November 26, 2014 3:23 pm at 3:23 pm #614339
How can I best prepare for the most important day of my life? I don’t want to waste it!November 26, 2014 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #1044085popa_bar_abbaParticipant
First step is finding someone to marry.November 26, 2014 4:31 pm at 4:31 pm #1044086☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
What’s the point of finding someone to marry if you’re not prepared to marry them?November 26, 2014 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #1044087RedlegParticipant
Here’s something to consider, and I say this based on my own experience as a choson all those years ago and the experience of marrying off four children. The wedding day, the chasana, belongs to your parents. You know, the ones who bore you, cared for you, the ones who sat with you when you were sick, who helped you with your homework, who sacrificed to send you to sem. Yes, those parents. The chasana is their day, the reward for their work and sacrifice. You and your choson ( I assume you’re a woman) have the rest of your lives. Don’t fergin your parents one day.November 26, 2014 5:13 pm at 5:13 pm #1044088☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
The wedding day, the chasana, belongs to your parents.
That’s a nice attitude for the chosson and kallah to take, but a selfish and dangerous one for the parents to take.November 26, 2014 5:51 pm at 5:51 pm #1044090
Popa- I found him.
D.Y.- What makes you think I’m not prepared for marriage?
Redleg- Who says I have parents? And if I do, how does your answer help me know what to do for my day?? Are you saying I should do nothing other than smile at my parents? I mean, come on.November 26, 2014 9:37 pm at 9:37 pm #1044092barlevParticipant
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Daven for your single friends, for the childless and for the sick.November 26, 2014 9:56 pm at 9:56 pm #1044093Little FroggieParticipant
There are excellent Kallah class teachers out there.. Find one that fits your direction, calling..
(haven’t received your invitation yet)November 26, 2014 10:54 pm at 10:54 pm #1044094sm29Participant
there’s a guide called “My simcha guide” which has a checklist of what you need to do to prepare. google it, hatzlacha and mazel tov 🙂November 26, 2014 11:38 pm at 11:38 pm #1044095Miss L. AneousMember
Daven that Hashem should answer all your tefillos and bakashos l’tova throughout your life together ad me’ah v’esrim shana. (Not just your tefillos on yom ha’chupah, but your tefillos even after.)November 27, 2014 3:33 am at 3:33 am #1044096eekMember
To everybody above, the question was how to prepare for the wedding, not how to prepare for marriage.November 27, 2014 3:58 am at 3:58 am #1044097from Long IslandParticipant
It depends on what time the wedding is. You will need to pack up everything you will need for the wedding, shoes, jewelry, etc & a bag for that night. Sleep in late, relax, daven with kavanah.
Try to find time to something with your Mom & Sisters, get a manicure, pedicure.
It takes hours to get ready, hair, makeup, dress.
You will have your shomeret with you. She should be a close friend. Spend some time reminicing about your life. It is a life you will be leaving behind and will be building a new one.November 27, 2014 2:01 pm at 2:01 pm #1044098
How about spiritually?November 27, 2014 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm #1044099wehavegotitallworkedoutMember
Whichever you are chosson or a kalloh?
Whichever rabbi/rebintzen you studied your hadracha with should have told you everything, perhaps call him/her for a recap?
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