Does one sit shiva the full seven seven days for a child who intermarried or converted, or do they sit for a lesser number of days?
I thought that was bubbe meises.
Thats a good question.
How about for a sibling who intermarried or a parent??
Is it still your child? Born a Jew always a Jew, born your child always your child. Why wouldn’t YOU do the right thing for your family whether they did the right thing or not. How does that absolve you of your obligations to your family members. As others always seem to throw in for lesser important issues, two wrongs don’t make a right. IMHO, if a family member goes off the derech that does not mean that they are no longer you family and you don’t have to carry out your obligations towards them.
Isn’t this a question to ask of a Rav, not a bunch on anonymous people on a blog?
Isn’t this an opinion question and not a halacha question? It wasn’t prefaces with what is the halacha regarding….
Going off the derech is one thing. But intermarrying or shmadding, and you break off all contact with that person after sitting shiva for him/her.
It’s not bubbe maises. I don’t know the exact makor but when I was in a history class my teacher (a brilliant man, and a rav as well) said that it comes from Rabbeinu Gershon who supposedly sat shiva when his son converted to Christianity, though there’s a question about a girsa with the story. It is well known however that R’ Shlomo Eiger sat shiva when his son R’ Leibel became a chosid (I think of the Kotzker). While I’m not suggesting we learn from that, and as the story goes R’ Akiva Eiger, R’ Shlomo’s father, disagreed with him, you certainly see the concept of sitting shiva when someone converts out of the religion. I don’t know what the source for sitting shiva for intermarriage is though.
Everything is based on halacha. A question like this is incontrovertibly a halachic question. There isn’t anything wrong with discussing a halachic question in a forum. Obviously no answers are considered psak din, just a halachic discussion.
“A question like this is incontrovertibly a halachic question”
Ask your LOR.