Wedding Costs….In Law Chutzpah
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April 26, 2020 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm #1853460JosephParticipant
Mistykins: Did you miss the earlier comment suggesting people stop having more children?April 26, 2020 4:40 pm at 4:40 pm #1853578MistykinsParticipant
@mods- please let me apologize. I realized what was being said, and it was entirely my own fault. The page freezes and reloads every time I try and post a message, and I was likely trying to write you/ she had faith, but it doesn’t let me see what I type because of the delay. Those were my words and I didn’t mean to accuse you.April 26, 2020 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #1853574MistykinsParticipant
I assume you mean Huju’s comment about people living within their means? I didn’t take that to mean assassinate half their family. Perhaps not have them in the first place, or find cheaper ways to educate them. Look at Lakewood. Each person is paying 5+ tuitions to keep their kids in private school. If everyone put their kids in public schools, they’d have at least a 6:1 ratio- 20 frum students and 3-4 goyim. But they’re worried about outside influences!! If anything, the peer pressure to do as well as the other frum kids would override the other kids’ ideas. Let them learn basic math/ English for elementary school, and when we reach the point where the bad influences really start (middle school, age 10-11), then move them to a private school. That $20k/ year can go towards the wedding expenses that this thread is about, or towards basic needs.
That being said, I do love your sarcastic answers. Every time I i see you made a recent post, i have to read it.April 26, 2020 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #1853617CTLAWYERParticipant
Thank you, it is my eldest grandson who is getting married.
Following the family tradition he is in his 2nd year of law school.
Our eldest granddaughter is not yet in shidduchin, we hold with no marriage until after a college degree and a good leg on professional school. So, I expect she’ll be another two years off. There are boys in between these two in age, so far we have heard no hints of a coming engagement, but who knows, only HashemApril 26, 2020 6:17 pm at 6:17 pm #1853614JosephParticipant
Misty: The idea of sending tinokos shel beis rabban to public school if they’ll constitutes 6:1 majority against the Goyim is the most dangerous and ludicrous suggestion so far (with the notable exception of huju’s anti-Torah idea of stopping to have more children.)
Would you let your children eat food if the non poisonous portion of the food supply was 6:1? Or, better yet, would you send your children to a school where children from Neo-Nazi families were “only” 1 in 6 classmates?April 27, 2020 8:36 pm at 8:36 pm #1854052MrSarahLevine613Participant
To the original poster, Mr. CT Lawyer:
When my daughter got engaged a few years ago , my mechutan came to me and asked for a large sum of money for an apartment (which he also would contribute). A little background, the kids live in Israel, I live in North America, Mr. Mechutan lived in North America (although is not North American) and now lives in Israel. I am well aware that buying an apartment is an Israeli thing. ( I merely said, “Shlomie — I am sure that we will have a great relationship go forward and I know my daughter is very excited but this is not a conversation worth having because I cant/wont do that .” That was that. And, in fact, we do have a very nice relationship, he is a great person — and my daughter is very very happy (and her husband is a great person).
So I say to you — it may be chutzpah — but “so what.” Decline the invitation to pay — as you did — and go from on from there. Mazel Tov.April 28, 2020 12:17 am at 12:17 am #1854130CTRebbeParticipant
CTL-Please keep us updated if they take you up on your offer. We wish you and the new couple much mazel and brocha. Hopefully, they will have the marriage of their dreams if not the wedding of the dreams which should really last much longer.April 29, 2020 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1854995hujuParticipant
OK, OK, I admit it. Joseph correctly recognized that I was proposing to assassinate people.April 29, 2020 4:14 pm at 4:14 pm #1855007CTLAWYERParticipant
If it had been my mechutan contacting me about doing something for our children, I would not have been offended/shocked/surprised. Parents do for their children.
BUT it was the grandfather of the Kallah who contacted all the other grandfathers without asking the parents of the couple to be married.
I am well aware of the custom of Israel to buy apartments. I live in small town Connecticut. My grandson has indicated his intention to join the family law firm. Thus the couple will settle in Connecticut. Mrs. CTL and I will provide the down payment on a house for them and he’ll earn a salary to enable support of the property. We won’t just give a house free and clear, They need to earn and work for the balance and learn the value of money and their labor
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