Survey, How do you bring Joy of Torah and Mitzvos

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  • April 10, 2013 10:15 am at 10:15 am #608923
    sm29
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    There are so many things that are tempting in this world nowadays. We need to make sure to instill in our children the desire to continue on the Torah path and keep our good values. When our children feel the joy of Torah and mitzvos, it encourages them to continue it and keep it with them Bezras Hashem.

    Survey, How do you personally help them to enjoy?:)

    Music/singing, warmth, intellectual discussions, looking foward to Shabbos, other…..

    April 10, 2013 11:30 am at 11:30 am #951077
    Torah613Torah
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    sm29: If you really enjoy doing mitzvos, your kids will too. They learn by example.

    April 10, 2013 11:54 am at 11:54 am #951078
    HaLeiVi
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    Torah613, that is step 1. But you have to reach out and explixitly express the feeling in a way that will go over.

    For the sake of the survey, I gravitate towards discussions and stories.

    April 10, 2013 12:59 pm at 12:59 pm #951079
    yanki613
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    The Shabbos table is the ikur talk about the parshah and what they are leaning about in school and encourage questions because thats the way they learn!

    April 10, 2013 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm #951080
    TheGoq
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    For girls i think its important for them to enjoy their childhood and feel like children and not like mommy jr. aka an indentured servant.

    April 10, 2013 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #951081
    zahavasdad
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    Dont make things like shabbos a “punishemnt” yelling at them SHABBOS SHABBOS for example

    and that Hashem is going to send you to Gehenim for every minor infraction.

    Dont overly force them to do things. Its not terrible to go outside and play instead of learning 12 hours a day

    April 10, 2013 4:19 pm at 4:19 pm #951082
    truthsharer
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    Don’t be such a kalta litvak with everything.

    April 10, 2013 4:42 pm at 4:42 pm #951083
    zahavasdad
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    One might be joking but the reality is people are saying “Bring Joy to Torah and Mitvos” and come up with all these ideas.

    But all it takes is one YOU ARE LATE FOR DAVENING , NO PARK FOR YOU

    or you cant play with your friends because you have to watch your baby brother

    Or the kid plays with his favorite electronic toy on Shabbos , gets yelled at and has it taken away for all your efforts to blow up in smoke

    April 11, 2013 6:35 am at 6:35 am #951084
    sm29
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    Very true. We might naturally focus on the negative people do, rather than the positive. And then kids just see the strictness and not beauty. But if we see their positive acts and compliment that, it encourages them to continue the positive act.

    May 7, 2013 10:31 am at 10:31 am #951085
    sm29
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    Another example I heard recently on a CD lecture is when people become really involved for cleaning for pesach and forget the spiritual aspect. Screaming about crumbs instead of making it a joyous holiday for instance.

    May 7, 2013 5:43 pm at 5:43 pm #951086
    Oh Shreck!
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    sm29

    We don’t mitigate the physical aspect of the mitzvohs. There are halachos with intricate details one must follow. Each and every detail with all it’s aspect are all important. Yet we know and put an emphasis on WHY we’re doing it. To give nachas, pleasure to our Creator. We involve HaShem in all our endeavors, we talk about Him. ?? ???? ???? ????, Rabbi Miller ??”? says is an important part of Yiddishkeit, and the mesorah. Constantly talking about Him brings about an awareness about Him, brings Him and – naturally a joy to serve Him, into our’s and our children’s lives.

    May 7, 2013 6:20 pm at 6:20 pm #951087
    sm29
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    Good point, talking about Hashem and involving Him is an excellent way to bring awareness and build a connection. Plus like you say, knowing why we do what we do helps, so we can do things meaningfully, take care of our neshama and give Him Nachas.

    We should remember that the yetzer hara continuously puts hurdles in front of us. And so we should be aware that if we catch ourself screaming about something like “You ruined the milchig fork” pause and remember this is a test, calm down and take care of it calmly

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