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“girl in shidduchim cycle”:
phase 1: I love being single!!!! im so independent, living it up!(symptoms= crazy social life, lots of shopping and road trips)
Phase 2: I am sick and tired of being single and i am never gonna get married (symptoms= lots of crying, sulking, venting)
phase 3: theres someone out there for me and until i find him i will just grow and get better (symptoms= learning seforim, davening shacharis, mincha and saying tehillim yomi and perek shira, smiling, running to do mitzvos)
phase 4: I want to be bad bad bad and i dont care if i ever get married (symptoms= lots of unmentionables)
Phase 5: I want to run away as far as i can get and have fun and act crazy (symptoms= hysterical bouts of laughter, impulsive drives to random places, impulsively jumping on plane to somewhere/driving somewhere/going for Shabbos at last minute, making sure not to be home for more than 10 minute intervals)
back to…Phase 1: I love being single!!!!!
warning: each phase can last for as short as one or two days and for as long as a month. normally, a phase will be about a week long.
Live Right: You sound like your an only boy in the middle of a abunch of sisters.
I feel kinda bad because I laughed after reading this.
But from what I’ve seen with relationships this also applies to guys although a much lesser state.
not any of the singles i know well, but i hear! Sounds like a draining cycle you’re in
I think there is a stage 0 (a bit like the START square on a board game): I am ready, but not desperate and will enjoy being single whilst I still am, but if something comes up I won’t say no.
I never got past that stage. I enjoyed my time being single but never really got fed up of it to the point of despair, and when I got engaged I was not upset to leave it behind. I don’t remember going through any of the other stages…
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you left out the stage of waiting for ppl to actually remember you are available and call with suggestions! and that incorporates all 5 stages. been there, doin it!
live- right- I can definitely identify with almost all of those stages
ouch this kind of hurts! live right – i hear the waiting game a lot!! So stressful!
This sounds like it can describe men, too. I found that after breaking off things with someone, I typically take extra solace in religious matters, and increase learning, etc.
Wow, this is so true! my sister in a post;)
Bump!
lol live right 😉 You’ve really broken it down in to a science. So where are we holding today…
Most girls don’t get all five.
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