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If you could restart your life’s path on a new one, as far as education and a career were concerned, what would you choose?
I would choose an obstetrician.
What’s stopping you from now doing whatever it is you wish?
What’s stopping you from now doing whatever it is you wish?
She’s too busy chasing after her kids to do anything else.
Okay, mods. You approved the second thing I posted on this thread, but not the first. What was wrong with it. It was my answer to the question, “What would you like to be when you grow up?”
I answered, “A mommy.”
What’s wrong with that?
It isn’t deleted. It never came through. -95
haifagirl: When will you grow up and pursue that goal?
haifagirl: When will you grow up and pursue that goal?
Find me:
a) my zivug
b) a rabbi who will let me be a mommy by myself
shein: you probably didn’t mean it that way, but that wasn’t ‘shein’
ARWSF – “but I am too old, and too heimishe, and have too many kids and lots of brachas which I can’t trade”
Too old you’re not. No such thing as too Heimishe, in the NYC area.
The kids would be a problem, if there isn’t anybody to watch them. Maybe your husband and parents and in-laws can help out, if you can’t afford babysitting?
Also becoming an OB ain’t what you think it is, there is a lot of surgery involved. You could become a Certified Midwife. They basically don’t do any surgery, they just do check ups and regular deliveries. Also, the schooling is much less than a Doc.
Dentist
When I grow up I want to be a wise woman.
I want to be a child again when I grow up.
A car designer by day, a guitarist for a heavy metal band by night.
aries, you are already a wise woman.
i agree with mp about aries…if i could start anew i would be going to koilel full day which is impossible by now…
haifa what do you mean with a rabbi who lets u be a mommy by urself?
When I grow up I wanna be a triangle!!!!!
(heard from a kid for real)
A fiewman!
I’d be born to different parents
Goq, I’m so sorry, it is so sad but that is the truth. You can’t choose your parents, although parents do sometimes get to choose the kids. How ironic.
At first I was going to write Rav SHACH or another gadol but thank I realized I can’t Be them. I want to Be the best person I can be. The best eved Hashem I can be. I want to give it my ALL in this world!!
ty aries
Goq, that is sooooooooooooo painful. Wish I knew what to say to make it easier for you.
The only thing I can think of is that our neshama signs a “contract” before coming down to this world accepting all the challenges that it will go through. The neshama knows up there its tikun & how to best obtain it. It also prefers going through the hard stuff down here than up there. That’s part of why we’re supposed to bless Hashem for the tough stuff & not just the good (easier said than done).
Just have faith that you knew what you were doing before joining Planet Earth and that you had very good reasons for agreeing to it.
(You might think you were drunk up there accepting your lot in life but neshamos don’t drink…)
Hope this helps a little.
I want to be exactly what I am but would change some personality traits. but as a whole I think Im happy with who and what I am
very nicely put Ayc thank you!
Goq, I was going to use that one (a different father, specifically), but I then realized that perhaps this was the best thing for me. I may not see it now, but I hope I will eventually.
Physicians Assistant. Truth is I’m young and can go back to school, but I dont want to leave my kids with a babysitter for hours a day. Maybe when they are all in school a full day? But then IY”H I will have more babies… Im a little jealous of my friends who got married late and were able to finish their schooling before the responsibilities of kids and husband. (I got married and had my first child before I was 20)
So when is the right time for a frum woman to go to school?
a police car!vroom vroom!
ARWSF: About 5 years ago there was an article in one of the papers in Toronto about a frum woman with several children who fulfilled her dream of becoming a doctor. She commuted to a town about an hour away on a daily basis and her classes were arranged to accomodate her for Shabbat and the Yomtovim. If she did it, so can you.
When I was a wee little boy I dreamed about becoming a police man.
Then I realized there are very few Jewish policemen.
As a child, I realized I wanted to be a doctor.
Then I realized, there are very few frum doctors.
As a young lad, I wanted to be a rebbe in a yeshiva.
Then I found my self-confidence and realized that I should shoot for the stars.
Now I have reached a level where I dream the ultimate dream a Jewish boy can hope for:
A moderator for an orthodox Jewish website’s message board.
If money was not a consideration, and I needed to start a new carrear, I would be an tour guide. To places with limited plumbing, limited cell coverage, and limited people.
Minyan would pose a problem though, so for now, its just a pipe dream.
Fireman, or Policeman, or both!
I would love to be a lawyer it sounds so cool!
I want to be a toll booth collector.
haifa what do you mean with a rabbi who lets u be a mommy by urself?
I’m not prepared to do that without a written psak. My rabbi won’t say no, but he won’t say yes, either.
Believe me, I would choose not to get a BTL and go for a real Bachelor’s
does no one want to be a potato?
Interesting that so far no one has pointed out that the question,”What do you want to be?” is not the same question as ,”What do you want to do?”. Being a doctor or a plumber is a way to make a parnassah,but does not define who you are. In the secular world they don’t usually differentiate between the two…
I wish I could have gone to seminary in Israel.
(I wish I could have gone to seminary).
I wish I could have gone to grad school right after undergrad.
The things I would do over have more to do with how I handled dysfunctional family relationships, though.
ARWSF
In high school, a classmate’s mother decided to go to med school & follow her dream.
And she did.
My classmate had to learn to cook & do laundry and graduated with these newly discovered skills.
“but he won’t say yes, either”
But you yourself should say no. Being a single parent is no picnic
A husband and a father. An inspiration for klal Yisrael. Motivated for the right reasons to do the right thing and to continue to grow in my Yiddishkeit.
haifagirl said;
“My rabbi won’t say no, but he won’t say yes, either.”
What kind of rabbi is this? He wont say no?
Maybe i’m just confused as to your request?
Why not find a guy that is nice, kind, maybe not so handsome,
or settle in some other way, and marry him, (if you are considering whatever else u said) if u want it that bad why not settle a little. As long as he’s a good guy, what else do u need?
Best case you are happy, worst case you get divorced.
Then you still get what you want, halachically.
Just don’t get married with a plan to get divorced.
I hope i’m making myself clear, or else it may come out
sounding wrong. Chazal say, that for a woman, it is better to marry someone that isn’t her knight in shining armor,
than to stay alone. But it isn’t a direct quote.
I don’t know if the they had shining armor in those times.)
Maybe matte. 🙂
If time and stress was not a consideration, I’d want to be a doctor.
Right now I want to be a professor.
I know some goyim want to be an oscar mayer wiener
Restart life? Mine’s just beginning!!! 🙂 I’d like to be a MOMMY and a graphic designer!! but mommy will ALWAYS come first!
A rebbe once told me that the correct response to this question is..”toothpaste”. huh? every jew shoulds grow up to be the best eved hassem they can. how you put food on the table isnt you. how many blatt gemara you learn is you. so toothpaste is just as valid an answer as lawyer.(assuming that being toothpaste makes money)
A good advertisement for living a Torah life; a nice person with good middos, known for making other people feel happy. (I’d better live a long long time to achieve this.)
Why not find a guy that is nice, kind, maybe not so handsome,
or settle in some other way, and marry him, (if you are considering whatever else u said) if u want it that bad why not settle a little. As long as he’s a good guy, what else do u need?
Fine. Not a problem. Find someone. There aren’t so many single guys out there. And of the ones who are, most don’t want me. In general I don’t say no to a shidduch, but the men do.
But you yourself should say no. Being a single parent is no picnic
Spoken by someone who isn’t childless. And you should never know what that’s like.
haifagirl, would you consider foster care?
im having a problem to understand whats going on with shiduchim nowadays. haifa says men say no. why is that??? i know its the wrong thread maybe i should open new one. haifa why on earth wouldnt they want u???
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