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August 10, 2011 5:16 am at 5:16 am #598538always runs with scissors fastParticipant
If you could restart your life’s path on a new one, as far as education and a career were concerned, what would you choose?
I would choose an obstetrician.
August 10, 2011 5:27 am at 5:27 am #1044986sheinMemberWhat’s stopping you from now doing whatever it is you wish?
August 10, 2011 5:39 am at 5:39 am #1044987always runs with scissors fastParticipantOh I haven’t grown up yet. LOL kidding.
Well its just not a lifestyle i am willing to pay the price to do. I dream of becoming a doctor and studying medicine, but I am too old, and too heimishe, and have too many kids and lots of brachas which I can’t trade in for marrying a medical career.
August 10, 2011 5:50 am at 5:50 am #1044988haifagirlParticipantWhat’s stopping you from now doing whatever it is you wish?
She’s too busy chasing after her kids to do anything else.
August 10, 2011 5:55 am at 5:55 am #1044989haifagirlParticipantOkay, mods. You approved the second thing I posted on this thread, but not the first. What was wrong with it. It was my answer to the question, “What would you like to be when you grow up?”
I answered, “A mommy.”
What’s wrong with that?
It isn’t deleted. It never came through. -95
August 10, 2011 6:04 am at 6:04 am #1044990sheinMemberhaifagirl: When will you grow up and pursue that goal?
August 10, 2011 6:30 am at 6:30 am #1044991haifagirlParticipanthaifagirl: When will you grow up and pursue that goal?
Find me:
a) my zivug
b) a rabbi who will let me be a mommy by myself
August 10, 2011 6:33 am at 6:33 am #1044992chocandpatienceMembershein: you probably didn’t mean it that way, but that wasn’t ‘shein’
August 10, 2011 6:39 am at 6:39 am #1044993HealthParticipantARWSF – “but I am too old, and too heimishe, and have too many kids and lots of brachas which I can’t trade”
Too old you’re not. No such thing as too Heimishe, in the NYC area.
The kids would be a problem, if there isn’t anybody to watch them. Maybe your husband and parents and in-laws can help out, if you can’t afford babysitting?
Also becoming an OB ain’t what you think it is, there is a lot of surgery involved. You could become a Certified Midwife. They basically don’t do any surgery, they just do check ups and regular deliveries. Also, the schooling is much less than a Doc.
August 10, 2011 7:08 am at 7:08 am #1044994ronrsrMemberDentist
August 10, 2011 7:08 am at 7:08 am #1044995aries2756ParticipantWhen I grow up I want to be a wise woman.
August 10, 2011 7:14 am at 7:14 am #1044996sheinMemberI want to be a child again when I grow up.
August 10, 2011 7:25 am at 7:25 am #1044997MiddlePathParticipantA car designer by day, a guitarist for a heavy metal band by night.
aries, you are already a wise woman.
August 10, 2011 7:36 am at 7:36 am #1044998jmj613Participanti agree with mp about aries…if i could start anew i would be going to koilel full day which is impossible by now…
August 10, 2011 7:37 am at 7:37 am #1044999jmj613Participanthaifa what do you mean with a rabbi who lets u be a mommy by urself?
August 10, 2011 7:37 am at 7:37 am #1045000ToiParticipantWhen I grow up I wanna be a triangle!!!!!
(heard from a kid for real)
August 10, 2011 9:21 am at 9:21 am #1045001YW Moderator-42ModeratorA fiewman!
August 10, 2011 1:29 pm at 1:29 pm #1045002TheGoqParticipantI’d be born to different parents
August 10, 2011 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #1045003aries2756ParticipantGoq, I’m so sorry, it is so sad but that is the truth. You can’t choose your parents, although parents do sometimes get to choose the kids. How ironic.
August 10, 2011 2:45 pm at 2:45 pm #1045004PeerimsameachParticipantAt first I was going to write Rav SHACH or another gadol but thank I realized I can’t Be them. I want to Be the best person I can be. The best eved Hashem I can be. I want to give it my ALL in this world!!
August 10, 2011 3:52 pm at 3:52 pm #1045005TheGoqParticipantty aries
August 10, 2011 4:02 pm at 4:02 pm #1045006am yisrael chaiParticipantGoq, that is sooooooooooooo painful. Wish I knew what to say to make it easier for you.
The only thing I can think of is that our neshama signs a “contract” before coming down to this world accepting all the challenges that it will go through. The neshama knows up there its tikun & how to best obtain it. It also prefers going through the hard stuff down here than up there. That’s part of why we’re supposed to bless Hashem for the tough stuff & not just the good (easier said than done).
Just have faith that you knew what you were doing before joining Planet Earth and that you had very good reasons for agreeing to it.
(You might think you were drunk up there accepting your lot in life but neshamos don’t drink…)
Hope this helps a little.
August 10, 2011 4:02 pm at 4:02 pm #1045007adorableParticipantI want to be exactly what I am but would change some personality traits. but as a whole I think Im happy with who and what I am
August 10, 2011 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #1045008TheGoqParticipantvery nicely put Ayc thank you!
August 10, 2011 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #1045009MiddlePathParticipantGoq, I was going to use that one (a different father, specifically), but I then realized that perhaps this was the best thing for me. I may not see it now, but I hope I will eventually.
August 10, 2011 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm #1045010shprintzeMemberPhysicians Assistant. Truth is I’m young and can go back to school, but I dont want to leave my kids with a babysitter for hours a day. Maybe when they are all in school a full day? But then IY”H I will have more babies… Im a little jealous of my friends who got married late and were able to finish their schooling before the responsibilities of kids and husband. (I got married and had my first child before I was 20)
So when is the right time for a frum woman to go to school?
August 10, 2011 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm #1045011Doodle-Man™Membera police car!vroom vroom!
August 10, 2011 6:30 pm at 6:30 pm #1045012minyan galMemberARWSF: About 5 years ago there was an article in one of the papers in Toronto about a frum woman with several children who fulfilled her dream of becoming a doctor. She commuted to a town about an hour away on a daily basis and her classes were arranged to accomodate her for Shabbat and the Yomtovim. If she did it, so can you.
August 10, 2011 6:55 pm at 6:55 pm #1045013Derech HaMelechMemberWhen I was a wee little boy I dreamed about becoming a police man.
Then I realized there are very few Jewish policemen.
As a child, I realized I wanted to be a doctor.
Then I realized, there are very few frum doctors.
As a young lad, I wanted to be a rebbe in a yeshiva.
Then I found my self-confidence and realized that I should shoot for the stars.
Now I have reached a level where I dream the ultimate dream a Jewish boy can hope for:
A moderator for an orthodox Jewish website’s message board.
August 10, 2011 7:09 pm at 7:09 pm #1045014bptParticipantIf money was not a consideration, and I needed to start a new carrear, I would be an tour guide. To places with limited plumbing, limited cell coverage, and limited people.
Minyan would pose a problem though, so for now, its just a pipe dream.
August 10, 2011 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #1045015bein_hasdorimParticipantFireman, or Policeman, or both!
August 10, 2011 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #1045016tracht gutMemberI would love to be a lawyer it sounds so cool!
August 10, 2011 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #1045017RavKahaneTzadakMemberI want to be a toll booth collector.
August 10, 2011 8:18 pm at 8:18 pm #1045018haifagirlParticipanthaifa what do you mean with a rabbi who lets u be a mommy by urself?
I’m not prepared to do that without a written psak. My rabbi won’t say no, but he won’t say yes, either.
August 10, 2011 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm #1045019☕️coffee addictParticipantBelieve me, I would choose not to get a BTL and go for a real Bachelor’s
August 10, 2011 8:31 pm at 8:31 pm #1045020Doodle-Man™Memberdoes no one want to be a potato?
August 10, 2011 8:41 pm at 8:41 pm #1045021aimhabonimParticipantInteresting that so far no one has pointed out that the question,”What do you want to be?” is not the same question as ,”What do you want to do?”. Being a doctor or a plumber is a way to make a parnassah,but does not define who you are. In the secular world they don’t usually differentiate between the two…
August 10, 2011 8:47 pm at 8:47 pm #1045022wanderingchanaParticipantI wish I could have gone to seminary in Israel.
(I wish I could have gone to seminary).
I wish I could have gone to grad school right after undergrad.
The things I would do over have more to do with how I handled dysfunctional family relationships, though.
August 10, 2011 8:57 pm at 8:57 pm #1045023am yisrael chaiParticipantARWSF
In high school, a classmate’s mother decided to go to med school & follow her dream.
And she did.
My classmate had to learn to cook & do laundry and graduated with these newly discovered skills.
August 10, 2011 8:59 pm at 8:59 pm #1045024bptParticipant“but he won’t say yes, either”
But you yourself should say no. Being a single parent is no picnic
August 10, 2011 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #1045025kol daveedMemberA husband and a father. An inspiration for klal Yisrael. Motivated for the right reasons to do the right thing and to continue to grow in my Yiddishkeit.
August 10, 2011 9:07 pm at 9:07 pm #1045026bein_hasdorimParticipanthaifagirl said;
“My rabbi won’t say no, but he won’t say yes, either.”
What kind of rabbi is this? He wont say no?
Maybe i’m just confused as to your request?
Why not find a guy that is nice, kind, maybe not so handsome,
or settle in some other way, and marry him, (if you are considering whatever else u said) if u want it that bad why not settle a little. As long as he’s a good guy, what else do u need?
Best case you are happy, worst case you get divorced.
Then you still get what you want, halachically.
Just don’t get married with a plan to get divorced.
I hope i’m making myself clear, or else it may come out
sounding wrong. Chazal say, that for a woman, it is better to marry someone that isn’t her knight in shining armor,
than to stay alone. But it isn’t a direct quote.
I don’t know if the they had shining armor in those times.)
Maybe matte. 🙂
August 10, 2011 9:29 pm at 9:29 pm #1045027pascha bchochmaParticipantIf time and stress was not a consideration, I’d want to be a doctor.
Right now I want to be a professor.
August 10, 2011 9:45 pm at 9:45 pm #1045028☕️coffee addictParticipantI know some goyim want to be an oscar mayer wiener
August 10, 2011 9:49 pm at 9:49 pm #1045029bygirl93MemberRestart life? Mine’s just beginning!!! 🙂 I’d like to be a MOMMY and a graphic designer!! but mommy will ALWAYS come first!
August 10, 2011 10:24 pm at 10:24 pm #1045030ToiParticipantA rebbe once told me that the correct response to this question is..”toothpaste”. huh? every jew shoulds grow up to be the best eved hassem they can. how you put food on the table isnt you. how many blatt gemara you learn is you. so toothpaste is just as valid an answer as lawyer.(assuming that being toothpaste makes money)
August 11, 2011 2:56 am at 2:56 am #1045031ursula momishMemberA good advertisement for living a Torah life; a nice person with good middos, known for making other people feel happy. (I’d better live a long long time to achieve this.)
August 11, 2011 4:07 am at 4:07 am #1045032haifagirlParticipantWhy not find a guy that is nice, kind, maybe not so handsome,
or settle in some other way, and marry him, (if you are considering whatever else u said) if u want it that bad why not settle a little. As long as he’s a good guy, what else do u need?
Fine. Not a problem. Find someone. There aren’t so many single guys out there. And of the ones who are, most don’t want me. In general I don’t say no to a shidduch, but the men do.
But you yourself should say no. Being a single parent is no picnic
Spoken by someone who isn’t childless. And you should never know what that’s like.
August 11, 2011 7:11 am at 7:11 am #1045033Another nameParticipanthaifagirl, would you consider foster care?
August 11, 2011 10:54 am at 10:54 am #1045034jmj613Participantim having a problem to understand whats going on with shiduchim nowadays. haifa says men say no. why is that??? i know its the wrong thread maybe i should open new one. haifa why on earth wouldnt they want u???
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