, they have weathered all the storm’s they have all come and gone,you are the unsung heroes of the world’, so let’s end the stigma now of not marrying people with mental illness.

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