December 5, 2013 6:47 pm at 6:47 pm #611481WIYMember
I really have a hard time talking to slow talkers. Whenever I want to say something I always realize they haven’t finished what they were in middle of saying and I always end up feeling bad like I just cut them off in middle of speaking. Talk faster all you slow talkers out there!
I actually had to stop myself from cutting you off mid-postDecember 5, 2013 6:58 pm at 6:58 pm #999365miritchkaMember
Shame on you! I happen to be a ‘normal – to – fast paced talker’ and recently found myself tripping over my words making me slow down a bit. I’m not a slow talker, and i do understand where you’re coming from, but now that this started happening to me, I understand the feelings of the “slow talker”! Think before you speak! (in fact, that may be why people talk slow..maybe try to emulate them instead of knocking them)December 5, 2013 7:13 pm at 7:13 pm #999366TheGoqParticipant
We midwesterners like to think about what we say before we blurt it out unlike east coasters who talk without thinking.December 5, 2013 7:26 pm at 7:26 pm #999367Little FroggieMember
I wanted to..
I wanted to tell you that.
I wanted to tell you that, what?
Oh, I wanted to tell you that maybe you should, forget it.
Oh yes, I wanted to tell you that maybe you should have patience for us less fortunate in our oratory proficiency skills.
In the (very) end, the (very) long run, it’s worth while to hear us out!!December 5, 2013 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #999368hanz keglParticipant
its not the slow talkers who drive me insane its the slow thinkersDecember 5, 2013 8:45 pm at 8:45 pm #999369pou_bearMember
WIY- I hear you , I have the same problem- yes its a problem!
I never noticed I did it until one friend put me in my place. In essence what we are saying to the speaker is that we couldn’t care less about what they are saying. (its probably a bit of ADD)December 5, 2013 9:14 pm at 9:14 pm #999370SaysMeMember
Hang around them til you learn to hear them out and be more patient.
On a similar note, general awareness notice: don’t finish a sentence or a word for a stutterer!December 5, 2013 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm #999371Torah613TorahParticipant
Ask them to repeat themselves in order to teach yourself patience.December 5, 2013 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm #999372WIYMember
I have no patience to work on patience.December 5, 2013 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm #999373fkellyMember
I’m with you hanz kegl!
I have a friend who stutters and it really taught me patience!December 6, 2013 10:45 am at 10:45 am #999374👑RebYidd23Participant
Why punish others to teach oneself patience?December 6, 2013 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #999375popa_bar_abbaParticipant
I just interru–December 6, 2013 4:26 pm at 4:26 pm #999376👑RebYidd23Participant
To be human is to elevate thmundane into the spiritual. You are more than a person, you’re an elevator!December 6, 2013 4:32 pm at 4:32 pm #999377Torah613TorahParticipant
Translate it into another language, like Hebrew, as they speak.December 6, 2013 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm #999378writersoulMember
I’m in the middle of the opposite problem- I talk too quickly, and I have to give a very important presentation in school on Monday. So I need to practice my presentation OVER and OVER to make sure people can actually tell what I’m saying.
Actually, I have the same problem with people, like if I know what they’re going to say I have to avoid finishing their sentences. I then had a DMC with my cousin who stutters and she told me how horrible it is when people finish her sentences, so I’m working REALLY hard to stop it.
Whenever it really annoys me, I just focus on how annoying it must be when I talk a mile a minute and people can’t tell what I’m saying, and I feel sorry for THEM.December 6, 2013 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm #999379SaysMeMember
wiy- ”no patience to work on patience”
then kal v’chomer. seriously, get cracking. You’ve got a middah clearly shown to you to be worked on. Thats a bracha. Nu?January 21, 2014 3:55 am at 3:55 am #999380ywnjudyParticipant
Goq, I’m not sure it’s necessarily East Coasters who talk without thinking, rather it’s the shallow culture which has caught hold in OJ society.
I once read a letter to editor of CY Magazine, and mind you, that was =years= ago.
This girl emphasized that she first learned the true meaning of communication when she entered college. It was there she observed with amazement that each person who had the floor, got to finish a complete thought without interruption.
But OJ schools (as far as i know) aren’t that way, rather more like a circus. The worst part is – that OJ’ers don’t realize how abnormal it is, to chat aimlessly, at high speed, with constant interruptions.
Did you know that when Rav Elchonon Wasserman once visited Tel Aviv, he held his hand over his ears with a pained expression, because all the honking denoted impatience. And that was so ANATHEMA to his nature, that it actually caused him pain.January 21, 2014 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #999381oomisParticipant
One of my friends is like that, and I have to admit it drives me nuts until she gets to the point of something. But I listen anyway.January 21, 2014 9:38 pm at 9:38 pm #999383sunlightinjerusalemParticipant
Your pardon, ywnjudy, but when would Rav Elchonon Wasserman have been in Tel Aviv?January 21, 2014 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #999384Little FroggieMember
Right on. Thinking the same thing.January 21, 2014 11:09 pm at 11:09 pm #999385funnyboneParticipant
So, there are stutterers. I try to have patience for them. I realize that it’s important for their deficiency that people listen to them without them feeling pressure. It isn’t easy, but I have patience for them.
Then there are the slow talkers. C’mon! Move it!
And last there are the people who have no idea what the end of their thought is. I have absolutely no patience for them. Ooops! My wife just walked in! How did she know that I was writing about her! Gotta go!January 22, 2014 1:41 am at 1:41 am #999386writersoulMember
Tel Aviv was founded in 1909, but I have no clue if R’ Elchonon ever was there.January 23, 2014 8:18 am at 8:18 am #999387sm29Participant
i understand both. It’s hard to wait for someone, I mean a person in general who talks slow, to finish what they are trying to say. But it does give us good practice of patience. It’s hard to not interrupt, but it’s better to wait.January 23, 2014 2:26 pm at 2:26 pm #999388Avram in MDParticipant
What would you do if someone started enthusiastically telling you a joke … very … slowly … with an unfunny punchline, and then placed a bag of pretzels on his baby’s head?January 23, 2014 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #999389miritchkaMember
Worst is when someone cant get to the point unless he first tells you the background of the background of the why, the when, the where, and the how of whatever (s)he’s trying to tell you.
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