June 15, 2018 1:15 pm at 1:15 pm #1540559
In the news, how at weddings shadchonim are invited and shiduchim are created. I think this is a very good idea.June 15, 2018 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1540648
Where/what is this news?June 15, 2018 5:12 pm at 5:12 pm #1540654June 16, 2018 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #1540689
I don’t want to take away the business from the shadchonim. A married couple can create a shidduch. The wife knowing the girl and the husband knowing the boy. I made a shidduch like this with my late wife a’h who passed away more than eight years ago.June 16, 2018 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #1540690
This idea appears to be highly questionable at it is impossible to do the proper research on the shidduch being redt if the date is occurring virtually immediately after it is redt.
One of the primary reasons boys and girls don’t meet before carefully considering the shidduch, is because we don’t want them to become infatuated to the point it’ll be difficult or impossible to break it off before background information indicating an hashkafic or other incompatibility becomes known. Parents and the boys and girls cannot rely on the shadchan to find or even know of all incompatibilities. Especially on such a short time frame.June 16, 2018 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm #1540743Takes2-2tangoParticipant
Joseph , did your shadchan know about your infatuation of multiple wives?June 17, 2018 2:07 am at 2:07 am #1540748unomminParticipant
Pity we cannot be normal and let people meet under normal circumstances and be normal. Let people be normal. Nope, we clearly can’t do that; ergo, CRISIS.June 17, 2018 1:16 pm at 1:16 pm #1540966yitzchokmParticipant
Take two – lol
But Joseph hits the nail on the head, I think it’s highly inappropriate.June 17, 2018 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #1540967yitzchokmParticipant
Premarital relations are also considered “normal”June 17, 2018 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #1541214👑RebYidd23Participant
Where is it considered normal? In some places, it’s considered normal to be very offended by a thumbs up.June 17, 2018 11:15 pm at 11:15 pm #1541251
“Where is it considered normal?”
By gentiles and non-Orthodox Jews.June 19, 2018 8:41 am at 8:41 am #1542038RBS_gimmelParticipant
part of the problem is that we’re forced into a Catch 22 situation.
One one hand we *have* to get married.
on the other hand, we *can’t* do it on our own (boys and girls meet freely on the street)
so we’re at the disposal of the shadchanim
not every husband/wife combo are a good shadchan (you have to know how to present things, how to “bend the truth”, etc. etc.) – so the REAL shadchan does need to take an active role
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