Tips for being happy
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November 18, 2019 6:02 pm at 6:02 pm #1801812CJFParticipant
hay if you have tips on living a happy and fulfilling life please share.November 18, 2019 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #1801884☕️coffee addictParticipant
Set the bar lowNovember 18, 2019 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #1801878
איזהו עשיר השמח בחלקו if a person appreciates what he has to gain the most benefit out of it, and does not desire what others have, will find fulfillment and happiness in his life. עשיר stands for עינים. שנים, ידים, רגלים.November 18, 2019 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #1801892knaidlachParticipant
write down every single day at least 5 good things in your life. may be simple things as:
i had a good night sleep;
i am healthy;
i have food for today;
i have family/relatives;
i have a roof over my head;
i have clean cloths for today;
i have some income;
i have heat;
my phone is working;
i have ‘theyeshivaworld’ to go to.
I am sure you can add many more things.
do this every single day, and THINK about the good things you are writing downNovember 18, 2019 9:02 pm at 9:02 pm #1801898TrachtgeetParticipant
Take a trip to a hospital and see how many reasons you have to be happyNovember 18, 2019 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm #1801908
We should always say, גם זו לטובה this also is for the best.November 18, 2019 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm #1801907
Keep in mind כל מה דעביד רחמנא לטב עביד everything Hashem does is for the good. Thw Chasam Sofer explains וראית את אחורי ופני לא יראו we only see the benefits from hindsight.November 18, 2019 9:57 pm at 9:57 pm #1801914pro geshmake yiddenParticipant
Main tip for being happy – take care of yourselfNovember 18, 2019 10:35 pm at 10:35 pm #1801940JosephParticipant
Learning Torah makes one the happiest possible.November 18, 2019 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #1801956CG1994Participant
live in the present and appreciate what Hakadosh baruch hu gives you! Don’t live with regret from the past and don’t worry about the future!November 19, 2019 5:58 am at 5:58 am #1801970Sam KleinParticipant
Live a life of bitachon and emunah in Hashem (faith and trust) when a person’s entire life is around bitachon and emunah then you get to be the happiest person in the world cause nothing in the world can effect you. EVERYTHING in your life from your health to livlihood and family etc… Is ALL around Hashem the king of kings and ruler of the world. And not aroaround your job, Rebbe or doctor etc…. These are all middlemen and just agents of Hashem but ONLY HASHEM can help you with anything from health to livlihood to happiness etc….
Start to make a daily learning time of the Sefer Chovos Halevovos (Duties of the heart)
May Hashem help you with all your needs whenever you Call out directly to Hashem from your heartNovember 19, 2019 9:26 am at 9:26 am #1801991motchah11Participant
Two things guarantee happiness: gratitude and חסד. Be grateful to Hakodos Boruch Hu, and do חסד to other people. Both will fill you with happiness, I promise you.November 19, 2019 9:26 am at 9:26 am #1801995laughingParticipant
A happy marriage. How do you have a happy marriage? mutual respect. Open and honest communication. Shared goals and aspirations. Shared responsibilities.November 19, 2019 9:34 am at 9:34 am #1802045Zoomer From the futureParticipant
But what if you are a yeshiva bachur how can you be happy without a wife.November 19, 2019 11:39 am at 11:39 am #1802049reform rabbiParticipant
Dance daily and you will be happy every day. Don’t worry, when you dance you will see that you have reason to be happy. Whether you’re married or not.November 19, 2019 3:56 pm at 3:56 pm #1802141
cg1994, The Ibn Ezre says, מה שהיה – אין what was, is gone, מה שהוא – עדיין, what is is and מה שיהיה – מנין what will be is unknown. Live in the present, `חזק ויאמץ לבך וקוה אל ה strenghten your heart and trust Hashem.December 10, 2019 8:09 am at 8:09 am #1809631banjobobParticipant
smile no matter what is going onDecember 10, 2019 1:50 pm at 1:50 pm #1809767JoeshmoParticipant
I think the Slonimer Rebbe or someone said that the best way to be happy is working on your middos.December 10, 2019 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #1809798yuda the maccabiParticipant
contrary to common conception
A person chooses to be happy or not
“וְשָׂמַחְתָּ֣ בְכׇל־הַטֹּ֗וב אֲשֶׁ֧ר נָֽתַן־לְךָ֛ וכו'”
the choice to focus on the good or the badDecember 12, 2019 1:43 am at 1:43 am #1809955yuda the maccabiParticipant
contrary to common conception
being happy is a choice or bechirah
“ושמחת בכל הטוב אשר נתן לך ה’ וכו”
to choose to look at the good instead of the bad is to choose to be happyDecember 12, 2019 11:43 am at 11:43 am #1810263
מי האיש החפץ חיים אוהב ימים לראות טוב in order to appreciate and love the dqys, see the good in them.December 23, 2019 12:48 pm at 12:48 pm #1813228knaidlachParticipant
Joeshmo, if you are getting married in order to be happy, that means that you wanto be a ‘Taker’, taking from your spouse whatever you can to make you happy. this approach is not a healthy one for a happy marriage. To be a ‘Giver’, to give to your spouse constantly is the health approach for a happy marriage.December 23, 2019 1:17 pm at 1:17 pm #1813236
The Ben Ish Chai says, עבירה stands for הב ירע when someone says constantly, give me, is and will be bad.December 23, 2019 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #1813288
On Purim we say ארור המן ברוך מרדכי on Chanukah there is argument between Beis Shamai and Beis Hilel how to light. Is the destructiion of our enemies or salvation of us greater? The gematria for Purim is the same, but ארור is greater than המן indicating that he diminished, whereas ברוך is less than מרדכי indicating he was elevated. The Beis Hilel emphasizes the elevation of the spirit whereas the Beis Shamai the dimishment of the phisical and material. The Maasei Hashem says on the Haggadah of Pesach on והקב’ה מצילנו מידם and HKBH saves us from their hands, saving is greater than destruction. Saving proofs that Hashem loves us, but their destruction does not prove we are good only that they are bad.
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