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March 19, 2012 10:04 pm at 10:04 pm #602571notedaskanMember
What does a girl look for in a guy? That’s a very general question obviously because it depends on in which circles you are dating. So I’m referring to a typical in town Bais Yaakov girl but it doesn’t have to be limited to that!
March 19, 2012 10:56 pm at 10:56 pm #861403BowwowParticipantSomeone who has no plan on how he will support her and the 7 children while he is learning in Kollel.
March 19, 2012 11:28 pm at 11:28 pm #861404yossi z.MemberEven by giving the circle a girl is part of, one can not answer such questions as each individual girl is different. Some look for middos, some look for character, some look for looks, some look for smarts, etc. All in the same circle.
March 19, 2012 11:49 pm at 11:49 pm #861405more_2MemberWhy. Should a girl or guy have a plan? What’s wrong with figuring things out together???
March 19, 2012 11:50 pm at 11:50 pm #861406more_2MemberOf course having an idea to a certain extent. But you can’t plan your life on one foot. These plans pple make prior to marriage never work.
March 20, 2012 12:23 am at 12:23 am #861407Think firstMemberSomeone who will love her, take care of her, support her (when she’s can’t support him anymore) a guy who will listen to her when she’s talking to him. And most importantly a guy who will make her feel special. If you can do all the above ur set buddy.
March 20, 2012 12:30 am at 12:30 am #861408popa_bar_abbaParticipantA smoker who doesn’t learn, but doesn’t want to leave yeshiva either because then his wife won’t be able to say that they are in kollel.
March 20, 2012 12:33 am at 12:33 am #861409NaysbergMember<joke>
Today a girl is simply looking for a guy with pants. After all, with the crisis and age gap, she’s hoping to simply get *a* guy.
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March 20, 2012 1:01 am at 1:01 am #861410moreMemberNaysberg
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Today a girl is simply looking for a guy with pants. After all, with the crisis and age gap, she’s hoping to simply get *a* guy.
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Posted 26 minutes ago #
that’s a joke???!!!!
March 20, 2012 1:42 am at 1:42 am #861411yitayningwutParticipantPopa, is that true? There’s hope for me after all!
March 20, 2012 1:52 am at 1:52 am #861412moreMembermost girls will not look into a smoker. asmoker says alot more about him than just pashut that. single guys just don’t smoke if you know whats good for you.
March 20, 2012 2:36 am at 2:36 am #861413hudiParticipantResponsibility!
March 20, 2012 2:40 am at 2:40 am #861414s2021MemberMy personal opinion is girls want someone they can respect and be proud of. Whether its character, success, middos, money, looks, Learning, yichus,charm (or simply the fact that he breaths and she managed to get one)that depends on her own individual taste. I think thats just what it boils down to.
March 20, 2012 2:41 am at 2:41 am #861415popa_bar_abbaParticipantOk, the real answer is: Someone who makes them feel safe.
March 20, 2012 3:08 am at 3:08 am #861416moreMembermore_2
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Why. Should a girl or guy have a plan? What’s wrong with figuring things out together???
Posted 3 hours ago #
noone answered my question…. pple these days think that if you don’t have a plan your garbage. someone can have a plan and be really hard to live with since they have to stick to thier plan. and if the other person’s plan is not compatible, whst happpens then?
March 20, 2012 7:59 am at 7:59 am #861417notedaskanMemberIs there any one thing that every girl wants in a guy?
March 21, 2012 2:36 am at 2:36 am #861418Another nameParticipantmore_2
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“Why. Should a girl or guy have a plan? What’s wrong with figuring things out together???
Posted 3 hours ago #
noone answered my question…. pple these days think that if you don’t have a plan your garbage. someone can have a plan and be really hard to live with since they have to stick to thier plan. and if the other person’s plan is not compatible, whst happpens then?”
There’s nothing wrong with figuring out things together, but people should have an idea of what they want in life; There will be areas of compromise, and areas of unbreakable standards. It is foolish not to prepare for the future, unless you are on a high level where you need no hishtadlus. Having a semblance of a plan is a direction. What you want in life. The key is knowing where to compromise and be flexible.
notedaskan
“Is there any one thing that every girl wants in a guy?”
Easy. MONEY.
March 21, 2012 2:42 am at 2:42 am #861419yitayningwutParticipantIf you’re going to use multiple screen names at least try to be inconspicuous about it.
March 21, 2012 2:58 am at 2:58 am #861420OneOfManyParticipantLol someone said that about me once…
March 21, 2012 3:03 am at 3:03 am #861421moreMemberSo you are saying if a guy doesn’t know what he wants career wise he souldn;t get married until he has decided what he wants out of life.. what if this takes him until he’s in his late 30’s what happens then??? what is the psak for a girl regrds to this???;) I always was taught ben shemona esray lchupa. and that;s what I did. times have changed I see…
March 21, 2012 3:09 am at 3:09 am #861422moreMemberOneOfMany
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Lol someone said that about me once…
Posted 6 minutes ago #
and what they said still stands;)!!! LOl!!! it’s so easy to tell, Also I don;t believe for a second that everyone else thinks you are female, no offense my friend. YOu once admitted for being the wolf, anf popa too that means you are squeek as well as a NUMBER of other ones as well!!! someone has to keep this place going…LOL!!!;)
March 21, 2012 4:21 am at 4:21 am #861423OneOfManyParticipantEh, wasn’t talking about you.
March 21, 2012 4:38 am at 4:38 am #861424moreMemberOneOfMany
Wun Uv Meny
Eh, wasn’t talking about you.
Posted 15 minutes ago #
so I am not the only one who thinks so! LOL;)
March 21, 2012 4:59 am at 4:59 am #861425OneOfManyParticipantThe point of that conversation (which I referenced out of context) was how the person realized I wasn’t a troll. So…busted. 😛
March 21, 2012 5:29 am at 5:29 am #861426moreMemberOneOfMany
Wun Uv Meny
The point of that conversation (which I referenced out of context) was how the person realized I wasn’t a troll. So…busted. 😛
Posted 26 minutes ago #
the person is “busted” since he/she realised wrong;) popa says busted, and he IS a troll;P!!
March 21, 2012 5:49 am at 5:49 am #861427OneOfManyParticipantOkay, dude.
March 21, 2012 5:56 am at 5:56 am #861428moreMemberyou’re an absolute cop-out mate!
March 21, 2012 2:41 pm at 2:41 pm #861429menucha12Memberhmm…someone who makes her feel safe someone who would be a good father/husband who is passionate about whatever he does learning/working
a guy who can be fun and easy going at times but also serious and shares interests and hobbies
and most importantly shares goals
March 21, 2012 4:26 pm at 4:26 pm #861430yungerman1Participantnotedaskan- Why do you ask? Are you going to change your profile to increase your odds?
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