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    ☕️coffee addict
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    DON’T SPANK! Pediatricians Warn Parents Of Long-Term Harms

    How do they now it’s due to the spanking and not due to violence on TV or in the street

    They sparked 100 years ago and those people didn’t turn out violent

    I’m not saying I agree with spanking, don’t get me wrong I’m just saying how do they know for sure what they’re saying is true

    #1618185

    5ish
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    How do you know those people didn’t turn out violent? 100 years ago was November 1918, the end of WW1. WW1 was one of the bloodiest wars in all of history. Additionally, on the aggregate violence, crime, and anarchy have fallen consistently over time. We live in modern times in the least violent and least dangerous society ever.

    In any case you accuse the study of not taking into various factors into account while yourself suggesting a thesis not based on any statistics.

    #1618230

    ☕️coffee addict
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    5ish,

    Are you saying that the gaonim tannaim and amaroaim who spanked their kids had their kids turn out violent?

    I understand that there is a way it should be done, with love and respect but it’s not the spanking it’s the way it’s done

    #1618238

    👑RebYidd23
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    Putting kids in timeout can be abusive.

    #1618276

    laskern
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    Children learn and it encourages them to behave roughly to others. Timeout is a better idea. At a later age praise them for the positive they do.

    #1618291

    👑RebYidd23
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    Laskern, you don’t want children putting people in timeout either.

    #1621780

    Torah613Torah
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    Putting kids in timeout encourages apathy hitting kids teaches them to hit not punishing them makes them overly indulge

    #1621786

    laskern
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    Rav Moshe zt’l says that raising children is half perspiration and half inspiration. You put your effort into it and then pray that it should bear fruits.

    #1621793

    Gadolhadorah
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    Physical assault of another person so as to inflict pain as a “motivational” or “behavioral” outcome is still assault and likely to put you in jail or risk having your children taken away from you in certain jurisdictions. Its not clear where the line between a mild spanking and assault is crossed but why take the risk when most pediatric psychologists (frum or otherwise) say it rarely if ever has the desired outcome and is more likely to cause long-term dysfunctional behavior.

    #1621798

    DaasYochid ☕
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    In any case you accuse the study of not taking into various factors into account while yourself suggesting a thesis not based on any statistics.

    That’s fine; he didn’t draw any conclusions. The “study” did.

    #1621805

    yitzchokm
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    Gadolhadorah,
    Stop spewing nonsense. There’s obviously a difference between spanking and abuse, any pinhead knows the difference.

    The reality is that the US Supreme Court ruled that Public Schools can engage in corporal punishment, parents can definitely do their job and spank their kids once in awhile.

    According to your silly logic, there’s virtually no difference between dieting and becoming anorexic, so let’s ban dieting.

    #1621809

    klugeryid
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    Spanking is physical abuse
    Yelling is verbal abuse
    Time out is emotional abuse
    IGNORING YOUR KID’S WRONGDOINGS IS SOCIETAL ABUSE

    #1622139

    Avram in MD
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    coffee addict,

    “Are you saying that the gaonim tannaim and amaroaim who spanked their kids had their kids turn out violent?”

    There is a world of difference between “100 years ago” per your OP and the way chazal lived and did things. They are not interchangeable. Don’t look at the early 20th Century or the 1950s as some sort of gold standard.

    “I understand that there is a way it should be done, with love and respect but it’s not the spanking it’s the way it’s done”

    The problem is, there is almost nobody on this planet who will spank a child for the “right reasons” and in the “right way.” Spanking is almost always the last resort of impatience and frustration with a child, because it yields the “results” of submission and obedience quite effectively. The problem is, while the parent wins the short game, in the long run, submission and obedience aren’t the true results we seek. It’s proper chinuch that we want, and spanking is more often a short circuit than a shortcut to that end. A child spanked by a rageful or frustrated parent, or one embarrassed by his child’s behavior in public, will submit, will cry, and may even apologize for his behavior when that is demanded of him, but he won’t be feeling regret over his actions and a desire to do better. He will be feeling rage towards the parent, or his own humiliation and embarrassment over the spanking, not the behavior.

    #1622143

    Avram in MD
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    klugeryid,

    “Spanking is physical abuse
    Yelling is verbal abuse
    Time out is emotional abuse
    IGNORING YOUR KID’S WRONGDOINGS IS SOCIETAL ABUSE”

    Is there really nothing in between spanking and yelling and ignoring a kid’s wrongdoing?

    #1622156

    laskern
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    The Chidushei Harim says that the snake was cursed,even though dust is readily available, Hashem said told him, here is your food and don’t bother me.
    If father hates his child, he ignores him. שבטך ומשענתך המה ינחמוני the fact Hashem uses his stick or provides crutches console me that He is concerned about me and has not forsaken me.

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