Stages of adult life (at the end of or after Yeshiva/Seminary)

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  • December 11, 2016 1:20 pm at 1:20 pm #618814
    Ex-CTLawyer
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    1. You and your friends are getting engaged and/or married

    2. Establishing your own household

    3. Starting full time employment

    4. You and your friends are becoming parents

    social round of Brisim, namings, etc

    5. You start attending your childrens’ or friends’ children’s B’nai Mitvah

    6. You start attending grandparents’ funerals (including friends)

    7. Your kids and friends’ kids start getting engaged/married, you attend simchas

    8. You and your friends become grandparents

    9. You start attending parents’ funerals (yours and your friends’ parents)/You are the last of your friend’s who doesn’t walk out of shul when Yizkor starts

    10. Your grandchildren and friends’ grandchildren start getting engaged/married

    11. You start attending friends’s funerals

    12. Great grandchildren start arriving (yours and friends’)

    13. You attend your spouse’s funeral

    14. Your family and remaining friends attend your funeral.

    Feeling morose this morning as I returned from minyan and now have 3 funerals to attend today and one tomorrow…and I live in a small community…all are/were my friends or their spouses.

    Wishing everyone in the CR a better start to the day than mine.

    December 11, 2016 1:50 pm at 1:50 pm #1197604
    takahmamash
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    I am sorry for your losses.

    Unfortunately, I am among the first in our group not to walk out for Yizkor. It’s still hard not to walk out.

    December 11, 2016 2:17 pm at 2:17 pm #1197605
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    So sorry for your losses.

    December 11, 2016 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #1197607
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    My heart goes out to you. We buried a young father this week (youngest is 4) and it really hits home. Although many of my friends are blessed with a parent or two, ever since I lost mine I have perpetually been in the state you mention. I weigh almost everything I do against “will this matter after 120?” and “is this a way for me to give a (spiritual)yerusha to my kids?”

    Hashem should give you strength.

    December 11, 2016 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #1197608
    Torah613Torah
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    Baruch dayan haemes. May we share good news.

    On the other side of close people dying is seeing your grandchildren get married. Perhaps even great grandchildren. May we all be so fortunate.

    Ad meah v’esrim.

    December 11, 2016 5:59 pm at 5:59 pm #1197609
    Ex-CTLawyer
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    It’s just about 1 PM and I have returned from the first 2 funerals. I appreciate everyone’s kind remarks. I have about an hour to warm up, have lunch and head out for the other funeral. The funeral scheduled for tomorrow is because the body has not been released by the medical examiner. They tend not to work weekends and the deceased died of a heart attack on a public street. I called in a few favors from the local Probate Judge and if the body can be released by 2PM, it will be interred this afternoon at 4. The family is all local and the funeral director is ready for expedited services.

    Syag,

    I was fortunate enough to have both my parents until I was about 60, they are now both gone. Mrs. CTL’s father died when she was only 21. Her mother lives next door, but come next month will occupy the suite in our home previously used by my late mother.

    December 11, 2016 7:06 pm at 7:06 pm #1197610
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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