January 21, 2020 12:15 pm at 12:15 pm #1824729
Any suggestions how I can limit my (beis yakov)
teenage daughter on her I-pad ?January 21, 2020 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #1824806JosephParticipant
Take it away from her.January 21, 2020 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #1824807akupermaParticipant
There are perhaps a billion parents in the world with the same question.January 21, 2020 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #1824812lowerourtuition11210Participant
There is an App called Screen Time. the URL to view is https://www.idownloadblog dot com/2018/06/14/limit-kids-screen-time/January 21, 2020 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #1824843RebbeDebbieParticipant
Keep her away from eating chalov stam and wearing denim skirts!
On a serious note, if you try to lock it down with filters and other restrictions, she (or her friends) will find a way around them if they really want. It’s actually an easy task to accomplish.
Perhaps, have your wife have an honest conversation with her (in private) about the dangers of the Internet, nasty people that take advantage of innocence, etc. The more you restrict some things, the possibility of your child rebelling can increase.
I think it’s best to be open with children regarding some things to a certain extent, and let them know if they ever need to talk then your heart and ears are open to listen to them.January 21, 2020 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm #1824901January 21, 2020 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm #1824931Richmond BraunParticipant
“There are perhaps a billion parents in the world with the same question.”
And there are thousands of parents who happily do not have it as they never let these devices into their home. Practically, however, not everyone is on that level but one can affix a certain two hours to use it and the rest of the time it must be shut off. You might implement sort of a reward system for her cooperation.January 21, 2020 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #1824975chashParticipant
probably to late in game to try to restrict her. Only way it can work now is, as someone commented above, have a conversation with her. If you see that she is agreeable and understands the point, then putting structure in place will be effective for those times she herself is , for whatever reason, unable to follow on her own.
(now that i got the pedagogue side of me out i will confess that what i have just said may be correct, and may just as well be utter bull product. I am not a mechanech/educator and my oldest child is less than 3 years of age(=0January 21, 2020 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #1825000
I’m assuming that any parent asking the question, likely is not from the segment of the frum tzibur that realistically can deny their kids ANY access to technology or the internet. Indeed, with a screen name, “ILOVETOSURF, I further assume that the poster is not a professional on the Pacific Coast surfing circuit and more likely is a social media addict of sorts. With regard to your daughter, דאָס עפּעלע פֿאַלט ניט װײַט פֿון בײמעלעJanuary 21, 2020 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #1825008☢️ 🚭 ☣️ Rand0m3x 🧠🕴️🎲Participant
The process is simple. Step 1:
Don’t feed trolls.January 22, 2020 12:47 am at 12:47 am #1825060👑RebYidd23Participant
If you want to limit your teenage daughter’s use of an iPad, just get her an Android tablet.January 22, 2020 8:07 am at 8:07 am #1825067
Thanks for all your replies. Actually we do
not have wifi in the house and the appliance
Doesnt even have internet, it is really for
games and And yes I have spoken to her,
and no my username is not because i
surf the net all day and we Don’t drink
chalav akum! Well I will resort to tefilla!!
BzH may all our kinderlach be well! Thanks!January 22, 2020 10:23 am at 10:23 am #1825082akupermaParticipant
Richmond Braun: Agreed. There are thousands of parents who banned the things, which leaves billions (99%) who haven’t. Its a worldwide problem. The reliance on devices undermines reading skills, interpersonal communications and even health (affecting vision and causing the sorts of physical problems that wold get OSHA mad at an employer). And while many of our rabbanim were clever enough to object, it needs to be noted that this isn’t so much a “frum” problem (probably affecting only our community), but a global problem (affecting our entire species).January 22, 2020 11:51 am at 11:51 am #1825131JosephParticipant
It’s like letting her have a loaded gun so long as you place a trigger lock filter.January 22, 2020 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #1825254Reb EliezerParticipant
GH, you say, the apple doesn’t fall far from tree. My Rebbi the Mattersdorfer Rav, Rav Shmuel Ehrenfeld ztz’l said that in a storm wind it does. The internet and outside influences is currently a storm wind.January 22, 2020 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #1825252flowersParticipant
Telling her not to use it is not going to help if she doesn’t have other outlets or activities to fill her time. Make sure she’s busy with other things to do. Shiruim, games, going places etc. And just plain quality attention.January 22, 2020 8:51 pm at 8:51 pm #1825319
Reb Eliezer: As usual, very thoughtful and insightful comment. I guess I look at the internet somewhat differently. Yes, the internet certainly constitutes a “storm” in terms of its disruptive effect to life as we knew it before it was invented by Al Gore. However, as we also know, a disruptive event can have both positive and negative long-term effects. I think the jury is still out and from a personal perspective, the internet (with proper useage and protective screens ) has been a major net benefit to myself and our family. Others will view it differently.January 22, 2020 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm #1825322👑RebYidd23Participant
Joseph, what do you have against gun rights?January 22, 2020 11:48 pm at 11:48 pm #1825335Reb EliezerParticipant
GH, Where is the GAON?January 22, 2020 11:48 pm at 11:48 pm #1825336
Reb Yid: He is using the term “loaded gun’ as a metaphor for an IPad that can only link to the CR and even then will be filtered so that one will only be able to view the 4703 posts from Reb Yosef (as of 10 PM on 25 Tevet) .January 24, 2020 8:58 am at 8:58 am #1825646bsharg2Participant
I do not plan on letting my children use IPads or Iphones or any kind of “smart phone” device until they are 18. If you put filters, they WILL get around them.
Smart phones and internet are very dangerous for children. I am a pediatrician. I have seen what these devices do to children. I’m not just talking about yiddishe kinder, but all children. Smart phone use is directly linked with increased rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide in children. Not to mention increased risk of going OTD. The prefrontal cortex is not developed until early 20’s, and this is the part of the brain that Hashem made for judgement and making good decisions. Adult and teen brains work differently. Adults think with the prefrontal cortex, the brain’s rational part. Teens process information with the amygdala which is the emotional part. The CEO’s at Google and facebook do not let their own children use these devices.
I plan on giving my children simple phones that can make phone calls and text messages. No internet. The dangers are too great.January 24, 2020 9:00 am at 9:00 am #1825677
“Where is the GAON”
Assuming you are referring to Reb Gore, the genius that invented the internet and taught the Trumpkopf everytiing he knows about global warming,, he is on a sailboat heading back to the California from the World Economic Forum in Davos. Given how much “heat’ (exuse the pun) he took in prior years for traveliing to Davos via CO2 emitting chartered jets, this time he took the Train to the French port of Le Havre and is taking a sailboat from there back home.January 26, 2020 7:29 am at 7:29 am #1826006
In response to bsharg2, you can plan all
You like what you intend to allow and not
allow, like I did. All intentions good, but the
fact is they get to an age where they have
their own money and you can’t control them.
So it’s a very delicate balance. And if your
child is the only one in the class without..
Oy va voy, you won’t here the end of it.
At the end of the day, we day what we can
To try to hold off and daven a lot for siyata
D’shmaya. I see it is the only way to go.January 26, 2020 3:40 pm at 3:40 pm #1826139bsharg2Participant
Even if my children are the only ones in class without a smart phone, thats fine. They can bother me all they want, they know I am a strict mother and I don’t budge. I will buy them a phone when they are 14/15, but it will be a phone that can call/text only, no internet. As a mother, my job is to protect them, teach them to follow halakha, do mitzvos…not to be their buddy or friend.January 26, 2020 11:40 pm at 11:40 pm #18262435ishParticipant
How is that going to help? You don’t think teenager who want to can find the other people who want to call/test inappropriate things?February 1, 2020 9:25 pm at 9:25 pm #1827888press87Participant
Get a passcode so that she has 2 come 2 u open the ipadFebruary 11, 2020 12:02 am at 12:02 am #1830684JzqParticipant
Take the ipad and Crack it on a chair then gather all the ipads in the world and burn then
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