To girls that are being tested with rejection from seminary or school

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    the-art-of-moi
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    Hi there!

    It’s that time of year again… Girls worldwide spend their days checking the mailbox fifty times a day, to no avail. Being rejected from the school of your choice is a really obvious hint from Hashem that either

    1) you’re doing great and are strong enough to get through a test as huge as this one, or

    2) you’re on the wrong path and this is Hashem’s loving way of getting you to switch paths.

    Exactly a year ago, I received three rejection letters. And oh my did it hurt! But those rejections ultimately led me on the path to self discovery.

    My message to you is- smile, thank Hashem for all the good in your life, and remember that life always goes on. Swing with the punches and smile as you’re doing it. I am davening for your success every day.

    !!!!SMILE CUZ ITS ADAR!!!!

    #1005209
    Shopping613 🌠
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    Exactly!

    When I heard I was moving to Israel it hurt, it hurt so much.

    But without that hurt I would be a completely different person!!!! HaShem is pushing you to the path Y-O-U need, not your cousin/friend/sister/ needs, what YOU NEED!!!!!!

    Best tip in the W-O-R-L-D:

    Don’t daven to get in to a certain seminary/high school. I KNOW it is SOOOOO tempting to. BUT, who knows best?

    HASHEM, RIGHT?

    At some point I just started davening like this:

    “Hashem, I REALLLY WANT __________ B-U-T, if not getting that is what’s best for me, or to make the future me I need something else, that is what I truly want. So please, give me what I need, you know what’s best, not me”

    I know it’s hard…but you will realize davening like that feels so good, and afterwords alot of times you can see what HaShem chose was best!!!!!

    *SMILE CUZ HASHEM LOVES YOU*

    #1005210
    gavra_at_work
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    2) you’re on the wrong path and this is Hashem’s loving way of getting you to switch paths.

    Since going to Sem is almost always the wrong path by definition, consider yourself lucky.

    >:)

    #1005211
    Torah613Torah
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    Every time one door closes, another opens. But if you spend your life looking at the closed doors, you’ll never find the opened doors.

    #1005212
    36
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    my whole life I wanted to go to a certain seminary(It was the type sem that wasn’t so hard to get into) I davened had pep call up and try to apply pull I got though the grapevine that they were gonna take me(more precisely they told my mom that I was in) so I decided just to apply there. then I decided (after sem answers were due) that I really sholdnt only apply to 1 place which was very bashert so I applied s/w else just as backup. so when letters came I wasn’t even nervous my letter never came so I had my mom call up & they told her there very sorry but they decided I just wasn’t for them acedmicaly. that same day w/ so much hascha I got a letter from the other sem im accepted eventhough I didn’t want to go there in the beg I keep seeing how its so bashert that I ended up applying 2 two last sec & I hopefully ill end up njoying my 2nd choice

    #1005213
    The little I know
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    I consider myself a maamin in hashgocho, so I don’t think my comment reflects any lacking in that.

    What puzzles me most is the selectivity of seminaries and the basis on which they reject applicants. I believe that much of this process is unrelated to helping girls maximize their potential, and is far more geared to having a class of girls that are easier for the hanhala to manage. It is, to a painful degree, based on the image and reputation of the seminary, and, of course, on the money that will arrive in a timely fashion. How badly is the seminary education needed altogether? Does it prepare young women to be better homemakers, or to become earners (to support the “kollel” lifestyle) at a level beyond teaching in girls schools?

    Aside from pushing our young girls into a matzav of competitiveness and the risk of rejection and disappointments, what else is the mission of the seminaries?

    #1005214
    Bookworm120
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    Thanks for the chizuk, TAOM. I’m smiling and I hope to for two do so for two months straight. ^_^

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