February 5, 2012 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm #601921i love coffeParticipant
I was recently on a shidduch date and the person asks me “What do you like to do for fun?”
What do I like to do for fun? Well, can you please define the word fun? I don’t remember the last time I heard that word. I’m so busy with work, school, and life in general. I basically have no time for myself. So, how do I answer this question without sounding so boring and as if I dont have a life?February 5, 2012 9:47 pm at 9:47 pm #849663
I’m glad I have an admirer
You have to have some free time sometime
You say you go to school, what do you do during vacation?February 5, 2012 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #849664ZeesKiteParticipant
They just want to know which threads here pull you.February 6, 2012 12:52 am at 12:52 am #849665Think firstMember
Tell “the person” that you love to drink coffe for fun.
” I’m so busy with work, school, and life in general. I basically have no time for myself. So, how do I answer this question without sounding so boring and as if I dont have a life?”
Well I think u answered the question there, it seems like ur not into fun. You seem more focused and have goals you’d like to acheive well I think that’s comendable. Seems like u do have a life and have a head on ur shoulders Who says you have be the “fun type”.
But the person just wants to know what u do when ur not at school orwork or studying. Do u spend time with friends, shop, sleep, chill,or just read the yated.February 6, 2012 1:21 am at 1:21 am #849666golden momMember
well first of all what did u answer
i guess u dont know how to chill out and relax and thats what the person was trying to find out if u know how to or notFebruary 6, 2012 10:07 pm at 10:07 pm #849667i love coffeParticipant
coffee addict- I don’t do anything for vacation other than staying home resting or simply going out with my friends for pizza or the mall.
Think first- Thanks.So basicly I said what you mentioned, “spend time with friends, shop, sleep, chill,or just read the yated”. But he didn’t think that was enough. He wants to know what else I like to do. (Is there really anything more to it when having fun?)
Golden mom- Well that is how I define “fun”. (“spend time with friends, shop, sleep, chill,or just read the yated”). But maybe some people do this on an ordinary basis and for fun they do something else? I still don’t get what he wanted me to say…February 6, 2012 10:34 pm at 10:34 pm #849668a maminParticipant
Some people here in the coffee room like to poke fun at Chasidic Rebbes!!February 6, 2012 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #849669Queen BeeMember
Start playing video games, that’ll shut him up 😛February 7, 2012 12:55 am at 12:55 am #849670
So that’s your answer “I like going out with my friends for pizza and I like to go to the mall”February 7, 2012 3:15 am at 3:15 am #849671adamsParticipant
maybe sort of like a hobby or how to appreciate HaShem’s beautiful world, I enjoy taking walks in nice large hopefully relatively quiet parks. Perhaps to travel as well.
Fun related maybe to non inconme oriented activities, not like trying to convince people to join your latest MLM scheme.
The questioner is looking for something that he would enjoy as well I think. I beleive you could have returned the serve there.February 7, 2012 3:36 am at 3:36 am #849672
(Is there really anything more to it when having fun?)
the person wanted to know if you like going to arcades or a sports game, presumably to take you there for the next date, once you didnt seem like that he didn’t know what to doFebruary 7, 2012 3:59 am at 3:59 am #849673golden momMember
i guess i can see where the question was heading
there are some pp that feel you have to go on a vacation once a year (min) alone as a couple and if u dont OMG and of course one a year with your whole family
and then once you go are you the type that needs to run and go sight seeing, malls or are you the type just to wake up late and chill a whole day in the room
i guess to some this is soo important that it should be brought up on a dateFebruary 7, 2012 5:04 am at 5:04 am #849674moreMember
by asking what you like to do he was trying to understand your personality and what you like to do slightly plays a large role in reflecting what type of person you are. he also didn’t want to seem boring by talking about himself the whole time, it’s nice to show interest in the other person. I don’t think it’s worth stressig over the question though, you are who you are, and hopefully you are happy with the kind of person that you are. If you are content with who and what you are that is the main thing. compatibility only comes after that.
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