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Only one week to Tu B’shvat! The freezer is about to open! Does it really prevent shiduchim, or are we just desperate for a scapegoat so we don’t have to face the reality that shidduchim are like krias yam suf, and the only way to accomplish krias yam suf is by davening?
How does it allegedly “prevent shidduchim”?
So you’re suggesting that the Roshei Yeshivos of Lakewood share a large part of the blame for fewer Jewish girls being able to get married as a result of the age gap?
Maybe pushing Bochrim off for six months is a good thing. Many need to mature a lot more first, which would lessen divorces.
If i remember correctly, Hashem told Moshe not to daven and to just walk into the Yam Suf.
This may come as a shock but there are other Yeshivos,
@barry, think again, men never mature… its all an act
Crazybrit
Youre right. They need 6 mos to work on the act
the freezer idea was made because boys would come to lakewood only for the name and be missing from yeshiva cause they were dating. the idea is good. it allows a boy to immerse himself in learning before dating. giving him a sense of torah life. the girls don’t mind this. this isn’t the reason for the crisis. the problem is that both boys and girls have set their sights on the “perfect” spouse, which doesn’t exist. Truth is that the majority of kids get married early. they have reasonable minds and reasonable parents.
Goq, is there another yeshiva in the US with even close to as many shidduch age bochurim as BMG?
crazybrit: Believe it or not, many men do, especially if they weren’t babied their whole life and actually earn what they have.
I don’t think the freezer is affecting the shidduch crisis for one very simple reason. The boys coming out of the freezer now will be dating at the youngest girls who left seminary approximately seven months ago. If they would begin dating six months ago they would be dating the exact same girls. If they get engaged shortly after leaving the freezer it doesn’t affect the age gap at all. Only if it takes them five months they can begin dating the girls that are currently in seminary.
Yybc
Does that not fall under maturity?
n psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive. Maturity also encompasses being aware of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in.
Can’t the boys marry when they feel the freezer burn 🙂
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