May 17, 2011 5:00 am at 5:00 am #770834☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
A parent can never spend too-much time with the kids.
I think I’ll quit my job and pull my kids out of school so that I can spend every possible moment with them.May 17, 2011 1:36 pm at 1:36 pm #770835zahavasdadParticipant
Boys have school many nights until 9pm and Sunday until 3 or 4 pm.
Kids need some time off. I know of Boys who have a Chavursa during RECESS at School.
Recess is not meant for a short Chavursa, Its meant for a BREAK.
If you want to say Bittul Torah, fine, but then everything not learning is Bittul Torah. Is Eating and Sleeping Bittul Torah.
Rav Nissim Alpert once had a tooth extracted because he did not want to “waste” the time in the dentist chair to fix it.May 17, 2011 1:52 pm at 1:52 pm #770836gavra_at_workParticipant
I think I’ll quit my job and pull my kids out of school so that I can spend every possible moment with them.
If you can do it, Kol HaKavod. In no way is it a bad thing (assuming you don’t get to the point of smothering, which is another issue).May 25, 2011 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm #770837adorableParticipant
BSD- how did your kids react to your decision?May 25, 2011 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #770838chaplaintzviMember
Daas Yochid I know you are being sarcastic, but… I know from personal experience with my kids who go to both by’s and yeshivahs when we spoke to the rebbeim and principals about taking what they call “mental days, they were all for it. Afew even said one day a month. I don’t know if i agree with that but we choose very carefully and it has to be if the child really needs it and it is a worthwhile activity or occasion. And then I had one R”Hayeshiva say that my son could not help me while I was sitting shiva for my father z”tl while rest of family went to work or school.He is the only one that drives. He was indespensible to me and my mother. I was glad I didn’t listen it would have been much harder on us both.He didn’t say anything after all was said and doneMay 25, 2011 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm #770839☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
I said in an earlier post that if the specific situation demanded, it is appropriate to allow an occasional day off. The specific situation here was not presented as that, but rather, that the kids wanted to go to The Great Parade.
One poster responded that there’s no such thing as too much time with kids, to which I demonstrated, in my sarcastic way (good pickup), that it seems to be easier to spend time with the kids (with no specific need) at the expense of learning than at the expense of losing money by taking a day off of work.
I will point out the same thing about your son and the shiva; the one who learns was available, the ones who work or go to school were not. Of course, the fact that only he drives might have been the only deciding factor, in which case it might have been justified.May 26, 2011 10:53 am at 10:53 am #770840BSDMember
Adorable- Thanx for remembering. I don’t have time to post an answer now(it’s not a one liner) I’ll be back be”h.?May 26, 2011 4:11 pm at 4:11 pm #770841adorableParticipant
ok cant wait. anyone went and wanna report how it was in the end?
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