May 2, 2011 1:24 am at 1:24 am #596569
Which of these experiences on a date would be a DEAL-BREAKER for you?
1.unusually bad breath
3.laughing too loudly in public
4.acting bored in your presence
5.chewing bubble gum on a date
A.all of the above
B.none of the above
C.none if he/she was good-looking
D.on one date okay,twice–no wayMay 2, 2011 3:21 am at 3:21 am #763755StuffedCabbageParticipant
A!!! even one of the above would be enough!!May 2, 2011 9:08 am at 9:08 am #763756hanibParticipant
#4May 2, 2011 6:50 pm at 6:50 pm #763757
I would not marry someone who came in wrinkled clothing or if he was chewing gum but if he had bad breathe or was laughing out loud i would let it slide for the first date. other than that no way!May 2, 2011 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #763758sh9888Member
depends on the reason – don’t be too quick to judgeMay 2, 2011 7:10 pm at 7:10 pm #763759boredinofficeParticipant
a and c would be a deal breaker – if she did not offer me gum I would be upsetMay 2, 2011 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm #763760
#4May 2, 2011 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #763761
You could be Morgan Fairchild, but if your busy texting or checking your watch, I’m asking the waiter for the check and calling it a day.
And taking my bouquet back too!
All other things can be worked onMay 2, 2011 7:55 pm at 7:55 pm #763762RedNails19Participant
And can i add
6. Mr. Foggy Glasses
7. Mr. Picky His Nosey and/or Ears- IN Public
8. Mr. Uptight (keeps top button with tie securely closed hat and suit on through an entire date)
9. Mr. Kvetchkup
10. Mr. Shvitzer
11. Mrs. Slobby Eater
12. Mr. Burpy and Gassy
13. Mr. Food-Stuck-In-His-Teeth
14. Mr. Wearing- Waaaay- Too-Much-Colone
15. Mr. Black Beutiful Rings Around His Nails
16. Mr. I- Had-Like-Six-Packs-Of-Cigarretes-Today-Hava-Sniff
….May 2, 2011 8:30 pm at 8:30 pm #763763hudiParticipant
RedNails – LOL LOL 😀May 2, 2011 9:04 pm at 9:04 pm #763764
….isn’t Morgan Fairchild that black guy in the movie “Driving Miss Daisy”?May 2, 2011 9:25 pm at 9:25 pm #763765LemonySnicketParticipant
# 4 and 5 but only if it was on the first or second date.
Red – foggy glasses?? Yeeesh go easy on the poor guy… If a person “picks” his ears with his glasses does that still count? That’s a classic yeshivesh technique.
Tikkun – Nope that was Morgan Stanley.May 2, 2011 9:32 pm at 9:32 pm #763766always hereParticipant
nope- Morgan FreemanMay 2, 2011 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm #763767
Morgan Stanley – Ha Ha! – But I’m glad to see what’s talked about in your circles.
As for Morgan Fairchild, if you did’nt watch SNL in the 80’s you would’nt get the joke
(yes, we had a TV in my pre-flip days)May 2, 2011 10:19 pm at 10:19 pm #763768cshapiroMember
rednails u r my hero!!!! i agree with u, seriously doesnt anyone teach guys how to groom. although most guys i date are classy there have been a few who i seriously considered making over or buying them a gym membership to bulk up…May 3, 2011 1:16 am at 1:16 am #763769
“Morgan Stanley – Ha Ha! – But I’m glad to see what’s talked about in your circles.”
Is that JP Morgan’s sister?May 3, 2011 2:49 am at 2:49 am #763770LemonySnicketParticipant
Tikkun -Nope, but the Uncle of Captain Henry Morgan; the infamous (and delicious) pirate and rum mascot.May 3, 2011 2:54 am at 2:54 am #763771smartcookieMember
You people are nauseating me…May 3, 2011 3:34 am at 3:34 am #763772ZeesKiteParticipant
So here goes another disgusting boy bashing thread. I’m really horrified to see SUCH negativity. I don’t use such strong wording often (I’m a ZeesKite!) but that’s what it is. No wonder so many single… Again, HaShem made both versions of mankind (I forgot which one came first), to constantly complain about one is to criticize c”v HaShem’s handiwork.May 3, 2011 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #763773
Boy bashing? So? Nothing wrong with holding us to the same standards and expectations we hold women to.May 3, 2011 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #763774
Not my intention.May 3, 2011 4:38 pm at 4:38 pm #763775walton157Member
I’m laughing at ALL your posts. Noone can ever say CR posters do not have a good sense of humor.
@RedNails19: Mr. Burpy and Gassy. Been there, done that.
Are there any dating etiquette classes given to young men who are starting to date or have been on the market for awhile?
Also, if the men have such high standards for women, why is it when we have our high standards, we are “too picky”? What is good for the gander is good for the goose.
I have heard of Shaddchanim telling the women to lose weight. Do they ever tell the men anything? Just wondering.May 3, 2011 5:18 pm at 5:18 pm #763776
Zees, if you only heard the way boys talked about girls…. Pop one and settle down.
As for the list.
1. DEAL BREAKER.
4. DEAL BREAKER. *HAS HAPPENED*
From Red Nails list.
6. If he has glasses and you go from cold to warm they are going to get foggy. Just sayin’
7. DEAL BREAKER.
8. I would tell him to loosen up and take off his hat. *HAS HAPPENED*
9. Kvetching on a date? I’d probably give him a second date and then the ax.
10. Take it as a compliment. Not a deal breaker. Besides he IS male.
11. Depends how bad. Just because I am fixated on proper dinner etiquette, doesnt mean he has to be….. yet.
12. Thank G-d, I have never had that experience. DEAL BREAKER.
13. Just tell him. Jeez.
14. Please see my post in Social Experiment.
15. I’m guessing if you are noticing thick dirt under the nails there would be worse hygienic problems being as he didnt shower… Non showering mate – DEAL BREAKER.
16. If you date smokers you know they are gonna smell…May 3, 2011 5:35 pm at 5:35 pm #763777
# 10 – Take it as a compliment
(Gosh, no lack of self esteem on your plate, Sac, is there)
Good for you!
#16 – This (IMHO) should be a deal breaker.
Cigs? Keep walking.May 3, 2011 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #763778ZeesKiteParticipant
Sacrilege: You’re right, I’ve not heard. Why should I? Why is so much focus on the negative traits of the other??? THAT IS THE PROBLEM!!! Sometimes one has to actively play ‘tam’ – ignore some minute deficiencies. ????? ??? ?? – he was the master over his ?????? – thats how he was able to excel in life.May 3, 2011 5:42 pm at 5:42 pm #763779
bpt where have you been lately….May 3, 2011 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm #763780oomisParticipant
Acting bored on a date is rude. Total deal-breaker. Bad breath can be corrected. Wrinkled clothing – once, there could be a good reasson. Twice – uh uh. Gum – who chews gum on a date – what are we children????May 3, 2011 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #763781
where have you been lately….
You mean the prevelance of smoking bochurim today?
I was at a wedding this week and saw sevral boys outside the hall smoking.
But saw 100+ inside the hall NOT smoking.
Does smoking exist in today’s boys? Of course.
Do we need to accept it as a given? No.May 3, 2011 6:27 pm at 6:27 pm #763782ItsJustMyOpinionMember
HEY! Why is this only against the guys. I’ve had my share of some unkempt girls as well.
Big hole in her pantyhose (on her knee)
Miss Gassy (yes, in the car!)
Miss Wearing- Waaaay- Too-Much-cheap perfume
Miss doesn’t take care of her Nails/man hands
I went out with alot of classy girls but there are some with issues as well.May 3, 2011 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #763783
If her knee is visible on a date, take her back home. She still has some learning to do.May 3, 2011 7:00 pm at 7:00 pm #763784
bpt- funny that you say that… someone just asked my father if he should continue to date a girl who he liked very much but was pulling her skirt down (to cover her knees) the whole time. this was a first date!
BTW i meant you have not been here lately as often as you used to be here…May 3, 2011 7:00 pm at 7:00 pm #763785
Maybe they were good for each other… since he was looking.May 3, 2011 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm #763786RedNails19Participant
@ ItsJustMyOpinion- LOLOLOL!
And to all thise saying this is ANOTHER one of those bashing threads…all i can say is..i;ve been there, doen that..seen it..and i think people should be aware…general lesson: dress, act and smell like a mentch!!May 3, 2011 9:37 pm at 9:37 pm #763787helper47Member
Imagine six years after you are married.
All the kids got intestinal viruses and house has a unique odor.
Your husband called and he had a hard day.
Supper is not ready.
The house is a mess.
And you have to separate a few days earlier then expected
He is about to walk in.
In walks a sweet person who rolls up his sleeves to help you and listen to you.
And everything he says is positive and not negative.
Sure when you dated him he had bad breath but you introduced him to scope
His clothes were wrinkled but you introduced him to dry cleaners and hangers.
You were also able to teach him proper etiquette in public.
How to laugh
How not too look bored.
Not to chew gum.
BUT you can not teach him/her midos.
And you can not change bad midos
I think we our focusing on the wrong thingsMay 3, 2011 9:43 pm at 9:43 pm #763788
Helper47—Nice & thank you.May 3, 2011 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm #763789ItsJustMyOpinionMember
But to answer the original posters questions:
1.unusually bad breath…you shouldn’t be that close, although dry mouth could be a sign of nerves
2.wrinkled clothing…only if there’s a reason. ie.raining or from sitting in the car too long
3.laughing too loudly in public…some people call that bubbly and that would depend if what you said warranted a good laugh
4.acting bored in your presence…you won’t get the chance to say no, the bored one will probably beat you to it.
5.chewing bubble gum on a date…any gum is bad
None of these are bad enough to look back in a few years, if you’re still single, and think back about the ones you let go for stupid reasons.May 3, 2011 9:52 pm at 9:52 pm #763790
Six years later! We didn’t get to that level of chaos until year 8!
Just kidding, helper. You make a very valid point. Still, we are talking about daters here. Let them think it will be confetti and rose petals 24/7
BTW – Love the way you summed up the total package. Yeah, confetti and rose petals indeed.
Ah, youth!May 3, 2011 9:56 pm at 9:56 pm #763791
Not been here lately? Other than Pesach, I was here more than I probably should have been.
Still, I enjoyed bashing the bochurim who smoke. They give the good boys a bad rapMay 3, 2011 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #763792
For “rebellious stomach” issues…stay away from cauliflower,cabbage and cholent beans!
For audible burps—skip the soda!May 4, 2011 12:20 am at 12:20 am #763794
Maybe its just me but I dont want to have to teach my husband to be the man I want.
It bothers me when people say, “Men are like dogs, they are trainable”.
I dont want to teach him about basic human decency… thats his job w the help of his parents.
Should I have to fine tune my husband’s sensitive acuity to my needs I will, but the building has to be finished before you start decorating.May 4, 2011 3:46 am at 3:46 am #763795
Training and fine-tuning are different.
“Obedience school” doesn’t work in what is supposed to be a deep friendship.
Although,people probably MEAN fine-tuning when they say “training”.
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