February 1, 2011 12:33 am at 12:33 am #594662
What’s so hard about picking up a phone & letting relatives know that you’ll be coming for a visit especially if said relative lives out of town & is always saying how hard it is to “shlep” in with 4 kids? Why does it have to be top secret? Do you honestly think I’d pick myself up & together with my 3 kids run over to where you’re at on a moments notice on a busy evening? I’m busy with homework, supper & bedtime so why in the world would I interrupt my schedule for you? though a call that you’re in town for a couple of hours would be nice. I happen to live just 2 very short blocks away, you can always pop in especially if you haven’t seen my apartment since I moved last year. You would be livid if I’d come to your town & didn’t inform you.
I guess my point is: call your relatives if you plan on being in their town even if its just a quick hello. That’s better than hurting a person’s feeling.
P.S. metrodriver: I’d appreciate it if said relative not be informed about the hurt feelings.February 1, 2011 1:02 am at 1:02 am #736682
OP- why are you involving the CR here?
We have a phone and mail system for a reason.February 1, 2011 3:44 am at 3:44 am #736683
the reason I’m involving the cr is so I can get metro’s attn without catching unwanted attn. If I were to call, certain people will want to know details & I see no point in involving people who think this is petty. Metro can (hopefully) commiserate with me even though there isn’t a solution to the above mentioned issue.February 1, 2011 3:57 am at 3:57 am #736684always hereParticipant
“We have a phone and mail system for a reason.”
also- email, facebook inbox or pop-up chat…February 1, 2011 4:02 am at 4:02 am #736685☕️coffee addictParticipant
also- email, facebook inbox or pop-up chat…
dont forget webcamFebruary 1, 2011 4:12 am at 4:12 am #736686always hereParticipant
by webcam, do you mean skype?February 1, 2011 4:23 am at 4:23 am #736687☕️coffee addictParticipant
or google chatFebruary 1, 2011 4:25 am at 4:25 am #736688HaLeiViParticipant
Why don’t you just hop on a bus and talk to him?February 1, 2011 5:44 pm at 5:44 pm #736689
Yersl; What makes you think I know when your relative comes to town? I happen to have a close? relative (like a brother) who doesn’t announce his presence and I only “Bump” into him on the street while driving. When I honk, in order to get his attention, he does not even realize that his “Brother” is sitting 2 Feet away in the next vehicle.February 1, 2011 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #736690
I’m gonna go out on a limb here and guess that metrodriver’s “brother” is yersl.February 1, 2011 7:59 pm at 7:59 pm #736691
LOL!!!! I’m not his brother!! Metrodriver was only using that story as an example. I know who he’s talking about and it aint me!
Thanks for the laugh! I literally fell out of the chair when I read your reply yitayningwut!February 1, 2011 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #736692BeenaMalkaParticipant
Did you ever think that your relatives don’t want to see you? You should not be insulted, but if a relative is in town for a few precious hours and you AREN’T that close, why should they call? To let you know they’re there, but they can’t come see you? What is the point of rubbing that in your face?
Most people would NOT be livid if you were in their town for YOUR OWN BUSINESS and had limited time to call your distant relative to say, “Hi, I’m here, but I can’t see you…”February 2, 2011 12:31 am at 12:31 am #736693
Glad I made you smile 🙂February 2, 2011 1:22 am at 1:22 am #736694
beena malkah you make some very valid points & yes I wouldn’t be insulted if it was a cousin 1st 2nd or 5 times removed, however, said relative is a very close relative (sibling) who I want to be close with but due to living out of town is not very possible so even if the visit were to last 5 silly short minutes, even just to say hi & I gotta run would suffice. I don’t deserve even that much?
I’m not even gonna say anything to him because its all water under the bridge.February 2, 2011 1:33 am at 1:33 am #736695
yitayningwut; I’m going to go out on a limb and say that even though “Yersl” is (probably) older than 13 Years, —- never put on Tefillin, even once.
BeenaMalka; I used the same argument to yersl. But, the relative that — is upset about is (probably) not such a distant one.February 2, 2011 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #736696
I’m gonna assume that’s because “Yesrl” is a she. But since you put “brother” in quotation marks the relative you referred to could also be a she. Good detective work huh?February 2, 2011 6:05 pm at 6:05 pm #736697
yitayningwut; Don’t give yourself a promotion, yet. You’re one of the greatest detectives for having figured out that “Yersl” is a “She”. I wonder what clue you went by. You’re almost in one league with Sherlock Holmes. But, not quite. The relative that I was referring to, happens to be my younger brother. The reason I put “Brother” in Quotation Marks is, because he “Forgets To Call Home”!
Since you’re such a great detective, I’m wondering if you picked up another “hidden” clue that “Hits You in the Face” on this entire thread (by yersl).February 2, 2011 10:00 pm at 10:00 pm #736698
Hmm. Now I’m gonna say that Yersl is your sister, and you’re both talking about the same person. Do I get my promotion now?February 2, 2011 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #736699i am hereMember
If that the case then sure why not?February 3, 2011 12:34 am at 12:34 am #736700
yitayningwut: N I C E T R Y that’s the way we spell nice try. You’re wrong on both guesses. I’m not metro’s sister & we’re not talking about the same person. I think I’ve gotten my “closure” on my original post. Thank you everyone for your replies. Now continue entertaining yourselves with all the shidduchim threads here.February 3, 2011 1:45 am at 1:45 am #736701
yitayningwut; You would have gotten that promotion if you had guessed (Right) that yersl (Not yesrl) is (Oh, My) my daughter! But since you didn’t provide the right answer (Just like on Jeopardy) you stay in the same position.February 3, 2011 4:53 am at 4:53 am #736702
Well, if she’s your daughter, you can keep the conversations in the privacy of your own home in the future! 🙂February 3, 2011 5:51 am at 5:51 am #736703
I second that, SC. Why were they being rude? It’s not like we were listening in and commenting on a private email.February 4, 2011 3:48 am at 3:48 am #736704
smartcookie & guardmytongue; Because she doesd not live in my house. I only found out (about her complaint) by reading about it on CR. It’s like having a conversation that is not confidential and let everyone else eavesdrop on it. Also, it shows how different people read different meanings into simple statements.
“Guardmytongue”. You are, unfortunately contradicting your name. You are accusing someone of being rude when this is not the case at all.February 4, 2011 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm #736705
metrodriver – I was referring to the way you both addressed yitanyingwat, which sounded very condescending when I read it but maybe it did not sound that way to you when you wrote it.
Either way, you are very right, and I was very sorry I wrote it(shouldn’t have been online that late). I went back to erase it and it was too late. I have been more careful since not to defend people who themselves may not care to be defended. Just a ‘bad’ habit I have.February 4, 2011 3:58 pm at 3:58 pm #736706
guardmytongue; Thank you for the clarification. Yitainingwut was never put down (ch”v.) in any way. It was all done in a jesting way. Since Ytng. was “patting” himself/herself on the shoulder how “Good” they are on picking up clues, it was merely pointed out in a “Smiling” fashion how “Wrong” they were. Again, if anyone’s feathers were “Ruffled”) (I don’t even know what that word means. metro.) we’re here to “Un-Ruffle” them. Let’s all have a good and pleasant Shabbos.February 4, 2011 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm #736707
Thanks for the mechila! I seem to read things defensively and need to stop! I chose my screen name as a reminder to myself, not as a musser to anyone else. Thanks so much again! Good Shabbos 🙂February 4, 2011 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #736708shlishiMember
omg yersl… where was the kibud av?? its pretty bad to berate ones father… but b’rabim also????
unless this was some kinda gag that was preplanned… i never heard of a daughter using a website forum to send a message to her father.February 4, 2011 4:59 pm at 4:59 pm #736709HaLeiViParticipant
Is a daughter allowed to call her father by his screen name?February 4, 2011 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #736710crdleMember
LOLLLLLLLLLLL Haleivi, i was really laughing out loud from ur post!February 4, 2011 6:54 pm at 6:54 pm #736711
well, I couldve called on the home phone but I would have to explain the reason for my being upset to people who wouldn’t understand. Why torture myself with explaining my side of things till I turn blue in the face & still be at square one. Calling on the cell wouldve been a bit tricky since I’m not sure when Mr. Driver (i don’t think I’m allowed to say his screen name since that might go against kibid av as someone pointed that out to me!) has a few minutes to himself & calling home to find out the schedule would entail explaining the why’s & as I said before, certain people can’t seem to understand a different reasoning. They just know its either their way of thinking or you just want to pick a fight. Email was another option yet I can’t for the life of me remember the email address so the only way I knew I could chap Mr. Driver’s attention wouldve been thru the CR. I didn’t imagine though how lively a conversation this would turn into. I might just do it again in the future if another similar issue crops up & I need just Mr Driver’s attention & nobody else’s (from the family).February 4, 2011 7:05 pm at 7:05 pm #736712
Oh Yersl, how wouldya manage without the CR!
Would be nice to hear from you more often, though!February 4, 2011 8:34 pm at 8:34 pm #736713
shlishi; Unless I don’t know how to read (English). I don’t see where yersl was berating her father. If you see it, can you please point it out.
Haleivi; Your Sheilah has a lot of merit. I couldn’t fall asleep without knowing the answer. So I called my LMOR (Local Modern Orthodox Rabbi) His voice mail picked up & apologized that while he is vacationing in Hawaii, all Sheilos be put on hold until he returns to Brooklyn.February 4, 2011 9:13 pm at 9:13 pm #736714
Hawaii? wow! my rabbi’s in acapulco till after purim but he might stay till after pesach but wait, soon after is shavuos & then summer. He’ll be back by the high holy days.February 4, 2011 9:36 pm at 9:36 pm #736715shlishiMember
im sure you two created this thread for the fun of it more than anything else…February 6, 2011 1:53 am at 1:53 am #736716
yersl; He (Your rabbi) might as well stay there till next year Pesach. Because soon after the High Holy Days is Chanuka and “Tu B’Shvat” and Purim follow right in its footsteps.
Shlishi; What’s wrong with thaaaat???!!!
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