Sometimes,the listener needs cues

Ask.

Well…if they are just kvetching – they want sympathy. If they are asking you lots of questions about what to do next after all the kvetching they want advice.

Hudi:

I’ll make an exception. I really didn’t want to post Friday afternoon. But it’s important (to put it mildly).

You may not know it, but some people (B”H not me) have it hard. Very hard. Extremely hard. Sometimes their troubles overwhelm them. They feel they can’t go on, they can’t exist. No one’s in sight to cry out to, to soak their shoulder. So they use CR. In many different ways. If we can’t help them (sometimes NOBODY could), at least we should be sympathetic to their anguish, to their immense pain. The reason we (us CR members) are indeed aware of their problem(s) is proof of their DIRE need to vent, cry, gush tears. Let us tune in and at least be mishtatef in their misery. That in itself is a Nechama for suffering individuals. MAY NO ONE KNOW OF ANY TZAAR OF DISPLEASURE.

Correction (at end of long megillah):

MAY NO ONE KNOW OF ANY TZAAR OR DISPLEASURE.

-posted in haste erev Shabbos.

Sorry for troubling the olam with that one, I usually do not mix in to anything deep or meaningful, I just thought it might save someone from additional pain.

Hudi: Sorry. I erroneously thought someone was using the phrase “kvetching” to make light of another’s anguish. I apologize. I should not have jumped to conclusions.