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I was a little disturbed upon seeing ads and getting an email for Frumster.com. Although many people use their service, it doesn’t seem to me as the yeshiva way of meeting your spouse. After all, the site is called Yeshiva World!! Am I old fashioned, out of touch, or do I have a point?
Neither.
They should. Not all yeshivas look down on the Frumster method of dating, and not all yeshivos are black hat.
you’re old fashioned, out of touch but have a point.
you are a bit out of touch. I grew up in the yeshivish world, bais yaacov and all, and at a ripe age after seeing TO MANY SHADCHANIM THAT PUT ME DOWN OR ASKED USELESS QUESTIONS about me or my family, I decided to finally go on a FRUM dating website….and low and behold! I met my husband! I have many many many friends who have had the same experience. I also have many many many friends who dont, and are single, alone and just a bit sad to say the least. There are sites our there that are not good and not “yeshivish” but I do not know that frumster is one of them. Do you? Have you tried it?
tikvuchka-
I agree 100%. After a certain point I realized that I would not be finding my wife through a professional shadchan. I’m a male though so I still had lots of names coming in from friends and neighbors.
Would I have used Frumster if I was a female? I can’t answer that question.
I did not use frumster, I actually have heard the site is not very good and screening people. I do know that sawyouatsimai.com and many others are good. I had names, but the shadchanim were protective of them…and I did not feel the need to fight to the finish for a boy who was just slightly average.
Tikvuchka –
I case you missed it, there was a thread last week called musical chairs and shidduchim. I would love to hear your take on this thread. Much of what was posted was from married people, and I think it would be a real eye-opener if we could hear how you see things from the insiders perspective.
I’m a big advocate of taking the initiative in dating after a certain point, as apparently you are too. It would be interesting to see how close we are to putting a new spin on a situation that has gotten too big to ignore, and in some ways, out of control.
I met my wife through frumster.com. We both had had terrible luck with shadchanim. After corresponding through frumster through five weeks we finally met in person. We got engaged on our second in-person date, and we remain happily married 5 1/2 years later.
One of the great advantages of frumster is that it creates dating opportunites for people who live in smaller communities. My wife and I were in different cities and we might never had met had it not been for frumster. As you might guess, I enthusiastically endorse it.
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