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what did you or would you do with a gap year? if your still single, and have NOTHING to do for a WHOLE year????
Get yourself a job you enjoy and think about your future
Go to EY to learn
Sparkly – huh? Kids can’t go to EY to learn??!!!
Anyhow, after college, you’re not really a kid! In any case, kids go to EY from the age of 17!
I agree about going to EY. I think it’s a terrific idea. Definitely for adults, not kids, this idea. If it’s for a female, there is Neve Yerushalayim, that has excellent programs for women. For men, there are yeshivas like Ohr Somayach and Aish HaTorah that have programs for men. You can go for any length of time, but why not take advantage of the whole year?
Nechomah – I was actually thinking of Neve. There are other options as well, such as Shearim or Midreshet Rachayl.
Sparkly, didn’t you say you are in your third year of college? And weren’t you hoping to get married soon?
Sparkly…
are you the one studying to be a pharmacist?
If so, I’d get a job as a pharmacy tech on a chain pharmacy and get hands on experience. It’s not about the money, in the medical and allied professions hands on practical experience is invaluable and will give you a real edge up in getting your full time job after your education is complete
Sparkly – what in the world are you talking about???? Going to EY to learn is not just for kids!!! People go at all ages!! I have taught at many schools for adult women. The women in these places are anywhere from 19-80. Davka a lot of them were in the gap year between college and graduate school. That is a very common time to come. I think that in some ways, some people may get more out of it at that age.
Sparkly…..Instead of retail pharmacies try the hospital pharmacies. Also, since retail pharmacy in many states such as CT have pharmacists doing things such as vaccinations, consider some short courses that will expand your know how, get certifications and licenses and make you a more desirable hire.
My almost 20 yo daughter is doing a BSRN then law school. She had a semester off between graduating HS in Late Jan and starting college in August. She did a CNA 10 week course and passed the state licensing test. She is way ahead of her BSRN classmates now that they have begin clinical work. She also works one shift per week at the University hospital for $23 hr while the work study kids get $8. She is home every Shabbos and takes an afternoon shiur for women
“what did you or would you do with a gap year? if your still single, and have NOTHING to do for a WHOLE year????”
“its for the WHOLE year that i have off!! but its for kids!! also hopefully ill be married by then h’h!!”
The premise of your question is if you are not married yet when you finish college. If “hopefully ill (sic) be married by then”, your original question does not apply. Although of course even then you would still have to find something to do before you start grad school.
If you are still single- I third the motion of learning in an adult program in E”Y. You have stated that you were home school and did not attend a frum high school, went straight to college. So you have not had limudei kodesh classes in quite awhile. You would gain a lot from them. Considering your current challenges in a non-Jewish college, I think you would find it so nice to be among other frum women, in a totally Jewish environment. It’s not necessarily putting your life on hold for a year- you can date in E”Y too. And what you learn would be a great preparation for life and marriage.
There might be learning programs in the US for young adults too that you can attend, if you do not want to go far away.
If not, or if you get married this year, you should re-consider a job. After another year of college, you will probably be more employable and might have better luck with finding a job in your field of interest. Your parents might be supporting you now, but you can always save for the future.
If you can afford to forgo the salary, you might have more options as an intern or volunteer. Another great idea if you want to explore research is to intern or work as a lab technician in a research lab.
Sparkly, just want to finish off with the issue of adults/kids. Neve is NOT for kids. It’s not a seminary for the first year post-high school. It’s for people just your age who want to learn a little more about Judaism, at whatever level they are holding. I came to EY more than 20 years ago and at that time there was a womens’ program through Aish HaTorah that I was lucky to spend 2 years at. I was 28 years old when I got here, so definitely not a kid. Who says that this is not part of “getting on with life”. I had many preconceived notions about Yiddishkeit and spent my time learning more about the reasons things are done and how different people do them. If I were in your shoes, I would definitely give it some consideration.
There are many people who go to EY at the ae of 21,22, even 25 and 30. There’s certainly nothing wrong with it unless you ACT like a “kid” (I guess an girl on seminary age…meaning my age)
I understand you want to be treated as an adult and not looked at as a starry eyes kid straight from high school, as long as you act like an adult, dress like one, no one will think you are a kid. There are plently of people your age who live here.
Sparkly – what are you nervous abou?
Sparkly – Is this your last year of college (meaning you’re asking what to do next year – fall, 2017-fall,2018?)
I agree with people who say to get more certifications (maybe even now) which can get you jobs and experience- like phlebotomy, perhaps. If you were to work in a retail pharmacy, phlebotomy would be a good skill.
Seminary isn’t just for recent high school graduates! A bunch of my friends just went as tutors to one of the seminaries mentioned above- there are classes on all levels and they had an amazing time.
Unless you’re graduating now, don’t give up finding a job! Contact the career center or bio/chem department heads at your college- they’re there to help with that kind of thing. You may even want to get an unpaid internship if it’ll help you get really valuable experience. (I assume this is a gap year while you apply? If so, then getting experience is an excellent idea.)
No, I was just giving an example of friends who went back to seminary a few years after high school. That just happened to be the reason why they were there- there were people who were there just to learn and had an equally great time. (They were there for the summer, though.)
If it’s not too personal, why are you so desperate to get married?
“why are all the other frum girls so desperate to get married?”
Excellent question, but that’s not a reason in itself.
You can be a madricha at a sem in Israel
How is it personal if it applies to all other frum girls? Isn’t that the exact opposite of personal?
Ok. So why are all the other frum girls desperate to get married?
Anyone who spends a year at the Gap is wasting his time and money on non-tznius clothing.
Pninim
Sorry, I am a frum girl and I am not desperate to get married. In fact, I have said no to many shidduchim the past few years since I don’t want to get married yet.
That is a big overgeneralization.
Lilmod, I think Pninim is only geared for post high school girls.
Sparkly, I think you would enjoy MIdreshet Rachel.
Okay, I’m a frum girl just starting graduate college and I’m not desperate to get married, either. I really want to, of course–it is something I constantly daven for–but I know I’m not quite ready. Please don’t call yourself desperate! (that sounds really bad!) When Hashem decides that the time has come, you and your bashert will find each other, no matter which side of the ocean you are on or what you are in the middle of doing. With emunah, decisions like these are easy: What does Hashem want me to do right now? Think about which decision you will appreciate or regret in the future. What path in life will make you a better person?
Just because your grade level already went to EY doesn’t mean you can’t benefit a lot from going now. You can try for being a tutor or madricha, or go just to learn. There are so many programs for so many ranges and backgrounds. And don’t worry about “what will people/shadchanim think” because you are doing what is RIGHT for you and your avodas Hashem and anyway, a solid eved Hashem should be impressed by your dedication to growth even if you’re not a starry-eyed fresh-from-bais-yaakov. And like others mentioned, you can date in EY.
Hatzlacha!
Sparkly – I know that, that’s why I said that Pninim probably wouldn’t be a good fit for you age-wise (even though you would probably enjoy the classes).
The girls I know from Midreshet Rachel are all smart girls who have graduated from college or are deep in middle of their college degree. My friends who went there are all in their early to mid twenties.
Sparkly,
Just wanted to remind you of something you said before:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/work-vs-kollel/page/3#post-624949
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