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They say it’s not easy to take care of children and ALSO care for dependent elderly parents.
It probably feels like you’re being pulled in ten different directions at once.
But I just want to put it in perspective.
You still have someone to share the nachas with.
Your kids see kibud av va’aym in practice,not just in theory.
You are repaying them for the years they cared for you.
You have someone STILL ALIVE who (hopefully) loves you very much.
For every ounce of “suffering” you get s’char.(example,the person is critical,stubborn,needy,doesn’t even remember you anymore,etc.)
This is very true, though not to take away from difficulty of what those in such circumstances may deal with…
As a child of parents in the “sandwich generation”, I observed my parents in such situations which only increased my respect and admiration for them. The strength and calmness with which they dealt with everything that came up, when both their parents and children/grandchildren required their attention…How they would give and give, and I know it could not have been easy.
Not knowing that there was something specific called ‘the sandwich generation’ I thought this thread was going to be about something else entirely.
You are so very lucky. I an not undermining all the work that goes into it but you get to have your parents around you. My parents live out of town. I don’t see them very often, once a year. I would love for my kids to see kibbud Av V’aim first hand on an ongoing basis.
eclipse, I agree with you. Grandparents are such a gift.
Yes, grandparents are a gift. I see how different it is between those, even in my (extended) family, who were/are privileged to live near the grandparents, and those who were/are not. I also feel that they are a connection to a different world…one that seems to be slipping away.
I know what you mean. It is such a shame. I wish that my children had their grandparents around.
i totally agree. My grandparents built an apartment onto their house for my great grandmother and i think all the gran/great grandchildren learned a tremendous amount from the way my grandparents did it. Imagine when you are 85 you’ll want your kids to do the same for you, so it may be hard but you should really do it
im not sure what this has to do with the sandwich generation i think it was the same in the “alter heim”
Mrs. Swerdlov (today) finished up a 4 part series at Shalhevet oday about the same topic and Atara Malach also gives a workshop on the Sandwich generation. It can be sticky sometimes taking care of yourself, your parents, your children at home, and trying to be there for your marrieds and their kids. I for one am happy people are addressing the situation and giving us tools on how to cope better.
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