May 19, 2011 6:01 am at 6:01 am #596978emesleyaakovMember
what if you are going out with someone that NO ONE ever thought you would?? that every time someone hears, they are in shock or don’t believe you for a good ten minutes… but your happy….May 19, 2011 6:08 am at 6:08 am #767939amichaiParticipant
why do pple give a care what others think . do what is good for you.May 19, 2011 11:22 am at 11:22 am #7679402qwertyParticipant
Many happily married couples will tell you that they never thought they would marry someone like that.
People have too many ideas who they should marry instead of allowing Hashem to make a suggestion to them.May 19, 2011 1:56 pm at 1:56 pm #767941☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
You’re better off not talking to people about who you’re going out with.May 19, 2011 3:14 pm at 3:14 pm #767942WolfishMusingsParticipant
that every time someone hears, they are in shock or don’t believe you for a good ten minutes… but your happy….
Don’t worry about what other people think. If the two of you seem right for each other, just go out and have fun.
You don’t have to live your life to your friends’ expectations.
The WolfMay 19, 2011 3:50 pm at 3:50 pm #767943emesleyaakovMember
we didn’t really tell.. it sorta just came out…sometimes its hard to block other peoples feeling about you, your relationship out— but its true.. there are only two people in the relationship and thats all that matters.. i guessMay 19, 2011 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #767944adorableParticipant
why would you not marry someone like that? if they are right for you…be happy and go ahead with it!May 19, 2011 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #767945aries2756Participant
emesleyaakov, where is your faith and your trust in other people or in Hashem? Take a good look on the street at whom Hashem has put together. Would you necessarily have thought of it? It is NOT other people who run the world it is Hashem who is the ultimate shadchan so stop worrying about other people. Trust yourselves and the blessings that Hashem sends you, only the two of you know if it is working out between the two of you or not.
In addition please keep in mind that no one has a right to question you. Did they come to you for your wisdom and advise or permission before they dated and made their decisions? If anyone questions you or inquires just smile and don’t discuss, do not offer any information. A smile says it all. It means “no comment”. It means you are asking personal questions that I do not discuss with the “olam” or general public. It means that when a person is in shidduchim it is “private business” and not for publication. The more one discusses shidduchim with others the more one gets confused and the harder the shidduch situation for them becomes. Young people need guidance from just a one or two very close individuals which could be parents, Rebbe, Rosh Yeshiva, shadchan or dating coach. Bringing more people into the mix is a recipe for disaster.
Hatzlocha to you and may we hear bsoros tovas from you.
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