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  • #1801812
    CJF
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    hay if you have tips on living a happy and fulfilling life please share.

    #1801884
    ☕️coffee addict
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    Set the bar low

    #1801878
    Reb Eliezer
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    איזהו עשיר השמח בחלקו if a person appreciates what he has to gain the most benefit out of it, and does not desire what others have, will find fulfillment and happiness in his life. עשיר stands for עינים. שנים, ידים, רגלים.

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    #1801892
    knaidlach
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    write down every single day at least 5 good things in your life. may be simple things as:
    i had a good night sleep;
    i am healthy;
    i have food for today;
    i have family/relatives;
    i have a roof over my head;
    i have clean cloths for today;
    i have some income;
    i have heat;
    my phone is working;
    i have ‘theyeshivaworld’ to go to.
    I am sure you can add many more things.
    do this every single day, and THINK about the good things you are writing down

    #1801898
    Trachtgeet
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    Take a trip to a hospital and see how many reasons you have to be happy

    #1801908
    Reb Eliezer
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    We should always say, גם זו לטובה this also is for the best.

    #1801907
    Reb Eliezer
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    Keep in mind כל מה דעביד רחמנא לטב עביד everything Hashem does is for the good. Thw Chasam Sofer explains וראית את אחורי ופני לא יראו we only see the benefits from hindsight.

    #1801914
    pro geshmake yidden
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    Main tip for being happy – take care of yourself

    #1801940
    Joseph
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    Learning Torah makes one the happiest possible.

    #1801956
    CG1994
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    live in the present and appreciate what Hakadosh baruch hu gives you! Don’t live with regret from the past and don’t worry about the future!

    #1801970
    Sam Klein
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    Live a life of bitachon and emunah in Hashem (faith and trust) when a person’s entire life is around bitachon and emunah then you get to be the happiest person in the world cause nothing in the world can effect you. EVERYTHING in your life from your health to livlihood and family etc… Is ALL around Hashem the king of kings and ruler of the world. And not aroaround your job, Rebbe or doctor etc…. These are all middlemen and just agents of Hashem but ONLY HASHEM can help you with anything from health to livlihood to happiness etc….

    Start to make a daily learning time of the Sefer Chovos Halevovos (Duties of the heart)

    May Hashem help you with all your needs whenever you Call out directly to Hashem from your heart

    #1801991
    motchah11
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    Two things guarantee happiness: gratitude and חסד. Be grateful to Hakodos Boruch Hu, and do חסד to other people. Both will fill you with happiness, I promise you.

    #1801995
    laughing
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    A happy marriage. How do you have a happy marriage? mutual respect. Open and honest communication. Shared goals and aspirations. Shared responsibilities.

    #1802045

    But what if you are a yeshiva bachur how can you be happy without a wife.

    #1802049
    reform rabbi
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    Dance daily and you will be happy every day. Don’t worry, when you dance you will see that you have reason to be happy. Whether you’re married or not.

    #1802141
    Reb Eliezer
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    cg1994, The Ibn Ezre says, מה שהיה – אין what was, is gone, מה שהוא – עדיין, what is is and מה שיהיה – מנין what will be is unknown. Live in the present, `חזק ויאמץ לבך וקוה אל ה strenghten your heart and trust Hashem.

    #1809631
    banjobob
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    smile no matter what is going on

    #1809767
    Joeshmo
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    I think the Slonimer Rebbe or someone said that the best way to be happy is working on your middos.

    #1809798
    yuda the maccabi
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    contrary to common conception
    A person chooses to be happy or not
    “וְשָׂמַחְתָּ֣ בְכׇל־הַטֹּ֗וב אֲשֶׁ֧ר נָֽתַן־לְךָ֛ וכו'”
    the choice to focus on the good or the bad

    #1809955
    yuda the maccabi
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    contrary to common conception
    being happy is a choice or bechirah
    “ושמחת בכל הטוב אשר נתן לך ה’ וכו”
    to choose to look at the good instead of the bad is to choose to be happy

    #1810263
    Reb Eliezer
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    מי האיש החפץ חיים אוהב ימים לראות טוב in order to appreciate and love the dqys, see the good in them.

    #1813228
    knaidlach
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    Joeshmo, if you are getting married in order to be happy, that means that you wanto be a ‘Taker’, taking from your spouse whatever you can to make you happy. this approach is not a healthy one for a happy marriage. To be a ‘Giver’, to give to your spouse constantly is the health approach for a happy marriage.

    #1813236
    Reb Eliezer
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    The Ben Ish Chai says, עבירה stands for הב ירע when someone says constantly, give me, is and will be bad.

    #1813288
    Reb Eliezer
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    On Purim we say ארור המן ברוך מרדכי on Chanukah there is argument between Beis Shamai and Beis Hilel how to light. Is the destructiion of our enemies or salvation of us greater? The gematria for Purim is the same, but ארור is greater than המן indicating that he diminished, whereas ברוך is less than מרדכי indicating he was elevated. The Beis Hilel emphasizes the elevation of the spirit whereas the Beis Shamai the dimishment of the phisical and material. The Maasei Hashem says on the Haggadah of Pesach on והקב’ה מצילנו מידם and HKBH saves us from their hands, saving is greater than destruction. Saving proofs that Hashem loves us, but their destruction does not prove we are good only that they are bad.

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