What does it take to break a friendship?

bad influence

sometimes nothing more than a miscommunication.

If you lend someone $20, and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

dishonesty

deiyezooger, git gezugt! is the person good for you or not. that is the question.

Bezalel, that was deep!

If he hits you in the face (even if he’s drunk).

I believe that honest Teshuva can reinstate the friendship.

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BP Totty got it right. I have a friend that for the past 50 years our friendship has endured. Did we ever have an argument? of course we did. Did we ever become angry with each other for something or other? of course. But we realized we were both human and that humans make mistakes and that to forgive is one of Hashems middos that we are suppossed to emulate.

When you have always been there for another person and the time comes when you need them to be there for you and they aren’t- I was dan kaf zechus for a long time, but eventually the relationship does fall by the wyaside- Much like in marriage- friends must give each other their all- there’s no tit for tat or 60/40- Sometime you’re the giver and sometimes you are the taker= When one side always takes or gives- it won’t last

Sorry- Bed-Stuy- you’re wrong- A true friend of which i am zocheh to have- must also take at times- you have to allow the other side to give to you. I don’t “look” to take, but that’s how friendship works and sometimes there are extenuating circumstances, such as medical conditions when a person isnT able to give and must take

i was friends with a kid since we were in pre-school. our families bacame friends through us.we were the unseparable friends. when you heard my name, you heard hers and vs.

well sadly to say, we both got older, and in 8th grade my friend started doing the wrong things. she started hanging out with boys etc.it hurt me alot and i tried to ignore it, in middle of ninth grade, the entire school found out about her wrongdoings and i was forced to do something. i told her nicely how it hurt me and she was paranoid that i would break our friendship(because she knew my personality, how against these things i am)so she started ignoring me. and she started telling the whole grade whats going on, bec she thought i would tell everyone, so she wanted them to hear it from her first. before long it was a world war 3. the entire grade was taking sides, it was the talk of town, school, camp etc. obviously , everyone knew she was in the wrong, so before long she was alone, not a kid to talk to, she was so depressed. it hurt me so badly. a few month later, i got feedback that shes not hanging out anymore, so i called her to make up. we became back good friends. honestly, i knew she was still not innocent,(you can feel it in s/o’s personality) but i tried to push it away.

in 11th grade, word got back to my other close friend what shes doing. and my 3rd friend told me she doesnt wana have wat to do with her anymore. and that if im friends with frend #1, she doesnt wana have what to do with me either bec. its realy bad name.

i did some research as to wat friend #! was up to, and i found out that shes up to no good at all!!!!!!wayyyy worse ten i imagined. and i knew for sure it was true!!!!!!!!

and so i told her nicely, that thisis not the kinda life i want to lead, and as long as she has inappropriate friends, we cant be friends.

she, unwilling to change, said ok.

so thats where were standing right now.

do you think i acted appropriately?did i do the right thing?

please approve my post.

i would like honest opinins.

so please please post it and dont delete it!!

I don’t know.

Would you break off a relationship with your brother if he was a bad influence on you? With your mother?

I like to think my relationships with my friends are deep enough that I couldn’t break them for any reason.

but a brother and a friend is different.

if a brother has a badinfluence, then number 1, doesnt affect your name as being a bummy girl.

number 2. you psychologically say, what my brother does is not for me, you love him just because hes family, and you dont have to hang around him all the time.

but a friend is someone you hang around, someone you choose, so if their like that then that means you chose them, you appreciate such people. and because you enjoy your friends company, youll hang around her, and without meaning to or wanting, shell rub off on you.

chazal say “harchek meeshachen ra” for a reason.

and just btw, a good thing that came out of this story, i became way frummer, because i see her mistakes! hindsight is 20/20. i see it from outside ppoint of view and i dont want to fall into her trap!

popa, if G-d forbid one of those friends converted to a different religion, your friendship would withstand it?

Bed:

I hope so. Would your relationship with your brother withstand it?

popa, If G-d forbid someones brother did that, not only would the relationship not withstand it, the family would be sitting shiva for him.

My ex secretly spoke to my friends while we were married.One admitted,one didn’t,one dropped it,one didn’t.Guess which one I am still friends with?

same idea.