January 18, 2012 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #601694
What is the purpose of the Coffee Room? If people come here for advice and others offer advice only to be shot down, hurt, humiliated and chased away, what purpose does the CR serve? How many kind, decent and giving people have to be chased away before others will realize including the moderators that you are ruining a really good and useful tool, giving people a chance to reach out for help anonymously when they don’t have the ability or capacity to seek help personally otherwise?
Every single person on the other side of the computer in cyberspace is real and human with a heart and a soul. They hurt if you hurt them and they heal if you help them. Whether they are the givers or the takers. We are all human and we all have the capacity to learn from each other, get chizuk from each other even if we weren’t looking for it, and get hurt from each other whether it was intentional or just stupid.
On the other hand, if done respectfully and correctly this website can be an amazing place for people to come to chat and get and give chizuk. There are many other places where people can go if they want to be smart alecks and if they want to show off their sharp tongues and amazing whit. If that is the purpose of this website then that is probably the reason why so many people have chosen to leave.
So maybe it is time to define the purpose of the CR so we all know what it is supposed to be about and what the rules here really are. There is so much sinas chinam being broadcast about Frum Jews these days that is already so distasteful to all and yet no one seems to have a problem with it right here on this site. Why can’t we be civilized and act with the appropriate respect? I am really feeling burnt out and find that the people who had the most reasonable advice and had the most intelligent things to say are gone. Is this really the way we want to keep going?
There are a few people here that have my utmost respect and I get tremendous chizuk from their posts. I have been sticking around because of them, but honestly I am hanging on by a thread.January 18, 2012 10:51 pm at 10:51 pm #848892gavra_at_workParticipant
(IMHO) to discuss the issues of the day that are Nogaih the Yeshiva World.
Then again, I don’t post on most of the threads, so I am probably not the right peson to answer the question.January 18, 2012 10:55 pm at 10:55 pm #848893bptParticipant
Unless the poster is just being irritating for the sake of stirring up muck, best I can tell, we’re a pretty civil bunch, and treat all posters (new and old) with respect.
Which post ticked you off so? And before you say anything, please let me qualify my 1st paragraph: I make every effort to treat posts with seriousness.. unless you are here to rile us up. Then, I get out my 2×4 (with rusty nails) and start swinging.
Other than that, I think we play nicely with one another. No?January 18, 2012 11:00 pm at 11:00 pm #848894Eizena KupMember
Could it be maybe, perhaps that you’re coming on a little bit too strong lately? I’ve not used such strong words as you, I don’t think others who debated you did either – I could be wrong on that point.January 19, 2012 12:35 am at 12:35 am #848895Borough Park MenschParticipant
I’d like to see my neighbor Homeowner reinstated. Apparently he was blocked for the sole “offense” of disagreeing with Moderator-80.January 19, 2012 4:37 am at 4:37 am #848896
To create more traffic to YWN.January 19, 2012 4:53 am at 4:53 am #848897WIYMember
profoundJanuary 19, 2012 5:07 am at 5:07 am #848898ZeesKiteParticipant
.. To bring and share smiles with everyone, (as the quote goes) one person at a time.
(what else do you do when drinking coffee?)January 19, 2012 5:10 am at 5:10 am #848899☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
honestly I am hanging on by a thread.
Just curious, which thread is that? 🙂January 19, 2012 5:13 am at 5:13 am #848900
Eizena Kup, ok, what if you are wrong, is it right for someone like you to be responsible for chasing other helpful people away because it is YOUR strong words that are irritating and uncalled for?January 19, 2012 5:22 am at 5:22 am #848901Sam2Participant
RB is right as to why it exists. But it can be for anyone whatever they want to make of it.January 19, 2012 5:30 am at 5:30 am #848902
Aries, if you are referring to me, from another post on which we disagreed and I criticized you unkindly, then you must have not read my 2 or more apologies in other threads.
Again, I am asking and begging you to forgive me. My impression of you is that you are a kindly women in her 50’s who is motherly and gives us an earful FULL of heart. sometimes I may not have patience for what you’re saying, but at least I will try in the future to be more respectful.
Please stick around. We all love you.January 19, 2012 5:46 am at 5:46 am #848903
DY – Lol! WIY – What do you mean. Sam2 – Correct.January 19, 2012 6:30 am at 6:30 am #848904MDGParticipant
You should know that most of us really appreciate your posts. Please don’t be upset if someone is in a bad mood that day or misunderstands you.
As you may know, in the world of marketing, if a business satisfies a customer, that customer will be likely to tell one or two friends. But if the customer is annoyed, then s/he is likely to rant to 9 friends. Moral of the story is that people openly kvetch a lot more and thank a lot less than they should. Most of us included.
So let me say again (here and as in other threads) that you are one of my favorite people here and I really appreciate your incite and concern. I wish I could match you. Until then I will try my best to learn from you.January 19, 2012 7:05 am at 7:05 am #848905Eizena KupMember
Aries, did I really write strong words to irritate you? I’m sorry you took it that way. I apologize for my hurtful words, any anguish it caused you. I take back my comments.January 19, 2012 12:40 pm at 12:40 pm #848907moi aussiMember
aries, you are a great psychologist, and a great writer. The Yeshiva World owners ought to feel very privileged for having such a valuable contributor.
If they want to hold onto you (and other serious posters), the mods had better adhere to stricter screening.January 19, 2012 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm #848908BaalHaboozeParticipant
Chochom: the tafkid and tachlis of this mokom is to drink in the olam’s yedios and shittos and then to come out feeling geshmak and well caffinated enough to give us a boost in our avodas Hashem.
Rasha: the purpose is to make fun of these crazy posters and mock them merciles…mmfffmmm.. (take him away boys!)
Tohm: to be inspired.
She’ino yodeh lishoel: –January 19, 2012 9:00 pm at 9:00 pm #848909
Always, I understood where your comment was coming from and I forgave you immediately even before you asked. I wish you only good things, health, happiness and success in your life.January 19, 2012 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm #848910OneOfManyParticipant
aries, I’m with you here. This attitude of “it’s the Internet, so anything goes” doesn’t make any sense to me. There’s a real person behind every screen name, and they deserve to be treated as such. Just because you don’t know who they are doesn’t mean your vicious comments won’t hurt them.January 19, 2012 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #848911bptParticipant
Ok, all this nice-nice is making me want to draw all the chairs into a circle and sing the “Barney” song.
Can you please tell us the object of your ire? C’mon Aries, this had to be a doozy, for it to trigger a post (considering the other presing issues we had on the stovetop this week)January 20, 2012 6:03 am at 6:03 am #848912
Aries, OH my you are such a beautiful person. You have a bracha to be like that. When I just read what you wrote now, ,,,welll…. I have tears in my eyes.
You know I heard once, that who ever gives a yid a bracha gets a bracha. So I bless you only the same, good things, health, happiness and success in your life.January 20, 2012 6:04 am at 6:04 am #848913
bpt, I love you, you love me, we’re the losers of the coffee (room) family..? Purple dinosaurs rule.January 20, 2012 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm #848914mr coffee roomMember
always runs: did you ever call shalom task force. hows that going for you?January 22, 2012 1:39 am at 1:39 am #848915
terrible, thanks for asking. My life is baruch hashem falling apart. but anyways, EXCELLANT besides for all the problems!January 23, 2012 7:12 pm at 7:12 pm #848916MDGParticipant
Did your husband’s Rav help? You made it sound like speaking with him would be effective?January 23, 2012 7:30 pm at 7:30 pm #848917commonsenseParticipant
To me hearing all the opinions and comments even the many I disagree with is, an eye opener to the fact that Hashem made us all different and that not everyone thinks like I do. It helps me remember this and keep my mouth closed when I am dealing with people in real life.January 31, 2012 2:26 pm at 2:26 pm #848918wanderingchanaParticipant
Aries, I’m with you… I hope you’re just taking a break because I greatly appreciate your posts here. But I *do* understand the need for a break once in awhile… (at least *you’re* missed…) 😉February 1, 2012 9:45 am at 9:45 am #848919zeena.kastaMember
To connect Jews from all over the worldFebruary 1, 2012 12:15 pm at 12:15 pm #848920moreMember
what is the purpose of the coffee room?
very simply coming from a troll’s point of view, the purpose is to vent your rage and rants on the keyboard so that you can let your steam off that way and then go treat everyone around you with respect. just let out all that steam and have the moderaters do the dirty work… say what you want, spit it all out then go and face reality with a refreshed clear mind. get it out there, don’t think just type! I think it’s a place where you can quit thinking and just let it all loose, without caculating. the posters that caculate every breath they take around here are plain
cant say what I was gonna say.. oh well that’s enough for now.. g’day one ‘n all!February 1, 2012 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #848922
Mods – Why do you allow more-Troll to post like that?February 3, 2012 3:17 am at 3:17 am #848923moreMember
Now that’s Brisk, Baby!
Mods – Why do you allow more-Troll to post like that?
RB- if you ask yourself questions you get your own answers…
if a troll acts up who pays for it the troll or the mod?February 3, 2012 6:26 am at 6:26 am #848924
Half – I am not sure what you are talking about.February 3, 2012 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm #848925WIYMember
I like that : -)February 3, 2012 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm #848926realist4uMember
There seems to be a lot of wasted time on the CR. What I mean by this comment is that it seems as though the intention of what was meant by what the CR was supposed to be is different or has definitely changed over time. Interesting matters, different Hashkofic views, important topics within the Jewish world,were the founding reasons to start such a thing, but instead it seems as if there is stam chatter. Discussions that have no meaning or propose, discussions that are not in any way the Yeshiva World News but just the news of individuals seeking entertainment. I am not here to CH”VSH bash those individuals but rather telling them to use email, this is not the place. Secondly do people realize how much time they invest in the CR. Are they not busy and have so much availability to be on it at all hours of the day? Maybe we should rethink why the CR was made.February 4, 2012 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm #848927
To drink rancid coffee with moldy recycled kokosh cake that even Fraidel Foodshtemper wouldn’t buy for 1/2 price.
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